Matt Tuckson – Faith & Anxiety – Class 2 – Processing Anxiety

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All right, I’ll give you guys a
minute.

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A couple minutes to finish up
passing around the thing that

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way.
It’s not distracting.

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Well, we’re going to class.
I’m sorry.

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I’m not going to die.
Do this on the fly.

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I’m out of my material.
Like, I can’t do it on the fly.

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All right, where are we at this?
OK, good.

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We’re back there.
All right, Sweet.

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We’ll go ahead and get started.
Hello again, brothers and

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sisters.
Hello.

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Hi there.
So in our last class, we really

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dealt with the relationship
between anxiety and faith and

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really the implications on that,
of how it should relate to our

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moral framework, of how it
should relate to how we evolve

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guilt and things like that.
I mean we’re going to start off

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this class dealing with a bit of
a recap.

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So we’re going to kind of re
walk through that in a very kind

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of hopefully 345 minute kind of
shortened version.

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Once we do that, we’re going to
spend a little bit of time

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dealing with thinking about how
do we start processing anxiety

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and through that we’re going to
have to understand a bit about

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kind of emotions and how our
brain works.

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So we’re going to be dealing
with some science philosophy

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kind of thoughts and we’ll be
dealing with that for a bit.

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And then we’re going to get into
a lot of biblical examples.

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We’re going to get some real
practical steps.

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You’ll see some of those on your
sheet now and we’ll talk about

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those when we get there, some
real practical steps on how do

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you deal with anxiety.
And we’re going to see how David

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does it, because he does it a
lot.

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He was seemed to be a very
anxious and emotional person, at

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least in his Psalms.
And so we’re going to see how

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does he deal with his anxieties,
how does he deal with his

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struggles, his trials.
So that’s going to be the goal

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for today.
And again, the ultimate

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intention of the whole series,
the whole weekend really is

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going to come down to this class
where it’s.

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I want to show you guys the
agency that you have in this

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battle.
I want you guys to be able to

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walk away and say I know what to
do in the battle of anxiety,

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actually know the steps to take.
I know how to go through this.

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It’s not something that’s
happening to me that I have to

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deal with.
It’s something that I can

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actually work on and work
through.

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That’s really the goal of kind
of this class.

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It’s dealing with a bit of a
recap.

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Remember we talked about the
relationship between anxiety and

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faith, and we used Matthew 6 as
kind of like our main focus

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point of that class.
That was when Jesus says, oh ye

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of little faith, the people who
are anxious about things that

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make sense why they’re anxious
about them.

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It’s food, it’s clothing, it’s
very base needs.

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And we looked at how the reason
Jesus says that or can say that

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it’s because of values.
It’s because, well, these people

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were missing a value.
They were missing the fact that

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God values them and they were
prioritizing food and shelter

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more than their understanding of
the truth.

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And things are about God.
They essentially were miss

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evaluating things because of
their anxieties.

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And the same is true for us.
When we are anxious about

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various different things, our
anxieties tell us to miss

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evaluate things around us.
They say whatever we’re anxious

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about is the most important
thing top of the value system.

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This is because anxiety comes
from deep personal cares.

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The reason I’m anxious about
something is that I care about

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it or something related to it.
And so that’s really why faith

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and anxiety connect.
It’s because of values.

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That’s the connector, That’s the
middle bit that’s often times

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missing when we think about it.
And then from there we went to

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OK, well how do we think about
guilt in this relationship?

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Because when we connect anxiety
to faith, often times the kind

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of side effect of that is you
feel really guilty every time

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you have anxiety.
And that’s not really the goal.

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The goal isn’t to feel guilty.
The goal is to work through

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anxiety.
So how do I think about guilt?

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With this?
I went through how anxiety is

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similar to other temptations.
We likened it to anger or lust,

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and we really saw how when you
liken it to those other ideas,

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OK, anxiety itself isn’t a sin
and I shouldn’t feel guilty

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about it.
However, I do have a

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responsibility to work through
it in the same way that if we’re

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angry, we have a responsibility
to work through it.

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Not to sit in it, not to stay in
that space, that space of anger,

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but to try to work out of it, to
pluck the the eye out.

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That causes us to sin, to pluck
the temptation out.

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And that’s hard.
We’re going to look at how do we

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kind of do that in this class?
That’s the goal.

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It’s not to feel guilty because
of that.

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The anxiety, the anger and the
lust, That’s not just make you

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feel guilty, but it is supposed
to say, I need to get out of

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this.
And on top of that, there is

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times where guilt is
appropriate.

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So if anger acting on it, you
know, punching somebody because

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they stepped in your toe, that’s
that’s you should feel guilty

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about that, that you sinned, you
acted on your anger.

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Likewise, sometimes we act on
our anxieties.

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So if we’re anxious about a
social situation with the

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example we gave, a social
situation where we’re worried

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about, you know, being
embarrassed or what have you,

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and we kind of prioritize that
fear, that anxiety over helping

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a friend in need, well, that’s
acting on our anxiety.

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That’s acting on our MIS
evaluation of what’s important

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and how important things are.
So that would be a state where,

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yeah, actually, guilt is kind of
appropriate here, but it’s

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appropriate to make you realize,
hey, I don’t actually want to

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act like that.
I don’t want to be like that.

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I want to actually prioritize
the things of God and prioritize

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being righteous and all that.
And so, OK, I need to work on

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this.
And once you say I’m going to

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work on it, the guilt has
fulfilled its purpose.

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We don’t carry that guilt
anymore.

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It’s done its job, and we can
now keep working at the anxiety

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on the temptation level, not
focusing on the transgression

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level.
So how do we do that?

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That’s the question of this
class.

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How do we actually work on
anxiety?

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And to do that, we’re going to
have to work through a few kind

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of ideas of how the brain works
about how emotions come to be.

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So this is the the science,
philosophy sort of stuff that I

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was talking about earlier.
See, all emotions, all of them,

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come from a combination of a few
things that come from your

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beliefs about the world, your
values and how they interact

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with one another.
I don’t mean beliefs about the

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world, as in, like, do you
believe in God?

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I mean beliefs about the world
is like, do you believe this

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chair will hold you up if you
sit on it?

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That’s a belief.
I believe it’s true.

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But if I were to sit on that
chair and it falls, I’d have an

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emotion.
I’d be like, whoa, that was

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surprising.
And that hurt.

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And, you know, I’d be having a
different emotion if I sit on it

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and that doesn’t happen.
I have a very different emotion.

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OK, this happened.
This was normal.

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This is what I expected.
Essentially, our beliefs are

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what lead to our emotions.
Another example of this is a bit

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more of a complex one than
sitting on a chair.

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I’ll use a real life one.
That luckily hasn’t happened,

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but it’s not too far off of what
could happen.

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If Cilla and I were planning to
go on a date and I forgot I

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forgot the date.
It hasn’t happened, but I can

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very easily see it happening.
Yeah, that’s just, that’s just

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me.
So and I forget.

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I completely forget.
Don’t show up to the date.

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I’m at home.
Like, where’s Silla?

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Like, what’s going on?
A few things have happened here

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and she reacts.
Like, I’m really angry.

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She’s frustrated, you know?
Why did he miss the date?

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A few things have happened and a
lot of it is because of the

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beliefs that Silla carries in
that moment.

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Silla likely believes in this
moment.

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She’s really angry and
frustrated at me.

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Well, that I should have
remembered the date.

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That’s of belief.
He should remember this.

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OK, that’s 11 belief hold she’s
holding.

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Another belief is that the lack
of remembering suggests a lack

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of importance.
If I didn’t remember, it’s

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because I don’t think she’s
important, and that would be

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another belief that she’s
holding in that scenario that’s

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leading to emotions.
And then there’s another belief

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that let me find it real quick,
that the date was important

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enough to her that me
forgetting, which also implied

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to her that I don’t care, is
upsetting.

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The other day, it wasn’t
important to her.

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Me not caring about it wouldn’t
matter.

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But because she cares about it,
the fact that I forgot it, it

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hurts.
And so we see how there’s three

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beliefs at least just in this
One example, one, that, well,

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she she thought that I should
remember the date. 2.

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That me forgetting the date
implies that it’s not important.

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And three, it’s important to
her, and so she wants it to be

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important to me.
These three beliefs that lead to

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an emotion, disappointment,
anger, frustration.

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However, what if we change some
of these beliefs?

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What happens?
What if, for example, I’ve had a

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lot of concussions in my life?
I have.

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And This is why I say it’s not
too far off.

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And I forget it because I, you
know, I am actually forgetful

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because of my concussions.
And instead of believing that I

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should remember it, Silla
believes sometimes he forgets

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things because he has had a lot
of concussions.

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OK, and what if instead of
believing that it’s not

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important to me, it’s actually
that no, he has concussions and

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sometimes he forgets things,
even if they’re important to

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him, that forgetting it doesn’t
actually relate to importance

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for him.
And lastly, that she has a core

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belief that she is important to
me and she has that truly

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ingrained it.
And if we look at those beliefs

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in scenario instead of going,
I’m really mad at him because he

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forgot this date.
That’s really important to me.

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The take away would be I’m a bit
disappointed because I was

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looking forward to the date.
It was something that slowly

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wanting to happen, but she
wouldn’t be thinking he doesn’t

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care about me.
She wouldn’t be thinking how

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dare he is a terrible husband.
All these kinds of things it

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would be this is one of those
really frustrating things that

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happens because of his
concussions.

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Maybe we can like try to figure
out a system of like maybe using

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a calendar or something to help
him remember.

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It would go from this deep
personal attack on her as a, as

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a like a, as a wife to a.
This is a a frustrating,

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practical thing that we have to
deal with.

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We need to deal with it.
The the emotional output changes

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when you tweak the beliefs.
And the reason I’m getting into

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this is because this is also how
we’re going to deal with

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anxiety, because anxiety is an
emotional output and that comes

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from ingrained beliefs, from
beliefs that we have about the

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world.
And so we’re going to look at

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that as we keep digging.
But before we get into that,

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we’ll deal with that until we
get to our steps here.

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And a bit before we deal with
that, there’s one more thing I

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want to cover, and that is some
signs about how your brain

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works.
This stuff is super interesting

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to me.
So your brain works in a way, a

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bunch of electrical currents
happening.

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And when an electrical current
happens from point to point in

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your brain, a little divot
happens in your brain is a way

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to think about it.
And it’s so small that doing it

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once really won’t.
You won’t see anything.

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But they’ve actually been able
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If you do it over and over and
over again, the same electrical

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current, that it physically
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has physically changed.
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electrical currents follow the
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And so when you create a divot
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pathway in your brain, and
because you’ve done the same

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thing over and over and over and
over again, when you’re not

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thinking about what you’re
doing, you’re likely to do that

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same thing.
That’s how habits are formed.

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That’s how patterns are formed.
Even mannerisms come from this

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idea.
The problem is that this also

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effects emotions, and they’re
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We’ve had anxiety for years.
We’ve got a really deep divot.

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And then when we aren’t thinking
with intention, we’re just

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living our life, kind of going
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because that’s what we’ve done
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but kind of just by going
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divots.
I think a way to think about it

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in another picture, if you’re if
you’re struggling to imagine

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this, think about our brain like
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And plus it’s a soft metal, it’s
a block and every time you do

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something you’re like running a
credit card over that block.

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You’re swiping, you do it once,
the block doesn’t change, it’s

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still a flat surface.
You do it 100 times, you got a

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small little divot, you go to
1000 times the credit cards like

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an inch deep.
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need to do is we need to
intentionally change that,

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change that divot, because that
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and we didn’t fix that.
So you have to pick up the

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credit card, twist it and start
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The issue is if we’re stop being
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of back to being on autopilot,
just living life, you’re going

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to go the path of least
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And the other challenge with
this is when you go that path of

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least resistance, you’re
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You’re not just going it, you’re
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I say this class is going to be

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a lot easier said than done
because you have to live your

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life with intention all the
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That’s hard.
That’s exhausting.

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That’s what we have to do.
So how do we take all these

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ideas about how our brain works
and about how emotions stem from

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beliefs and turn that into steps
to process anxiety?

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How do we take all these ideas
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thinking?
And that’s where we got some

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steps on your handouts that
we’re going to walk through and

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think about.
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really anything but an anxiety
in our case is recognize that

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you have it.
That’s step one.

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This is actually a lot harder
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When I was going through my
anxiety and kind of the story I

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shared in the last class, it
took me like months to realize,

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oh, I have anxiety.
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realize, like, when do I have
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I was able to realize like, oh,
as a whole I’m going through

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anxiety moments.
But it took me like months to

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realize, oh, this is this
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I’m.
I’m having anxiety right now.

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This is the state I’m in, the
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And one of the tools that a
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gave me that blew my mind how
useful it was, was to think

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about your physical, what you’re
physically feeling in those

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moments.
So for me, it was I get really

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cold when I have anxiety, I get
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I get a pain in the stomach and
then in extreme case I get like,

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don’t want to eat lots of
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That’s kind of what happens to
me with anxiety.

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And once I was able to realize
that for me, cold is the first

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thing that happens and I would
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feverish, but I wasn’t sick.
But that’s anxiety.

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I’m starting to get into that
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Gotcha.
This is, this is where I need to

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start thinking about stuff.
It took me like months to get to

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that point.
This can take some people

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longer, some people shorter,
some people are a lot more in

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tune with their emotions than
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They can get there faster.
The point is that that’s kind of

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step one.
And then once you’re there to be

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honest, because your anxiety is
telling you to care about

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something a lot and you’re going
to be honest about what that is,

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that’s not always going to be
comfortable.

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Sometimes the thing that we care
about in that moment, we don’t

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want to care about.
I don’t want to care about this,

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but you do.
That’s what the anxiety is

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telling you to care about.
And so be honest with that and

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be honest to God about that.
So God, this is what I care

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about right now.
I don’t really want to care

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about this.
This is what I care about.

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And for me, with relationships,
that was saying, God, I really

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clearly want this relationship
to work more than I care about

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most of the things.
But I don’t want to stay here.

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This isn’t where I want to be,
but this is where I’m at.

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I need to work on this So it’s
recognize you have anxiety and

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then being honest with God about
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And they kind of digging into
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you’re putting on the top of the
value system?

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What is that care?
What is that thing that you

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really care about?
That can also be really

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challenging.
Sometimes what you care about

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isn’t readily obvious.
I think social anxiety is one of

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the biggest ones with this.
We’re almost I I very rarely

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have heard like the reason
somebody’s socially anxious is

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because they don’t like
interacting with people, period.

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Usually it’s like a fear that’s
related to that, or it’s a a

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challenge related to it.
It’s not just interactions with

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people scare me because they’re
scary people.

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It’s more like I’m nervous about
maybe socially blundering, being

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made fun of, being embarrassed,
all of these kinds of things.

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readily apparent what is the

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thing that you care about
deeply.

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And so you have to dig into that
and have some self examination

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time to think, What is that?
And then Step 2 is think about

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who God is.
What do you know about him?

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What might he think, feel, or do
in this scenario?

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This is where you’re comparing
where you’re currently at with

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where God’s values would be.
You’re comparing your current

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value system, what you care
about when anxiety is telling

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you to mis evaluate things to
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What does he care about?
How would he look at this

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scenario, My personal situation,
That’s me going, OK, well, I

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clearly care about this
relationship, but how would God

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think about this relationship?
Is this a relationship that God

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won’t be in?
Is this a relationship I should

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be in?
So that’s Step 2 is comparing

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with what you know about God and
kind of the truth.

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Step three is kind of a an
addition to Step 2.

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It’s kind of a second Part 2,
which is think about what God

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has done for you in the past in
relation to whatever you’re

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dealing with with anxiety.
This is a good example of, this

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is like financial anxiety.
If God has worked with you in

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the past, God has helped you
through financial struggles in

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the past.
Well, that’s something that you

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can rely on and think back to
and go, God’s helped me through

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here.
So if God’s helped me through

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here in the past, it’s likely he
will in the future.

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It’s likely he’ll continue
helping me through.

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And it’s not always 100% true.
But we can use our history with

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God as a piece of information,
similar to the Bible and say

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that that means that God’s
working with me in this way.

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This is a pattern of what I
understand about who God is.

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And then lastly, this is the
hard step.

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We got to twist the credit card.
We got to change the electric

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current.
We choose to act in accordance

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with what we know about God and
His values and in line with what

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he’s done in the past, even
though you don’t feel like it.

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Because, like I said, emotions
follow this process.

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I have core belief something
happens in the world, causes the

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emotion, and that emotion leads
to anxiety.

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We’re having to go the opposite
direction because we can’t just

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change our internal beliefs.
That’s really hard.

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You can’t just do that.
But the way you can work on

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them, the way you can work on
changing your internal beliefs,

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is by acting as if you believe
the thing you want to believe.

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You act in a way as if you
believe it.

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And eventually your electrical
occurrence will literally change

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so that you believe it.
That’s how you can quite

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literally transform the mind.
It’s a very little processes in

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your brain physically changes.
And it’s absolutely fascinating

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to me.
This is how habits are formed.

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And you say, I want to form this
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You intentionally say, OK, I’m
going to do this thing at 8:00

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AM every morning.
I’m going to make my bed.

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And at first, you wake up and
you’re like, I really don’t want

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to do this, But by the end of
it, you’re like, this is just

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normal.
This is just part of life.

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We make our bed at 8:00 AM and
that’s because you’ve

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intentionally built in a new
electrical current, a new habit.

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This is a bit deeper than that.
It’s not so much just a what are

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you physically doing, you know,
making up the bed?

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It’s one of the internal
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So for example, for me, my
internal belief that I had wrong

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was that whatever relationship
what I was in mattered more than

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anything else.
That was my internal belief.

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I also had an internal belief
that relationships could fall

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apart.
At any moment.

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I had to change both of these
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My relationship with a specific
person doesn’t matter.

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More than anything else, our
relationship with God does.

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And so that actually has to be
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And on top of that,
relationships typically don’t

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fall apart and it randomly
because one thing went wrong and

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so I had to work on and still
I’m working on internalizing

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those beliefs.
The way I have to do that is by

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saying, OK, this is where I’m
struggling.

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This is my starting place.
Have anxiety about this.

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The truth says and God says, and
the Bible says and my history

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with God says these things
aren’t true.

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These internal beliefs aren’t
accurate.

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OK, so I’m going to live my life
as if I believe the truth

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internally, as if I feel the
truth is true, even though I

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don’t necessarily do it in that
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I There were many times in
relationships, in even my

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relationship with Silla when we
were dating, where I felt like

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this could break up at any
moment.

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But I’m going to choose to lead
the relationship and be A at a

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time boyfriend in a way, as if I
don’t think that.

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So I’m going to have the hard
conversation that I don’t want

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to have because it’s kind of
kind of confrontational and

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awkward with her.
Even though I’m like freaking

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out that this might break up the
relationship because I know

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that’s not a true statement.
It’s not actually true that I

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might break up the relationship
and that actually I can have

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this conversation with her, but
I didn’t want to.

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My feelings weren’t there yet.
My beliefs weren’t there yet.

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You start acting as if you
believe it and eventually you

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internally believe it.
I think Silla will tell you I

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internally believe that now I’m
happy to have some confronting

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conversations if need be.
And it does get easier.

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It starts off at a really hard
spot because you’re sitting

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there with this internalized
belief or who knows how long

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you’ve had it.
For me, I’ve had it since I was

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13, and if I’m lucky that I
caught it in my, like, older

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teens.
Some people don’t catch it for

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00:20:55,880 –> 00:21:00,080
decades, and that’s a really
deep divot that’s been happening

436
00:21:00,080 –> 00:21:02,000
in your life.
Repetition over and over and

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00:21:02,000 –> 00:21:05,040
over again in your brain, that’s
a pattern that’s been really

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solidified.
And to to try to change that

439
00:21:08,440 –> 00:21:12,480
will take a lot of time.
But it’s where your agency is,

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00:21:13,000 –> 00:21:18,480
it’s where your power is.
You can actually work on why do

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00:21:18,480 –> 00:21:20,600
I have anxiety?
How do I change these anxieties?

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00:21:20,600 –> 00:21:22,880
How do I make it so these
anxieties hopefully, eventually

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00:21:22,880 –> 00:21:25,920
go away?
Unfortunately, human nature is

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doing the opposite.
Human nature likes those divots

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it’s made.
Human nature likes those

446
00:21:31,120 –> 00:21:33,520
patterns that you formed.
And so that’s why our default

447
00:21:33,520 –> 00:21:37,400
will be go back to the pattern,
reinforce it, stay in this place

448
00:21:37,400 –> 00:21:39,840
of anxiety, and that’s where the
battle is.

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00:21:39,960 –> 00:21:43,680
While yes, I will say some of
us, many of us, I think you can

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00:21:43,680 –> 00:21:46,360
truly transform your brain to a
point where anxiety goes from

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wherever it is currently for you
to a much lesser point,

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00:21:49,040 –> 00:21:52,240
potentially even gone.
I don’t think that’s true for

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00:21:52,240 –> 00:21:53,960
everyone.
It will get easier.

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I think it’s true that it will
get easier for everyone who goes

455
00:21:55,960 –> 00:21:59,160
through these processes, but it
won’t go away for many of us.

456
00:21:59,280 –> 00:22:03,040
In similar fashion, how anger
problems for some people never

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fully go away or lust for some
people never fully goes away.

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And you have to battle this day
in and day out to give it to a

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00:22:10,560 –> 00:22:13,280
manageable level and the goals
almost keep it manageable as

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opposed to eradicate it
entirely.

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That’s just how the battle of
human nature works.

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Unfortunately that is true.
But we both have a

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responsibility and the ability
to actually do the battle.

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And So what we’re going to do
now is we’re going to read

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through these Psalms.
So you have it in front of you.

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We’re going to read through
them.

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And I want to show how David
actually applies these steps in

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his songs.
And we’re going to, let’s see,

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what can we learn from these
songs?

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What can we take away?
And also kind of how does, how

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does David go about it?
I think the way David goes about

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it in these different Psalms,
he’s focusing on different

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aspects of the of the steps.
So let’s go ahead and walk

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through that.
So the first step, again, we’re

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dealing with Psalm 31.
The first step is to recognize

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what you’re feeling, how we’re
currently valuing things, what

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hurts, what are your fears?
And be honest with God.

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And we see that in a few
different places in the song.

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I’m going to read this in step
order, not verse order.

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So I’m going to be hopping
around a bit.

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There’s actually a point with
that later that we’ll talk

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00:23:13,320 –> 00:23:16,080
about, But the first time this
comes up is in verse two.

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Incline your ear to me.
So he’s saying, God, I want to

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00:23:18,840 –> 00:23:22,400
talk to you, I want to have this
conversation, and then hops down

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into verse 9.
For I am in distress.

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My eye is wasted from grief for
my soul and my body also for my

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00:23:30,560 –> 00:23:33,200
life is spent with sorrow, my
years with sighing.

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My strength fails because of my
iniquity, and my bones waste

489
00:23:36,120 –> 00:23:38,240
away because of all my
adversaries.

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00:23:38,280 –> 00:23:41,520
I have become a reproach,
especially to my neighbors, and

491
00:23:41,520 –> 00:23:43,520
an object of dread to my
acquaintances.

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Those who see me in the street
flee from me.

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00:23:46,760 –> 00:23:48,560
I’ve been forgotten like one who
was dead.

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00:23:49,120 –> 00:23:51,520
I’ve become like a broken
vessel, for I hear the

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whispering of many, terror on
every side as they scheme

496
00:23:55,280 –> 00:23:58,280
together against me, as they
plot to take my life.

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Now this is emotional language.
This isn’t logical statements.

498
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Most of these things, if you
look at them factually, aren’t

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true.
David’s not.

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His bones aren’t wasting away.
Literally, he’s feeling like

501
00:24:11,320 –> 00:24:13,920
they’re wasting away.
He wasn’t forgotten.

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00:24:13,920 –> 00:24:18,680
We talk about him now.
He was never forgotten, but he

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00:24:18,680 –> 00:24:20,520
feels like he is.
These are feelings.

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00:24:20,920 –> 00:24:24,200
This is David being really
honest with God, saying this is

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where I’m at, this is what I’m
feeling.

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This is the current state I’m
in.

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We need to do the same brothers
and sisters, be able to go to

508
00:24:32,880 –> 00:24:35,760
God and say God, I’m not feeling
good right now.

509
00:24:36,160 –> 00:24:38,360
I’m feeling really anxious about
this thing and it’s really

510
00:24:38,360 –> 00:24:40,440
important to me.
This is where I’m at.

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Sometimes these feelings or
these feelings will have really,

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really blunt statements.
And we’ll see some of those in

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our later songs.
Step 2, step up.

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Thank you.
Step 2 is thinking about who?

515
00:25:02,920 –> 00:25:03,720
Yeah.
Thank you.

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00:25:03,720 –> 00:25:08,280
Thanks.
Step 2 is thinking about who God

517
00:25:08,280 –> 00:25:11,960
is, what we know about him, what
might, what we might, what he

518
00:25:11,960 –> 00:25:13,960
might feel or do in the scenario
we’re dealing with.

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00:25:13,960 –> 00:25:16,000
I mean, this comes up also in a
few places.

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So we have in verse three and
the last half, for your name’s

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sake, you lead and guide me.
OK, so David’s established that

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00:25:24,640 –> 00:25:27,080
God is a leader and a guider.
He wants to follow him.

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Verse 7.
The last half because you have

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00:25:30,760 –> 00:25:34,120
seen my affliction and you have
known the stress of my soul and

525
00:25:34,120 –> 00:25:36,360
you have not delivered me into
the hand of the enemy, you set

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my foot in a broad place.
This is what God has done for me

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00:25:40,000 –> 00:25:42,560
in the past, and this is who my
God is He.

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00:25:42,720 –> 00:25:45,000
He sees me.
He sees the trial I’m going

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00:25:45,000 –> 00:25:47,280
through.
On top of that, he hasn’t

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00:25:47,280 –> 00:25:48,560
delivered me into the hand of
the enemy.

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This hasn’t been what’s happened
in verse 15.

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00:25:52,760 –> 00:25:56,280
My times are in your hand.
He understands that God’s in

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00:25:56,280 –> 00:25:58,760
control of the situation.
He’s in control of what’s going

534
00:25:58,760 –> 00:26:03,160
on with David, that God is in
control, and verses 19 and 20,

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00:26:04,000 –> 00:26:06,640
oh, how abundant in your
goodness, which you have stored

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00:26:06,640 –> 00:26:10,520
up for those who fear you and
worked for those who take refuge

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00:26:10,520 –> 00:26:13,360
in you, in the sight of the
children of mankind.

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00:26:13,600 –> 00:26:16,560
In the cover of your presence.
You hide them from the plots of

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00:26:16,560 –> 00:26:19,640
men, you store them in your
shelter from the strife of

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00:26:19,640 –> 00:26:21,840
tongues.
Again, he’s thinking about how

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does God think about people who
are in distress, people who are

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00:26:25,800 –> 00:26:29,600
in in a massive trial.
Well, God is a God of abundant

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00:26:29,600 –> 00:26:31,680
goodness and he store he has
stuff.

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00:26:31,800 –> 00:26:33,880
Sorry.
Yeah, goodness is stored up for

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00:26:33,880 –> 00:26:36,960
those who fear and who have
worked for and have take refuge

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00:26:36,960 –> 00:26:39,000
in Yahweh.
This is who God is.

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00:26:39,000 –> 00:26:40,520
And David’s considering who is
God.

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What does what does he think
about these types of situations?

549
00:26:44,640 –> 00:26:46,120
He also thinks about his history
with God.

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00:26:46,120 –> 00:26:47,960
He does this in verses 21 and
22.

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00:26:48,480 –> 00:26:51,720
Blessed be Yahweh, for he has
wonderfully shown his steadfast

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00:26:51,720 –> 00:26:53,480
love to me.
When I was in a besieged city,

553
00:26:54,040 –> 00:26:55,840
back in that time, I was in a
busy city.

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00:26:56,120 –> 00:26:57,920
God saved me.
So he’s thinking about that and

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00:26:57,920 –> 00:27:01,040
considering that in his current
trial and then the last half of

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00:27:01,040 –> 00:27:03,720
verse 22.
But you have heard the voice of

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00:27:03,720 –> 00:27:06,760
my pleas for mercy.
When I cried for you and help in

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00:27:06,760 –> 00:27:10,000
the past, Yahweh heard me.
It means he’s hearing me now.

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00:27:10,760 –> 00:27:12,720
He’s thinking about his past
relationship with God, his

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00:27:12,720 –> 00:27:15,240
experience in his relationship
with God, and applying that to

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00:27:15,240 –> 00:27:19,800
his current anxiety, his current
struggle, his current trial, and

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00:27:19,800 –> 00:27:23,400
then the hard step, the step of
changing our pattern.

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00:27:24,800 –> 00:27:27,040
This happens kind of throughout
the entire Psalm because he kind

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00:27:27,040 –> 00:27:29,920
of goes back and forth a bit,
but in the verse one, and you

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00:27:29,920 –> 00:27:32,920
owe Yahweh, Do I take refuge?
That’s a choice.

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00:27:33,360 –> 00:27:35,360
We don’t naturally take refuge
in God.

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00:27:35,680 –> 00:27:37,720
We naturally try to fix things
ourselves and get safe

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00:27:37,720 –> 00:27:40,120
ourselves.
But he says I will choose to

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00:27:40,120 –> 00:27:45,720
take refuge in Yahweh verse 2.
Be a rock of refuge for me, a

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00:27:45,720 –> 00:27:48,920
strong fortress to save me.
Verse 5.

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Into your hand, I commit my
spirit.

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00:27:51,360 –> 00:27:54,560
You have remembered me.
Oh Yahweh, faithful God.

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00:27:54,800 –> 00:27:56,800
These are choices David is
making.

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00:27:57,320 –> 00:27:59,600
These are not.
This is actually not how he

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00:27:59,600 –> 00:28:01,560
feels in this moment.
We know that from the blue text.

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00:28:01,680 –> 00:28:05,120
He does not feel these ways.
But he’s choosing to act these

577
00:28:05,120 –> 00:28:07,200
ways.
He’s choosing to live his life

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00:28:07,560 –> 00:28:11,320
as if he feels the feelings that
he’s or feels the the statements

579
00:28:11,320 –> 00:28:13,320
he’s been making about who God
is.

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00:28:14,040 –> 00:28:16,480
Verse 14.
I trust in Yahweh.

581
00:28:16,600 –> 00:28:23,960
I say you are my God and then at
the end verses 23 and 22 love

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00:28:23,960 –> 00:28:26,480
Yahweh.
All you Saints and then verse

583
00:28:26,480 –> 00:28:29,360
24.
Be strong and let your heart

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00:28:29,360 –> 00:28:31,880
take courage all you who wait
for Yahweh.

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00:28:33,240 –> 00:28:36,160
What you see from this, brothers
and sisters, is a few things.

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00:28:36,160 –> 00:28:39,560
One, these steps are mixed
throughout the Psalms.

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00:28:40,560 –> 00:28:43,560
There are multiple, multiple
Psalms that follow this pattern

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00:28:44,040 –> 00:28:46,240
of someone’s dealing with a
serious trial.

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00:28:46,480 –> 00:28:48,520
I’ve picked out a few that are
dealing with a mixture of

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00:28:48,520 –> 00:28:50,040
anxiety and and actually
depression.

591
00:28:50,840 –> 00:28:52,520
I’ve picked out a few that are
dealing with those.

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00:28:52,760 –> 00:28:55,040
But multiple trials are brought
up in the Psalms and they follow

593
00:28:55,040 –> 00:28:58,040
this pattern where the psalmist
will express themselves and say

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00:28:58,040 –> 00:29:01,640
this is what I’m feeling.
It’s blunt, it’s honest, it’s

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00:29:01,720 –> 00:29:04,880
it’s really, really raw.
It’s kind of a jarring in some

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00:29:04,880 –> 00:29:07,560
cases, like Are you sure you’re
allowed to say that And we’ll

597
00:29:07,560 –> 00:29:09,920
see that especially in the next
song we get into, that’s the

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00:29:09,920 –> 00:29:12,480
case.
But then after that, they say,

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00:29:12,480 –> 00:29:15,600
OK, I’ve expressed where I’m at.
What does God think about the

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00:29:15,600 –> 00:29:17,000
situation?
Who is God?

601
00:29:17,160 –> 00:29:19,840
What kind of God do I serve?
Who is Yahweh?

602
00:29:20,040 –> 00:29:22,320
This is where we think about the
Bible and the Word.

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00:29:22,520 –> 00:29:24,720
We bring up all the principles
that we know about God in the

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00:29:24,720 –> 00:29:27,000
scenario, and we think, what
would God do?

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00:29:27,000 –> 00:29:30,000
What would Christ do?
How do we bring that into this?

606
00:29:30,200 –> 00:29:32,680
What does my relationship with
God say about how he’s dealt

607
00:29:32,680 –> 00:29:35,800
with me in the past?
And then lastly, it’s the step

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00:29:35,920 –> 00:29:40,720
of I choose to act faithfully.
I choose to act as if I value

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00:29:40,720 –> 00:29:44,360
the way God values, as if I
don’t have this anxiety, even

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00:29:44,360 –> 00:29:47,120
though I do.
I’m not saying the emotional

611
00:29:47,120 –> 00:29:48,840
will change when you do that.
It won’t.

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00:29:48,840 –> 00:29:51,560
Especially the first time.
There’s not a situation where

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00:29:51,560 –> 00:29:54,560
you’re like, well, I feel better
and you can just get on with

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00:29:54,560 –> 00:29:56,240
your day.
That’s not how it works.

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00:29:56,240 –> 00:29:59,480
But the first time you do it,
you’re not going to have an

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00:29:59,480 –> 00:30:03,000
emotional change at all.
The 100th time you do it, you’ll

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00:30:03,000 –> 00:30:05,840
start seeing a change because
that’s the process of

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00:30:05,840 –> 00:30:09,120
transforming the brain.
It’s slow, it’s exhausting at

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times, but it’s intentional.
That’s something we have to do

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00:30:12,880 –> 00:30:15,960
day and in day out.
I think also a lot of the the

621
00:30:15,960 –> 00:30:18,920
time it’s useful to kind of
reflect on these situations.

622
00:30:18,920 –> 00:30:20,480
You know, it’s definitely
something you want to put in

623
00:30:20,480 –> 00:30:21,960
practice when we’re in the
moment of anxiety.

624
00:30:21,960 –> 00:30:25,600
But it’s a lot more practical to
put or put into practice a lot

625
00:30:25,600 –> 00:30:29,640
of these ideas before and after
anxiety, when we’re in places of

626
00:30:29,800 –> 00:30:32,240
not heightened emotions we can
think through.

627
00:30:32,520 –> 00:30:35,600
OK, I seem to be entering states
in my life where I’m anxious

628
00:30:35,600 –> 00:30:38,200
about this.
I don’t want to be anxious about

629
00:30:38,200 –> 00:30:39,080
that.
I don’t actually think that’s

630
00:30:39,080 –> 00:30:41,960
something I should prioritize in
my life, but I seem to feel that

631
00:30:41,960 –> 00:30:43,760
way in various different
moments.

632
00:30:44,120 –> 00:30:46,440
Why?
What are the beliefs that I seem

633
00:30:46,440 –> 00:30:48,680
to hold that put me in that
scenario?

634
00:30:48,800 –> 00:30:50,720
What do I feel?
What’s getting me to the point

635
00:30:50,720 –> 00:30:54,560
where I care about it that high?
And then to reflect and say,

636
00:30:54,560 –> 00:30:56,720
well, what does God think?
How should I act in those

637
00:30:56,720 –> 00:30:57,960
moments?
Gotcha.

638
00:30:57,960 –> 00:31:00,600
This is my plan moving forward.
And then try.

639
00:31:00,680 –> 00:31:03,480
It’ll be hard, but try to put
that in practice when you’re

640
00:31:03,480 –> 00:31:06,200
feeling the anxiety.
Now, that’s hard.

641
00:31:06,480 –> 00:31:08,480
Not saying it’s easy.
That’s not my intention to say

642
00:31:08,480 –> 00:31:11,560
it’s easy, but that is the way
that we go about transforming

643
00:31:11,560 –> 00:31:13,400
our brain.
It is possible.

644
00:31:13,480 –> 00:31:17,760
It is where your agency is in
this battle and this isn’t a one

645
00:31:17,760 –> 00:31:19,400
or one time and we’re done
thing.

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00:31:19,400 –> 00:31:20,960
Like I said, this is something
that we have to put into

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practice over and over and over
again.

648
00:31:24,200 –> 00:31:27,280
It’s really the life of a life
of someone in the truth.

649
00:31:27,560 –> 00:31:30,360
It’s like I’m going to try to
change from this person of flesh

650
00:31:30,360 –> 00:31:34,080
and human nature, which includes
anxiety, to somebody who is

651
00:31:34,120 –> 00:31:37,760
perfect the goal, and we don’t
reach that until truly until the

652
00:31:37,760 –> 00:31:39,920
judgement.
But that’s really the goal and

653
00:31:39,920 –> 00:31:43,000
part of that is to also lose
temptations like anxiety, anger

654
00:31:43,000 –> 00:31:45,280
and lust.
Doesn’t ever happen until truly

655
00:31:45,280 –> 00:31:48,320
until the resurrection.
But we try our best along the

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00:31:48,320 –> 00:31:52,480
way and again, this isn’t a once
in done thing.

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00:31:52,480 –> 00:31:55,480
Let’s hop over now to Psalm 43
and we’re going to see this also

658
00:31:55,480 –> 00:31:59,880
happen again in this next
section in Psalm 43.

659
00:32:00,240 –> 00:32:03,680
There’s a really interesting
thing of how blunt David is.

660
00:32:04,480 –> 00:32:06,000
So we’ll just read through the
Psalm real quick and then we’ll

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00:32:06,000 –> 00:32:11,920
go through it bit by bit.
Psalm 43 and I’ll start verse

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00:32:11,920 –> 00:32:15,440
one and it’s free.
Through our section, vindicate

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00:32:15,440 –> 00:32:19,960
me, O God, and defend my case,
my cause against the ungodly

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00:32:19,960 –> 00:32:22,520
people from the deceitful and
unjust man.

665
00:32:22,520 –> 00:32:25,480
Deliver me, for you are the God
whom I take refuge.

666
00:32:25,840 –> 00:32:29,040
Why have you rejected me?
Why do I go by mourning?

667
00:32:29,160 –> 00:32:30,680
Because of the oppression of the
enemy.

668
00:32:31,200 –> 00:32:33,880
Send out your light and your
truth, and then lead me.

669
00:32:34,280 –> 00:32:36,760
Let them bring me to your holy
hill and to your dwelling.

670
00:32:37,840 –> 00:32:39,800
Then I will go to the altar of
God.

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00:32:40,000 –> 00:32:43,840
To to God, my exceedingly joy.
And I will praise you with the

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00:32:43,840 –> 00:32:46,760
lyre.
Oh my God, my God, why are you

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00:32:46,760 –> 00:32:49,920
cast down, O my soul, Why are
you in turmoil within me?

674
00:32:50,160 –> 00:32:52,720
Hope and God.
For I shall praise him again.

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00:32:53,080 –> 00:32:55,400
Sorry.
I shall again praise him my

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00:32:55,400 –> 00:33:00,760
salvation and my God.
So David’s really blunt here.

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00:33:01,160 –> 00:33:05,280
He’s like really, really blunt
here in verses one and two, it

678
00:33:05,280 –> 00:33:10,040
says dealing with kind of being
honest with God cause against

679
00:33:10,360 –> 00:33:13,320
I’m sorry, against the ungodly
people from the deceitful and

680
00:33:13,320 –> 00:33:16,400
unjust man, Deliver me, why have
you rejected me?

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00:33:17,040 –> 00:33:19,800
Why do I go about mourning
because of the oppression of the

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00:33:19,800 –> 00:33:22,600
enemy.
It’s, it’s almost accusatory.

683
00:33:22,800 –> 00:33:26,440
Like why is this happening?
Like, why have you rejected me?

684
00:33:26,440 –> 00:33:28,800
God, why is it why is my life
happening like this?

685
00:33:29,320 –> 00:33:32,480
It’s pretty blunt.
I don’t know if you’ve been in a

686
00:33:32,480 –> 00:33:35,520
situation where you’ve been
properly angry with God, but

687
00:33:35,520 –> 00:33:38,240
that’s the the, the vision I get
here from David.

688
00:33:38,520 –> 00:33:41,800
He’s mad because life doesn’t
seem to match with what he knows

689
00:33:41,800 –> 00:33:42,920
about God.
He’s always mad.

690
00:33:42,920 –> 00:33:45,040
He’s God.
Why have you rejected me here?

691
00:33:45,640 –> 00:33:48,360
Why have you let, why do you let
life carry on this way?

692
00:33:50,200 –> 00:33:52,000
That’s the feeling that I see
from David here.

693
00:33:53,280 –> 00:33:55,840
And so the question is, what
does David do with it?

694
00:33:55,840 –> 00:33:58,640
Well, he thinks through who God
is.

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00:33:58,640 –> 00:34:01,280
Verse 3.
So not your light and your

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00:34:01,280 –> 00:34:02,920
truth.
God is a God.

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00:34:02,920 –> 00:34:05,840
God is a God of light and truth.
Let it bring you to your holy

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00:34:05,840 –> 00:34:07,400
hill.
God is a holy God.

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00:34:08,080 –> 00:34:12,280
OK, And so if these things are
true, how do I choose to act?

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00:34:12,280 –> 00:34:15,360
I feel rejected, but I know God
is the God of light and the God

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00:34:15,360 –> 00:34:18,120
of truth.
OK, so how will I choose to act?

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00:34:18,440 –> 00:34:22,040
Verse four and verse five, I
will go to the altar of my God,

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00:34:22,239 –> 00:34:25,480
To God my exceeding joy.
I will praise you with the liar.

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00:34:25,480 –> 00:34:28,120
And then verse 5.
Hope and God fresh.

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00:34:28,120 –> 00:34:30,920
I’ll praise him my salvation and
my God.

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00:34:32,440 –> 00:34:38,199
We don’t go from how why have
you rejected me to my God, my

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00:34:38,199 –> 00:34:41,400
exceeding joy just by thinking
about it for 2 verses.

708
00:34:41,400 –> 00:34:45,920
It’s not how that works.
He’s feeling rejected.

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00:34:46,080 –> 00:34:49,480
He chooses to view God as his
exceeding joy.

710
00:34:50,120 –> 00:34:52,760
He chooses to view God as the
God that he will praise.

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00:34:53,880 –> 00:34:56,199
These aren’t emotions that that
he’s expressing.

712
00:34:56,199 –> 00:34:59,120
And when he’s talking about how
he’s going to go, praise God,

713
00:34:59,600 –> 00:35:01,640
these are deliberate statements
that he’s making.

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00:35:01,720 –> 00:35:05,000
I’m going to intentionally go
against my emotions and do the

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00:35:05,000 –> 00:35:09,000
thing that I know is right.
That’s hard, but that’s the

716
00:35:09,000 –> 00:35:11,080
process.
How do we change our brain?

717
00:35:11,080 –> 00:35:13,640
How do we change these
electrical occurrences patterns?

718
00:35:13,920 –> 00:35:16,160
And really, how do we change our
internalized beliefs?

719
00:35:16,960 –> 00:35:19,240
We choose to act as if we don’t
believe them because we know

720
00:35:19,240 –> 00:35:22,600
they aren’t true internally.
We feel like they are, but we

721
00:35:22,600 –> 00:35:24,920
know they aren’t sometimes in
these situations.

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00:35:28,080 –> 00:35:30,720
The last one we want to read
through is Psalm 94, and the

723
00:35:30,720 –> 00:35:33,080
main one I want to focus here
when reading through this is the

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00:35:33,080 –> 00:35:35,600
relationship that David reflects
on with God.

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00:35:35,840 –> 00:35:39,400
He really uses his history with
God, his past with God in this

726
00:35:39,400 –> 00:35:43,200
scenario to really understand
how he’s supposed to act, types

727
00:35:43,200 –> 00:35:46,760
to think and feel.
So we’re to read through verses

728
00:35:46,760 –> 00:35:53,640
14 to 23 of Psalm 94.
For Yahweh will not forsake his

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00:35:53,640 –> 00:35:55,400
people.
He will not abandon his

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00:35:55,400 –> 00:35:57,720
heritage.
Who justice will return to the

731
00:35:57,720 –> 00:36:00,520
righteous and all the upright
and heart will follow it.

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00:36:01,280 –> 00:36:05,200
Who rises up against the wicked?
Who stands up for me against

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00:36:05,200 –> 00:36:07,920
evil doers?
If Yahweh had not been my help,

734
00:36:07,920 –> 00:36:11,240
my soul would soon have lived in
the land of silence When I

735
00:36:11,240 –> 00:36:15,320
thought my foot slips.
Your steadfast love, O Yahweh,

736
00:36:15,400 –> 00:36:18,320
held me up.
When the cares of my heart, of

737
00:36:18,320 –> 00:36:20,800
many your consultations cheer my
soul.

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00:36:21,480 –> 00:36:23,200
Can wicked rulers be allied with
you?

739
00:36:23,920 –> 00:36:27,480
Those who frame injustice by
statute, they band together

740
00:36:27,480 –> 00:36:29,400
against the life of the
righteous and condemned the

741
00:36:29,400 –> 00:36:32,320
innocent to death.
But Yahweh has become my

742
00:36:32,320 –> 00:36:35,440
stronghold, and my God, the rock
of my refuge.

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00:36:36,520 –> 00:36:38,920
He will bring back.
He will bring back on them their

744
00:36:38,920 –> 00:36:42,080
iniquity and wipe them out for
their wickedness of Yahweh.

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00:36:42,080 –> 00:36:49,880
Our God will wipe them out.
Verses 1719 and 22 show how much

746
00:36:49,880 –> 00:36:54,200
David is using his relationship
with God as a strength, his past

747
00:36:54,200 –> 00:36:58,360
with God as a strength.
Yahweh had not been my help in

748
00:36:58,360 –> 00:37:02,200
the past back then, my soul
would have soon, soon have

749
00:37:02,200 –> 00:37:05,360
slipped in the sorry.
My soul would have soon lived in

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00:37:05,360 –> 00:37:08,000
the land of silence.
His thinking if God wasn’t with

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00:37:08,000 –> 00:37:10,840
me, I would have died.
But God was with me.

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00:37:10,840 –> 00:37:15,040
So I’m still here.
Verse 19, when the cares in my

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00:37:15,040 –> 00:37:17,880
heart are many.
Your consultations cheer my

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00:37:17,880 –> 00:37:20,600
soul.
OK, so in the past when I’ve

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00:37:20,640 –> 00:37:24,840
dealt with trials and I have had
many cares, your consultations

756
00:37:24,840 –> 00:37:25,920
were there.
They cheered me.

757
00:37:25,920 –> 00:37:28,640
So again, he’s thinking about
his past, how God’s worked

758
00:37:28,720 –> 00:37:32,080
through him with or worked with
him through trials and then

759
00:37:32,080 –> 00:37:34,560
verse 22.
But Yahweh has become my

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00:37:34,560 –> 00:37:37,440
stronghold, my God, the rock of
my refuge.

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00:37:38,040 –> 00:37:40,240
God has become.
He didn’t start this way, but

762
00:37:40,240 –> 00:37:42,840
it’s become the rock of my
refuge.

763
00:37:42,880 –> 00:37:45,680
My relationship with God is one
for He is my rock.

764
00:37:46,160 –> 00:37:48,400
And so I’m going to act in this
moment, David.

765
00:37:48,680 –> 00:37:52,200
I’m going to act in this moment
as if God is my rock and I feel

766
00:37:52,200 –> 00:37:55,400
like he’s my rock, even though
in this moment I’m struggling

767
00:37:55,400 –> 00:37:57,920
with that and this moment I
don’t feel safe.

768
00:37:58,240 –> 00:38:00,280
I feel like the evil doers are
plotting against me.

769
00:38:01,160 –> 00:38:03,280
That’s the way that we deal with
anxiety.

770
00:38:03,400 –> 00:38:05,880
It’s a hard way.
It’s not an easy process, and

771
00:38:05,880 –> 00:38:08,000
it’s not a once and done, it’s a
thing that you have to repeat

772
00:38:08,000 –> 00:38:11,160
over and over and over again.
We will likely slip up, but we

773
00:38:11,160 –> 00:38:12,840
have to.
This is the responsibility that

774
00:38:12,840 –> 00:38:17,840
we have to work on transforming
our mind is to try our best to

775
00:38:17,840 –> 00:38:20,440
view our anxieties and say, what
does this say about my internal

776
00:38:20,440 –> 00:38:22,760
beliefs?
What does this say about what I

777
00:38:22,760 –> 00:38:24,880
think is important and how much
I value it?

778
00:38:25,600 –> 00:38:28,760
Should I value it that much?
Does God value it that much?

779
00:38:29,160 –> 00:38:30,880
Where is God’s view on these
things?

780
00:38:31,560 –> 00:38:35,600
And I’m going to choose to act
as if I value things the way God

781
00:38:35,600 –> 00:38:39,440
values things, even if I don’t.
And the first time you do that,

782
00:38:39,680 –> 00:38:41,560
you’re not going to have a
massive shift of emotions.

783
00:38:41,560 –> 00:38:43,040
You’re probably going to have
anxiety through the whole

784
00:38:43,040 –> 00:38:45,480
process.
And I’m sorry, that’s not a fun

785
00:38:45,920 –> 00:38:49,000
statement, but that is the
reality of it here.

786
00:38:49,000 –> 00:38:52,120
We can’t just flip our emotions
like that, but as you do it over

787
00:38:52,120 –> 00:38:54,240
and over again, the emotions
change.

788
00:38:54,680 –> 00:38:58,040
Your brain quite literally
changes and the patterns change

789
00:38:58,120 –> 00:39:00,800
on how we process anxiety and
how we feel anxiety.

790
00:39:02,240 –> 00:39:05,680
Now a few things that I want to
cover before we close on these

791
00:39:05,680 –> 00:39:08,080
sections that we’ve read.
There’s a few take away points

792
00:39:08,080 –> 00:39:10,560
that you can kind of see when
looking at them all as a whole

793
00:39:11,560 –> 00:39:15,640
while I’ve presented this
process as a nice logical step

794
00:39:15,640 –> 00:39:17,920
by step.
You know, here’s your four part

795
00:39:17,920 –> 00:39:20,440
thing that you’ll do in order.
That’s not how it works in

796
00:39:20,440 –> 00:39:22,880
practice.
When you look at these songs,

797
00:39:23,200 –> 00:39:27,600
they’re all over the place.
David starts with step four and

798
00:39:27,600 –> 00:39:30,240
then goes to Step 2 and then
hops over step three and then

799
00:39:30,240 –> 00:39:32,120
goes back to Step 2.
And then he’s like, oh, I’m

800
00:39:32,120 –> 00:39:34,120
gonna have a rant about where
I’m feeling right now.

801
00:39:34,600 –> 00:39:36,600
And then he hops back to step
four and he’s all over the place

802
00:39:36,600 –> 00:39:38,640
because that’s how emotions and
anxiety work.

803
00:39:39,320 –> 00:39:42,440
It’s not nice logical thought
out, well processed.

804
00:39:42,440 –> 00:39:44,360
It’s.
I’m panicking.

805
00:39:44,800 –> 00:39:47,120
And I have moments where I can
think clearly and think about

806
00:39:47,120 –> 00:39:49,240
what God thinks about.
But then I’m back to panicking.

807
00:39:49,240 –> 00:39:51,040
I talk to God about where I’m
currently at.

808
00:39:51,480 –> 00:39:53,960
And then and then I’m going to
have a moment of remembering how

809
00:39:53,960 –> 00:39:56,840
this happened before and God,
God worked with me in this way.

810
00:39:57,240 –> 00:40:00,120
But then you’re back to being
highly anxious and you’re

811
00:40:00,120 –> 00:40:02,760
constantly going back and forth.
It’s not something that you can

812
00:40:02,760 –> 00:40:04,520
sit down and go, all right,
we’re going to follow the

813
00:40:04,520 –> 00:40:05,360
process.
Now.

814
00:40:05,560 –> 00:40:08,480
I’ve thought about this, and I
can pause my emotions so I can

815
00:40:08,680 –> 00:40:11,240
go ahead and process this now.
It’s going to be all over the

816
00:40:11,240 –> 00:40:14,160
place, and that’s OK.
It was all over the place for

817
00:40:14,160 –> 00:40:15,560
David.
We’ll see you in our our

818
00:40:15,560 –> 00:40:17,440
expectation tomorrow.
It’s all over the place for

819
00:40:17,440 –> 00:40:19,800
Christ.
The point isn’t to do in that

820
00:40:19,800 –> 00:40:22,320
ice, right clean order.
It’s that we’re going through

821
00:40:22,320 –> 00:40:27,000
this process as a whole.
Another one is that it’s not a

822
00:40:27,000 –> 00:40:29,120
one and done.
David does this over and over.

823
00:40:29,400 –> 00:40:31,360
There’s not like a point where
you can say I finished

824
00:40:31,360 –> 00:40:33,200
transforming my mind, I am now
perfect.

825
00:40:33,720 –> 00:40:36,160
That doesn’t happen until the
resurrection is the battle that

826
00:40:36,160 –> 00:40:38,000
we will do for the rest of our
life.

827
00:40:38,080 –> 00:40:40,720
And it’ll be in various stages
for different people.

828
00:40:41,040 –> 00:40:43,600
Some people, this is a battle
that they will see results very

829
00:40:43,600 –> 00:40:45,640
quickly.
They will see results after a

830
00:40:45,640 –> 00:40:48,200
few months, maybe a few weeks of
working through this.

831
00:40:48,800 –> 00:40:51,080
For some other people, this is a
battle that they might not see

832
00:40:51,080 –> 00:40:53,200
clear, clean results for
decades.

833
00:40:53,680 –> 00:40:56,560
And that’s OK.
We’ve experienced trials and

834
00:40:56,560 –> 00:40:59,000
temptations at different levels.
Some people deal with anger

835
00:40:59,000 –> 00:41:00,600
differently.
Some people deal with lots of

836
00:41:00,600 –> 00:41:02,400
different stages and different
speeds.

837
00:41:02,920 –> 00:41:05,000
That’s OK.
The point isn’t how quick are

838
00:41:05,000 –> 00:41:07,320
you moving through the battle.
The point is that you’re in the

839
00:41:07,320 –> 00:41:09,840
battle and you’re battling.
You are battling the temptations

840
00:41:09,840 –> 00:41:13,400
that life gives you.
And #3.

841
00:41:13,800 –> 00:41:16,680
This will look different for
everyone in a kind of practical

842
00:41:16,680 –> 00:41:18,720
way.
My name of that is for me, the

843
00:41:18,720 –> 00:41:21,840
way I worked through these steps
was I had to go to therapy.

844
00:41:22,080 –> 00:41:24,600
I had to talk to somebody and
they basically had to confront

845
00:41:24,600 –> 00:41:27,680
me on them and say, hey, you
don’t actually believe that.

846
00:41:27,920 –> 00:41:29,560
And then they go, oh, you’re
right.

847
00:41:30,000 –> 00:41:31,920
Like, that’s how I had to go
through these steps.

848
00:41:32,120 –> 00:41:35,600
I’d have somebody confront me.
I’m a highly conflict person.

849
00:41:35,600 –> 00:41:38,280
If you know me, I like conflict.
It’s weird.

850
00:41:38,360 –> 00:41:40,320
I don’t, it’s not normal, but I
like it.

851
00:41:40,320 –> 00:41:42,000
And that worked for me.
Someone coming up with me and

852
00:41:42,000 –> 00:41:44,160
saying you don’t believe what
you’re saying right now worked

853
00:41:44,400 –> 00:41:46,520
for somebody else.
Don’t make them shut down.

854
00:41:47,160 –> 00:41:48,720
That make them go, What are you
talking about?

855
00:41:48,720 –> 00:41:50,800
I’m trying to tell you my
feelings and you’re getting mad

856
00:41:50,800 –> 00:41:53,080
at me.
And so different people are

857
00:41:53,080 –> 00:41:54,200
going to work through this
differently.

858
00:41:54,200 –> 00:41:56,880
For some people, it’s having a
journal and writing it down and

859
00:41:56,880 –> 00:41:59,960
then later kind of reflecting on
that journal and going, did I

860
00:41:59,960 –> 00:42:01,480
actually agree with the things
that I wrote?

861
00:42:01,920 –> 00:42:03,720
Do I believe the things that I
that I wrote down?

862
00:42:04,240 –> 00:42:06,160
For some people, it’s having a
conversation with a friend where

863
00:42:06,160 –> 00:42:08,880
they’re very empathetic.
What Asking kind of prodding

864
00:42:08,880 –> 00:42:11,800
questions or asking questions
that make you kind of evaluate

865
00:42:11,800 –> 00:42:13,720
where you’re at.
For some people, it has to be a

866
00:42:13,720 –> 00:42:16,320
personal self meditation.
They have to go away to a place

867
00:42:16,320 –> 00:42:19,000
of nature or quiet and really
think through what’s going on in

868
00:42:19,000 –> 00:42:20,920
their life.
It’s going to be different for

869
00:42:20,920 –> 00:42:23,480
different people and the
challenge is to be figuring out,

870
00:42:23,640 –> 00:42:26,800
well, what works for you.
How do you best able to put

871
00:42:26,800 –> 00:42:29,920
these steps in a practical, A
practical process for you?

872
00:42:30,720 –> 00:42:32,800
For me, I need someone to come
tell me.

873
00:42:32,800 –> 00:42:35,240
I don’t believe what I’m tailing
right now and it’s weird.

874
00:42:35,320 –> 00:42:37,440
This doesn’t work for most
people, but it works for me.

875
00:42:37,800 –> 00:42:40,480
So I’m great friends with Jeff
because he’ll tell me you don’t

876
00:42:40,480 –> 00:42:44,040
believe what you’re saying right
now and it works great, but it’s

877
00:42:44,040 –> 00:42:46,240
because I have a very unique way
of dealing with these kinds of

878
00:42:46,240 –> 00:42:47,440
things.
Other people it’s going to be

879
00:42:47,440 –> 00:42:50,640
different.
So try different things, try

880
00:42:50,640 –> 00:42:51,760
different ways of going about
it.

881
00:42:52,000 –> 00:42:54,360
Maybe try a journal for a while.
Never worked for me, but I

882
00:42:54,360 –> 00:42:56,440
tried.
It never was really useful for

883
00:42:56,440 –> 00:42:59,640
me but might be useful for you.
I’ve definitely seen people

884
00:42:59,640 –> 00:43:03,200
over.
It’s been wonders for try going

885
00:43:03,200 –> 00:43:06,520
into nature, going on walks and
just thinking self meditating.

886
00:43:07,440 –> 00:43:10,680
Try whatever it is that you
think might work, but try

887
00:43:10,680 –> 00:43:12,600
things.
Figure how it works for you and

888
00:43:12,600 –> 00:43:13,840
it helps you go through this
process.

889
00:43:15,880 –> 00:43:18,160
And so we’re about to move to
discussion groups.

890
00:43:18,440 –> 00:43:21,560
And when we do the discussion
groups, I’ve asked a few

891
00:43:21,640 –> 00:43:24,600
different types of questions.
Some of the questions I’ve asked

892
00:43:24,600 –> 00:43:27,720
are essentially, do you agree
with the different statements

893
00:43:27,720 –> 00:43:29,040
I’ve made?
Some of the statements I’ve

894
00:43:29,040 –> 00:43:31,960
made, understandably, can be a
bit jarring.

895
00:43:32,360 –> 00:43:33,800
And so it’s do you agree with
them?

896
00:43:33,800 –> 00:43:36,240
And if you don’t, let’s have
that conversation, Let’s talk

897
00:43:36,240 –> 00:43:38,600
about it.
Maybe I said it in a way that

898
00:43:38,600 –> 00:43:40,680
didn’t quite mesh well with you,
and other people in your group

899
00:43:40,680 –> 00:43:42,920
can help it mesh better.
They can say it in different

900
00:43:42,920 –> 00:43:45,480
ways.
Maybe I’m just wrong and that

901
00:43:45,480 –> 00:43:47,880
you’ve got some thoughts that
are really useful and can can

902
00:43:47,880 –> 00:43:50,960
help help people with doing the
things I eat in a different way.

903
00:43:51,280 –> 00:43:53,240
That’s fine too.
I promise you I won’t get

904
00:43:53,240 –> 00:43:55,400
offended if I kind of walk up to
your group and I hear, man, I

905
00:43:55,400 –> 00:43:56,840
didn’t really like that point
that he made.

906
00:43:57,480 –> 00:43:59,760
That’s super interesting to me.
I want to know why I want to.

907
00:43:59,760 –> 00:44:02,440
I want to get into that.
So let’s be honest about that

908
00:44:02,440 –> 00:44:04,280
and have some real conversations
around that one.

909
00:44:05,200 –> 00:44:08,160
I’ve also had some personal
questions, things like what are

910
00:44:08,160 –> 00:44:10,840
your views on medication and
anxiety?

911
00:44:11,120 –> 00:44:13,360
Things like what are your views
on dealing with your own

912
00:44:13,360 –> 00:44:15,040
personal anxieties?
How do you go about that?

913
00:44:15,680 –> 00:44:21,320
And kind of a note on that,
while I highly encourage that we

914
00:44:21,320 –> 00:44:24,000
we do open up, I know it’s hard
sometimes like we do open up and

915
00:44:24,000 –> 00:44:26,120
be vulnerable.
I really want to make sure that

916
00:44:26,120 –> 00:44:28,800
we don’t go back to our home
ecclesias and go, man, that

917
00:44:28,800 –> 00:44:31,040
person struggles with the Super
silly thing.

918
00:44:31,960 –> 00:44:33,880
I don’t think we would do that,
but I just want to put a warning

919
00:44:33,880 –> 00:44:36,000
in there.
What happens to the 25 plus what

920
00:44:36,000 –> 00:44:37,600
talked, let’s talked about in
our discussion groups.

921
00:44:37,760 –> 00:44:40,280
Let’s send discussion groups.
If you build relationships with

922
00:44:40,280 –> 00:44:42,080
somebody and you want to talk to
them, that’s one thing.

923
00:44:42,360 –> 00:44:45,400
But let’s not go back to our
home activations and be like

924
00:44:45,400 –> 00:44:47,080
man, this discussion group
happened and we talked about

925
00:44:47,080 –> 00:44:49,480
these things and these people
have these crazy problems.

926
00:44:49,960 –> 00:44:52,440
That’s not a useful thing to do.
So I just want to make sure put

927
00:44:52,440 –> 00:44:54,320
a little, put a little note
there, let’s not do that.

928
00:44:54,880 –> 00:44:57,720
And lastly, a little note.
We’re going to be talking about

929
00:44:57,720 –> 00:44:59,360
a lot of experiences, personal
experiences.

930
00:44:59,360 –> 00:45:01,920
That’s is a big part of the
series and that’s good.

931
00:45:02,000 –> 00:45:04,440
That’s kind of what I want the
goal of the series to do is to

932
00:45:04,440 –> 00:45:06,880
take this, all this theory that
we’re talking about and put into

933
00:45:06,880 –> 00:45:09,680
your life.
In practice, however, the danger

934
00:45:09,680 –> 00:45:11,920
with a discussion group or we’re
talking about a lot of personal

935
00:45:11,920 –> 00:45:15,280
experiences, is that we do a lot
of well, I think this because of

936
00:45:15,280 –> 00:45:18,880
this one time this happened this
way, or I think this because it

937
00:45:18,880 –> 00:45:21,360
made me feel this way instead
of, well, I think this because

938
00:45:21,360 –> 00:45:24,200
of this principle in the Bible.
And I want to make sure that

939
00:45:24,200 –> 00:45:26,280
when we’re dealing with our
conclusions about things, we’re

940
00:45:26,280 –> 00:45:28,760
dealing with what we think is
true, that we are using the

941
00:45:28,760 –> 00:45:31,360
Bible as the ultimate source,
not just our personal

942
00:45:31,360 –> 00:45:33,160
experiences.
They’re great, they’re a useful

943
00:45:33,160 –> 00:45:34,520
tool.
And then sharing them, we can

944
00:45:34,520 –> 00:45:36,480
draw closer to one another.
We can get help from one

945
00:45:36,480 –> 00:45:39,120
another, fantastic.
But when it comes to the things

946
00:45:39,120 –> 00:45:42,000
of dealing with truth, when
we’re dealing with what is our

947
00:45:42,000 –> 00:45:45,080
views on certain certain things?
Let’s make sure we’re using

948
00:45:45,080 –> 00:45:48,520
scripture and principles to
answer those questions, not

949
00:45:48,520 –> 00:45:50,840
using well.
This made me feel this way that

950
00:45:50,840 –> 00:45:55,440
one time, and I really look
forward to having this

951
00:45:55,440 –> 00:45:58,160
discussion groups.
I really look forward to talking

952
00:45:58,160 –> 00:46:02,400
to people about how they’ve
found the talks useful, how they

953
00:46:02,400 –> 00:46:05,800
find different aspects useful,
what can they do with this, this

954
00:46:05,800 –> 00:46:08,440
information in their life.
Because one I want to, I want to

955
00:46:08,480 –> 00:46:09,880
help more people.
I want to talk about this with

956
00:46:09,880 –> 00:46:11,680
more people.
I love these conversations.

957
00:46:12,080 –> 00:46:15,240
Again, weird, but I love them.
I find them fun, I find them

958
00:46:15,240 –> 00:46:16,720
enjoyable.
And so I want to be able to do

959
00:46:16,720 –> 00:46:18,640
that with more people.
And if there’s ways that I can

960
00:46:18,640 –> 00:46:21,240
find more use out of that or
being more helpful with people,

961
00:46:21,480 –> 00:46:22,520
but I’m really looking forward
to that.

962
00:46:22,520 –> 00:46:25,120
So thank you for listening to me
so far.

963
00:46:25,120 –> 00:46:27,240
And yeah, I hope that this has
been useful to you somehow.