Jared Schipper – Judah – In His Family – Class 2 – Learning Life’s Hard Lessons

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Can I say upfront, thank you
guys for coming and chatting.

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There is nothing better than
being able to talk to people

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about what you’ve just shared.
One, because you learn a lot and

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I appreciated the people that
have made comments, but two,

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it’s just good to meet people.
So don’t feel shy.

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Please just come and chat.
Love to All right, awkward

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chapter.
Sorry more of the awkwardness.

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I apologize again, but it’s
real.

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It’s God’s family, and there’s
some real stuff in this that we

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need to think about.
We came to this point where

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Judah feels like he’s got to
leave the family home.

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And I want you to think for a
second what drove Judah to that

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point, how he felt when he’s
leaving the family home.

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Because no doubt Judah thought
he was being big, brave, bold,

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coming out on his own, not
hanging around with that stupid

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family that keep moaning about
the past and all the dumb things

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that are going on.
Bitterness, usual resentment

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that builds up.
And that’s the perspective.

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So he’s going out to find
himself.

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He’s going out on a journey in
life to explore who he is.

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Can you, can you feel that?
Do you hear people talk like

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that?
If you hear people say that

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today, they’re going out to find
who they are.

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They’re going on some journey of
self discovery.

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They’re going to find themselves
out there in the world.

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And so they pack up their little
bag of bitterness and they go

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out there looking for themselves
somewhere out in the world.

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And guess what?
They find themselves out there

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in the world because there’s
lots of people out there in the

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world that have that same bag of
bitterness and they can share

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their bitterness and have a
little bitterness party.

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It doesn’t fix the problems.
And that’s what we’re going to

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see in this chapter is that all
these motives and resentment the

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built up in Judah’s life was
actually not making him think

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straight.
It was actually making him make

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dumb decisions.
That’s what was driving him.

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So he’s going to go out there
just like the prodigal son, but

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eventually he’s going to find
himself back in his father’s

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house because it’s just the best
place.

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That’s the eclosure, that’s the
youth group.

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It’s just the best place to be.
And hopefully you’ll come to see

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that too in your life as you
realize just how much we have

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here.
Such a cool group of people to

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come spend a long weekend with.
Just think about the people at

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work, uni, what are they doing
this weekend?

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They might be doing something
exciting on their own or with a

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couple of friends.
You got like 250 other people,

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good experiences.
We have so much, but Judy’s

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going to play the victim card.
Let’s read carefully.

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We’re going to spend our whole
time this study in one chapter.

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That’s good.
Be a bit easier to work through

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the story.
So let’s have a read of chapter

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38, the first few verses, grab a
pencil because there’s that

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little phrase at that time.
What time?

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Well, the time, you know, where
all that stuff happened to

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Joseph, Complete contrast,
complete opposite.

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And you don’t appreciate Joseph
without understanding where

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Judah’s going because at that
time, Judah left his brothers

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and he turned into an adult
Amite man whose name was Hira.

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And Judah saw there.
Oh, I missed a few things I

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meant to talk about.
Sorry.

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You have this graphic here,
which positions Judah at being

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in now in his late 20s.
So he’s made some dumb decisions

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in his late 20s.
You may not be at that point

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yet, but it’s important for you
to think about the decisions

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you’re making now and the way
you’re perceiving what’s

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happening in your family now and
the way you’re framing your

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understanding and the way you’re
choosing to look at life because

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that’s what’s happened in
Judah’s life.

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He’s a grown man by the time
Joseph comes along, and all this

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resentment starts to build over
time.

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But he’s now going out in his
early adult years to form his

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own life.
So let’s read again this.

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Well, we read verse one, verse
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Judah saw the daughter of a
Canaanite man named Shua.

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Judah acquired her as a wife and
had marital relations with her.

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I’m reading from the NET by the
way.

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She became pregnant and had a
son.

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Judah named him, uh, she became
pregnant again, had another son,

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and she called him Onan.
Then she had yet another son,

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whom she named Sheila, and she
gave birth to him while Judah

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was in key.
Zip.

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All right, what do you make of
that?

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You’d probably read that and go,
yeah, well, that’s just a story.

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There’s some really weird things
in those verses.

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There’s some hidden names.
There’s some names that we’re

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told that we don’t need to know.
That’s really weird.

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Read carefully.
What is in those first 5 verses?

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Ask yourself the question, what
am I told that I don’t need to

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know?
And what am I not told that I

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probably should know?
I’ll give you a hint.

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What was Judas Wife’s name?
Oh, we don’t know.

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Some translations actually get
it wrong.

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So if you are seeing that where
it says that her name was, sure,

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that is not her name.
We can find that out later by

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looking in one of the later
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This is not her name.
Let me highlight it to you this

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way.
It came to pass at that time

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that Judah went down from his
brethren and he got distracted

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or turned into a certain a
Dalamite.

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Oh, whose name was and it means
a noble family.

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Let’s keep going.
I’ll explain in a SEC.

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Judas saw there a no name of a
certain Canaanite whose name was

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and it means wealth.
And he took her and went into

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her, and she had a child.
Now let’s just deal with verse

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one and two because it gets too
far down.

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It came to past.
Judah went down and he turned to

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a certain Adalamite.
Why are we told that phrase a

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certain Adalamite?
Why is where he comes from more

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important than his actual name?
His name is Hara.

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A dullam means justice, and he’s
from a noble family.

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We’ll just think about the irony
of this and we’re going to see

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this chapter is full of irony,
and that’s the way God works.

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We’re going to look at that at
the end.

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All right?
I just want you to see this

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irony.
Judy goes away because he’s

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running away from his special
family, chosen family that’s

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been given privilege and
blessings by God, and he joins

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another noble family.
Why?

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I’m going to suggest to you
because he wants a bit of

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justice in your life because he
thinks he’s totally unfairly

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treated at his house and it’s
not fair.

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So I’m going somewhere else and
I think that’s why we’re giving

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these details.
Judas sees there a woman when I

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even told her name of a certain
Canaanite whose name was Shua,

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which means wealthy and he took
her and went in done to her.

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Let’s break down that verse.
What motivated Judah to sell his

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brother money.
This man sounds like he has

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money, doesn’t even know the
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We told Tamer’s name later, so
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the names of the females.
Well, we told her name because

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the focus is the Judas saw and
he took and he went into her.

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Do you hear a bell ringing in
the back of your mind of hearing

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that language before?
Who looked at something, saw it,

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took it and acted on it.
Don’t be scared.

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There’s only 200 people in the
audience.

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It’s OK.
Shout out, Eve.

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Wonderful.
Thank you.

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I can.
Awesome.

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This is really good.
I should ask my questions.

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Who else?
David and Bathsheba.

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Excellent.
Maybe you guys have done a study

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on this.
Did people know this story

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already?
That’s awesome.

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He saw she took.
She hates.

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There’s the principle.
Looked down.

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Thought looks good.
Jia looked at her.

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Thought looks hot.
Took her.

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Guess what?
That’s exactly the same process

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as what Shechem did with Dinah,
and he got angry.

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He did it, he repeated it, same
process, and we’re going to see

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these things come out in his
life.

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It’s only highlighted by the
fact that her name doesn’t even

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matter in the whole chapter.
What matters is he wants to be

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associated with another special
family that has wealth.

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Now, you’re not think I’m making
too much of it.

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Just remember, what was the
whole point of Chapter 29 and

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Chapter 30 in the way that his
family was introduced?

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It was all about the meaning of
names, right?

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And we’re told it was.
The Bible tells us, look at the

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meaning of these names.
So when we come to this chapter,

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we’ve got to do the same thing
because it’s still Genesis, same

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story.
All right, am I reading too

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much?
Let’s have a look at verse 3,

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verse four and five.
She no name conceived and bear a

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son And oh, he called his first
born son, first born son’s name.

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Uh, Judah was, oh, you assume he
was there because he named the

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child, which is different in the
way he was born because mum

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named him dad.
Didn’t Jacob only named one boy?

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You know, of all twelve of his
sons?

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She nameless names her son.
Sorry.

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Uh, she conceived again and bear
a son and oh, she calls him this

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time Sheila, What does that mean
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Well, what should we take away
from that?

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Let’s hold on that verse 5.
She has another child and bear a

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son, and she calls his name
Sheila.

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And Judah was in key Zeb, or a
place that means denial and lies

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when she gave birth.
Oh, so Judah’s too busy living a

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life of denial, lying about what
he’s really up to, to be at his

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third son’s birth.
Can you see a downward spiral

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going on here?
He was there for the beginning,

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all excited and called him that
means awake.

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Let’s put in today’s language.
I’m living, I’m enjoying life.

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I can do my own thing now
because he’s just gone free from

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the family and he’s got his
first boy now and he’s living

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life the way he wants to live
it.

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I’ve forgotten what Sheila is.
I’m coming to check Mental blank

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and I can’t see it.
Sheila’s an interesting name,

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but not quite as strong.
The last one is Sheila.

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Why does she call his name
Sheila?

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It’s just like his mum was full
of bitterness, wanting

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attention.
She calls his name Sheila, which

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I’m checking because I’m just
having a mental blank sorry this

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morning.
Sheila means request requesting.

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What do you think?
A woman who has no name was

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important, became less
important, and so unimportant

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that she’s bearing her son as
Judah’s off doing his own thing.

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Busy, maybe business, maybe
whatever.

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We’ll talk about that later.
What do you think she’s

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requesting?
Bit the same as Leah.

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Bit of time, attention,
appreciation, validation.

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That’s just the first 5 verses
of this story of Judah living

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the way Judah wants to live.
What’s he doing?

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He’s repeating his dad’s
mistakes.

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He’s repeating history.
Dad was never around for Judah.

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Too busy out there with the
sheep.

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And so we see here the same
story.

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We’re seeing a repeat of the
reality of the way he grew up

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and consequences, or the way
we’re brought up has

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consequences on us.
It has an impact on us.

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And we have to think about that.
Let’s look at the way Judah’s

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bringing up his children.
We’ll have a look at verse 6-7

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and eight.
What are we told?

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Judah required a wife for, ER,
his first born.

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Her name’s Tamar.
But ER, Judah’s first born was

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so evil in the Lord’s sight that
God actually had to step in and

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kill him.
That’s how bad he was.

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In fact, no, the next one went
down the same process.

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He was asked to man up and be
responsible for life, and God

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killed him too.
Just grasp that.

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Two sons that are so bad that
God has to abruptly intervene in

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the situation and kill them.
That’s wow on the scale of God

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doesn’t interrupt very often.
We’re talking Cora Dathan, A

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barum kind of stuff.
God kills those two boys.

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Do we see any evidence of Judah
trying to teach them about the

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godly life of the promises that
were given to Abraham, Isaac,

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and Jacob?
I’m not seeing anything in this

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chapter about that.
All right, verse 11.

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The reality is Judah is so blind
to the reality of his son’s evil

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that he blames this poor woman,
Tamar, and makes her the

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scapegoat as if she’s jinxed and
she’s the problem why the boys

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keep dying.
That’s where this man’s at.

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He can’t look honestly at the
situation to make an honest

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decision knowing that God works
in his life.

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Those boys are so focused on
everything that Judah has taught

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them about living life the way
they want to live life, but

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God’s killed them.
How do we know that we’re not?

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She told what her does wrong.
We’re told what Sheila does.

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We’re told the way he behaves.
All right.

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All he was focused on was self
gratification and completely

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unwilling to give a stuff about
anyone else but himself.

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He wasn’t willing to give his
brother a family, but he’d take

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advantage of her.
Not once, not twice.

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It says whenever he went into
her, that’s repeat behavior.

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Where did these boys learn that
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We could continue on with the
story, but I don’t want to get

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into too much detail about it.
If we were to flick down then to

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verse 12 and 13, we see that
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Suddenly she’s off the scenes.
This is the person that he did

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actually at some point love.
Does he distract himself in

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verse 12 with business?
Is that what he’s doing?

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Verse 12 says after some time,
Judah’s.

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After some time, Judah’s wife,
the daughter of Seward, died.

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See how we get the emphasis on
Shur again.

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After Judah was consoled, he
left for Timnath to visit his

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sheep Shear.
So he went and made himself busy

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with work along with his friend
of his higher of the Dalamite.

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He’s one of those friends
that’ll do anything.

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Got no shame, just we’ll do
whatever you ask him to do.

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There’s people like that out
there that facilitate bad

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decisions in our life.
Don’t be fooled by them, they’re

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not actually good friends.
It’s interesting that Hara isn’t

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a part of Judah’s life later.
He’s only there when Judah needs

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The Dirty work to be done.
Just an interesting detail of

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this chapter.
It’s interesting that Tamar was

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told that Judah, her
father-in-law, is going to

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tinnap to shear the sheep.
Why would she care?

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Well, she cares because in
verses 8 or 9 and 10, she’s been

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promised that she would have.
Oh sorry, verse 11.

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Judah has promised his
daughter-in-law, Tamar, that she

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can have Sheila when he grows
up.

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Now when you read the story, you
can only assume that there

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wasn’t that long a gap because
that’s quite quick in the way

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we’re told.
So you can assume that that

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story didn’t buy Judah too much
time to say that Tamar could

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have Sheila when he grows up.
And at verse 8, we’re told his

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real motive, not that he
actually said it.

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He thought he was planning.
He was thinking, heck, I don’t

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want my third son to hang around
with her.

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So Tamar goes back to and
picture this, her father’s house

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and lives there like a widow.
Why did she stay in Judah’s

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house if Judah’s going to
provide for her and she’s going

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to remain connected with Judah’s
family as she does for the rest

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of the book of Genesis, Why does
Judas in the home clearly

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doesn’t want to have a bar of
her?

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He’s got no time for her, just
like his son had no time for her

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either.
You see the way they were

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behaving, We can go into more
detail, but it’s simply a

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careless for anybody else, a
self fulfilling, self satisfying

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behavior.
All right, verse 13, Tamas told,

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look, your father-in-law is
going to Timnah to shear his

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sheep.
So she removed her widow

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clothes, which is the way she’s
been living faithfully and she

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covers herself with a veil,
which makes her look like the

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prostitute that she’s going to
play.

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That’s not a normal behaviour.
She wraps herself in that veil

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and she sat in an open path at
the entrance to, and maybe your

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translation says, but basically
what it says is she sat in an

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open way on the way to Timnath.
So she sat in a place that she

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knew that judo would pass
through.

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She did this, we’re told,
because she saw that she had not

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been given Sheila as a wife,
even though he’s now grown up.

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Think about that story.
Think about what we’re not told

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in that story.
What makes a woman who’s gone to

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live in her father’s house as a
widow and faithfully doing that,

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waiting for the next son to grow
up?

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What makes her change all of her
clothes and all of her behavior

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and go and sits in an open way
that Judah’s going to pass

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through as he goes up to his
destination?

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The fact is, she knows Judah’s
personality.

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She knows the way Judah behaves
in the dark.

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Judah has a reputation because
she knows that all she has to do

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is sit in an open place and
Judah will pick her up.

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She doesn’t have to harass him,
she doesn’t have to chase him.

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She just knows if I sit in an
open path, Judah will find me

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and he’ll take me in.
She’s that confident.

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This is not her way of life.
After this event, she goes

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straight back home, changes back
into her widow clothes.

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That’s her behaviour, that’s
her.

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She’s a truthful person, but
she’s so clear in her

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understanding of the type of man
that Judah is and the reputation

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that he’s created.
It’s like 99% confident that

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Judah will do what Judah does.
That’s quite a reputation.

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And it was somebody else that
told her that’s what her dad’s

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doing or her father in law’s
doing.

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So you wonder what they thought
too.

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Are we filling out the picture?
Are you getting an idea of what

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Judah is known for, what his
personality is, what his

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reputation is, and what he’s
getting up to?

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All right, verse 16 then.
Well, verse 15, Judah saw her.

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He just made the assumption that
she was a prostitute because she

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covered her face.
So verse 16, he turned aside to

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her along the road and said, I
want to come in to you because

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he had no idea that she was his
daughter-in-law.

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I’ll put it up here on the
screen.

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Her response is, what will you
give me?

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That’s incredibly ironic when
you think about it, because if

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only Judah had given her what
Judah should have given her, the

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whole problem would have gone
away.

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If Judah had given her the sum
that he’d promised to her, she

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would have been happy and this
event wouldn’t have happened.

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You see that?
And he says, oh, I’ll send you a

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young goat from the flock.
And she says, no, I want a down

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payment.
I want proof because I don’t

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trust you.
Give me a pledge.

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Prove it.
Prove it that you’re a

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trustworthy person.
Because clearly he wasn’t a

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trustworthy person that she had
to demand a pledge from him.

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And he’s good with that because
he knows what that means because

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he’s used to it.
He said, all right, what sort of

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pledge do you want?
I don’t care.

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That’s life, She replies and
says, I want your seal.

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I want your cord and the stuff
in your hand, and we might

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understand that.
So it’s saying I want your ring,

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I want your mobile phone, and I
want your wallet.

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That means that Tamer now owns
Judah’s identity.

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Just think about that.
You can identify a person by

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their phone, by their wallets,
or as they used a seal in those

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days or a ring.
She owns his personality, his

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identity.
He’s happy to give it.

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I want you to take particular
notice of this word pledge.

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She asked for a pledge and he’s
quite happy to give a pledge.

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This is a man who’s quite happy
to sell his identity to a

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prostitute.
And that’s where he’s at in a

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couple of chapters time, he’s
going to give a pledge to his

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dad for completely the opposite
thing.

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He’s going to pledge his dad his
life for his brother’s life.

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And that’s the shift that we’re
going to see.

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But that’s the irony of this
story.

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You know, The funny thing is, as
people, when we make dumb

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decisions in life, we don’t
realize how dumb the decisions

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are.
Even around us can see us and

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we’re getting a reputation, but
we’re so obsessed because of our

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bitterness with the decisions
that we’re making.

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We can’t see the fool that we’re
making of ourselves.

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Just remember that if you go
through a phase of wanting to

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make some dumb decisions, listen
when your friends say things to

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you because you probably don’t
realize the way you’re being

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perceived and seen and
understood.

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Well, that’s what Jude is at.
He has these reputation and he’s

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willing to barter his identity
for a one night stand.

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There’s no commitment to this
man, but heck, it’s going to

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change in a matter of a couple
of chapters.

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How?
Why?

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What is it that changes Judah?
And that’s what I want you to

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really get your head around from
this study is that what God

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changes in Judah is what the
same thing that he does in your

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life and my life.
And he brings ironic situations

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to bring the reality of our
decisions back on ourselves.

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And if we’re honest with
ourselves, we see the way he’s

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working.
Have a look at it.

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Judah has a level of conscience.
He always does, always has,

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right?
He was a little bit

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uncomfortable with killing his
brother.

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Let’s just tell him it’s not.
I don’t get bottom of fingers,

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right?
Judah says to his daughter

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Tamar, grow up in your father’s
house because he thought he

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didn’t want Sheila to die like
his brothers.

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Sorry, that was actually for
something different.

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Verse 23.
I was meant to make a different

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point.
Running out of time, verse 23,

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Judah said.
Let her keep these things for

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herself, otherwise we’ll appear
to be dishonest.

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What does that show us?
Shows us a man who’s more

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worried about the way he
appears, the way he thinks he

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appears, than the facts are that
he does or doesn’t get the goat

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back to Tamar.
But I want you to appreciate

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this.
In verse 24, after three months,

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Judah was told, Now if you ever
do a study of Jacob, just take

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notice of how many things Jacob
is told but doesn’t hear about.

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It’s things like Reuben taking
advantage of Bill Hart.

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It’s like what happened to
Dinah.

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It’s like his family of Laban
who hates him.

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And he’s told that Jacob hears
lots of things, never sees it.

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And this is what’s happening to
Judah.

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Judah hears, he’s told that your
daughter-in-law, Tamar, has

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become a prostitute and as a
result, she’s now pregnant.

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And what is Judah do?
The other hypocrite just says,

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well, bring her out, let her be
burnt.

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How hypocritical is that?
He’s the other half of that, but

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he’s calling for her to be
brought out and burnt.

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Did he even ask a question?
Did he give her a trial, a fair,

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open opportunity to say how she
got to this situation?

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Nothing.
Why?

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Because Judah’s looking at the
situation going good, I’m done.

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I never wanted her to marry
Sheila anyway.

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I want her out of my life.
So if I can burn her for this,

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great.
Nothing’s changing.

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This man so far has it.
But see how these things are all

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coming together and they’re
coming to 1 enormous climactic

431
00:29:51,960 –> 00:29:54,600
moment in his life.
He’s told her to go back and

432
00:29:54,600 –> 00:29:57,640
live in your father’s house, but
he’s the one that can call the

433
00:29:57,640 –> 00:30:02,840
shots and say bring her out of
her father’s house and we’re

434
00:30:02,840 –> 00:30:06,920
going to burn it.
It was a priest’s daughter that

435
00:30:06,920 –> 00:30:09,160
would be burnt, was the custom
at the time.

436
00:30:10,120 –> 00:30:14,320
So he thinks that he’s a
priestly family because he’s

437
00:30:14,320 –> 00:30:20,720
associated with a noble family.
Remember, Dom Harm, not Jacob

438
00:30:20,720 –> 00:30:22,520
where he should be.
This is again the irony.

439
00:30:23,280 –> 00:30:24,760
He brings her out and says,
let’s burn it.

440
00:30:26,520 –> 00:30:28,480
Now, I want you to think about
this situation, just really

441
00:30:28,480 –> 00:30:31,040
grasp what this moment would
have been like.

442
00:30:33,280 –> 00:30:35,840
You imagine everyone’s gathered
around and there’s Jacob’s

443
00:30:35,840 –> 00:30:40,760
family here, there’s Tamar’s
family here, and there’s the

444
00:30:40,760 –> 00:30:44,960
locals from the town.
I can prove they’re all there,

445
00:30:45,400 –> 00:30:49,120
but just believe me, there’s a
whole group of people because

446
00:30:49,120 –> 00:30:53,360
they are bringing her out.
What for?

447
00:30:54,400 –> 00:30:57,440
To burn it.
You imagine they’re stocking the

448
00:30:57,440 –> 00:31:00,480
fire, the fire big enough to
burn someone.

449
00:31:01,840 –> 00:31:03,240
Just feel the drama of this
moment.

450
00:31:04,960 –> 00:31:10,680
And she sends a word.
She sends a servant off with a

451
00:31:10,680 –> 00:31:18,080
message to her father-in-law,
and the message is this, I’m

452
00:31:18,080 –> 00:31:21,440
pregnant by the man to whom
these belong.

453
00:31:25,640 –> 00:31:31,520
As she’s walking out to be
burnt, the servant is taking the

454
00:31:31,520 –> 00:31:42,560
message to Judah.
Oh, Can you imagine Judah in

455
00:31:42,560 –> 00:31:47,440
that crowd?
Where’s he sitting on the high

456
00:31:47,440 –> 00:31:53,400
mighty throne, deciding her
future, giving her verdict

457
00:31:54,440 –> 00:31:57,000
without a voice, without an
opportunity to speak for

458
00:31:57,000 –> 00:32:01,560
herself, and sitting up there
calling the shots.

459
00:32:04,040 –> 00:32:06,400
She just ripped the carpet out
from under his feet.

460
00:32:08,440 –> 00:32:13,160
More than that, that’s the
message that was sent.

461
00:32:14,560 –> 00:32:16,480
And Judah’s drawer would just
drop.

462
00:32:19,480 –> 00:32:22,320
Then says then there’s always a
break.

463
00:32:22,320 –> 00:32:23,840
Every translation has a break
here.

464
00:32:24,680 –> 00:32:27,040
So she sent one message saying
this to Judah.

465
00:32:28,520 –> 00:32:31,680
And then she stands there in
front of all these people and

466
00:32:31,680 –> 00:32:38,120
she goes, I want you to identify
whose seal, cord and staff this

467
00:32:38,120 –> 00:32:40,320
is.
She says that publicly to who?

468
00:32:41,840 –> 00:32:44,640
To the guy that wishes he could
fall through the cracks in the

469
00:32:44,640 –> 00:32:47,920
seat, that he’s on his high,
mighty pedestal.

470
00:32:50,880 –> 00:32:55,280
But she says, identify.
Do you know what that word

471
00:32:55,280 –> 00:32:57,480
means?
Not that I mean to Hebrew words

472
00:32:57,480 –> 00:33:02,760
in particular, but that is the
exact phrase that Judas said to

473
00:33:02,760 –> 00:33:08,080
his dad as he carried a coat
into his dad and said, dad, do

474
00:33:08,080 –> 00:33:10,280
you think it’s your favorite
boy’s coat?

475
00:33:11,040 –> 00:33:14,080
Can you identify the coat for
me?

476
00:33:18,000 –> 00:33:25,360
And here he is exposed with
exactly the same behaviour,

477
00:33:27,640 –> 00:33:31,000
caught in that situation.
This is the way God worked.

478
00:33:32,680 –> 00:33:38,520
God gives us opportunity to
learn from our mistakes.

479
00:33:40,160 –> 00:33:41,320
Now I want you to think about
this.

480
00:33:44,880 –> 00:33:48,560
Judah has a choice how to
respond.

481
00:33:50,360 –> 00:33:54,520
He could deny that and push
ahead with the burning.

482
00:33:57,920 –> 00:34:02,360
Or he could face up to the facts
with all that public humiliation

483
00:34:04,240 –> 00:34:11,120
and goes, Yep, I’m wrong.
Those words don’t come easily.

484
00:34:13,760 –> 00:34:21,440
And he said every bit of it.
She is more righteous than me.

485
00:34:22,320 –> 00:34:27,560
He owned it.
He called it what it is.

486
00:34:28,639 –> 00:34:34,639
They were both involved in this.
No, she’s more righteous than he

487
00:34:34,639 –> 00:34:38,000
was.
And in that publicly

488
00:34:38,000 –> 00:34:40,920
embarrassing moment where he
thought he was on his high and

489
00:34:40,920 –> 00:34:45,560
mighty throne, he’s been pulled
right down to the ground.

490
00:34:45,560 –> 00:34:49,880
And she’s been shown to be the
righteous party who simply

491
00:34:49,880 –> 00:34:56,639
wanted what his word to be
because he promised a child to

492
00:34:56,639 –> 00:35:01,320
hurt and he was playing games
and not giving her his third

493
00:35:01,320 –> 00:35:06,160
son.
And she just wanted what was

494
00:35:06,160 –> 00:35:10,440
rightfully hers and she stuck to
it.

495
00:35:12,240 –> 00:35:15,640
He was the guy that was being
unrighteous.

496
00:35:16,920 –> 00:35:24,680
Can you feel that?
Just imagine the moment for

497
00:35:24,680 –> 00:35:34,480
Judah, not only realizing that
first statement that he’s about

498
00:35:34,480 –> 00:35:40,600
to be exposed, but because he
doesn’t act, she takes to that

499
00:35:40,600 –> 00:35:47,800
next level and says identify it.
And we have proof that Judah has

500
00:35:47,840 –> 00:35:50,440
struggling in his mind what he
did to his dad.

501
00:35:50,440 –> 00:35:52,200
He knows that we’re going to see
that in the next study.

502
00:35:52,520 –> 00:35:55,400
It’s playing in his mind.
It’s affecting him.

503
00:35:56,800 –> 00:36:00,120
And I think this moment had
dramatic impact on Judah.

504
00:36:00,280 –> 00:36:04,560
His conscience is just screaming
at him.

505
00:36:08,600 –> 00:36:10,760
Remember, this is the guy that
was hypocritical about.

506
00:36:10,760 –> 00:36:13,880
We might appear to have not
delivered the goat to Tamer.

507
00:36:15,760 –> 00:36:21,680
How’s he appearing now?
It’s a huge lesson here.

508
00:36:23,200 –> 00:36:24,640
I’ll make this point really
clearly.

509
00:36:27,200 –> 00:36:31,800
When we get confronted with
something we’ve done wrong and

510
00:36:31,800 –> 00:36:41,960
we all do it, we all do things
wrong, own it, face up, call it

511
00:36:41,960 –> 00:36:46,440
what it is.
Because if Judah tried to lie in

512
00:36:46,440 –> 00:36:49,360
that situation, what do you
think that whole crowd of people

513
00:36:49,360 –> 00:36:53,320
would have been thinking?
They know what happened.

514
00:36:54,720 –> 00:36:59,920
They know that signet, that
staff, that seal, they know his

515
00:36:59,920 –> 00:37:03,120
identity is in her hands.
They know the truth of the

516
00:37:03,120 –> 00:37:05,160
situation.
They know his reputation.

517
00:37:06,760 –> 00:37:08,560
He’s a fool to think he could
lie.

518
00:37:09,640 –> 00:37:13,120
And so are we when we try to
pull the wool over our brothers

519
00:37:13,120 –> 00:37:20,440
and sisters of Rally People and
act as if we don’t do something

520
00:37:21,240 –> 00:37:23,800
or haven’t done something when
we’ve been caught out for it.

521
00:37:23,800 –> 00:37:25,960
So there’s a really important
lesson to learn.

522
00:37:25,960 –> 00:37:31,120
Own up to your situation, face
up to what it is now.

523
00:37:32,680 –> 00:37:34,000
I want to pull all that story
together.

524
00:37:35,200 –> 00:37:40,480
What is Judah being taught?
It’s one word and it’s empathy.

525
00:37:42,280 –> 00:37:48,920
Just appreciate someone else’s
position for a minute of your

526
00:37:48,920 –> 00:37:51,400
life, Judah.
Just grasp this.

527
00:37:56,720 –> 00:38:02,000
Life has taken Judah down a path
that led him to appreciate, and

528
00:38:02,000 –> 00:38:04,560
I say appreciate in an
incredible way, his father’s

529
00:38:04,560 –> 00:38:08,800
story.
Just think, what’s it like Judah

530
00:38:09,760 –> 00:38:15,720
to have lost a grown son or two
actually?

531
00:38:17,480 –> 00:38:23,360
Because at this point, Jacob has
lost a 17 year old son and he’s

532
00:38:23,360 –> 00:38:28,640
about to lose another son.
Judah’s lost two grown sons

533
00:38:29,840 –> 00:38:36,760
killed by God.
What’s it like, Judah, to be

534
00:38:36,760 –> 00:38:43,680
protecting yours youngest son?
Because that’s what you’re angry

535
00:38:43,680 –> 00:38:46,680
at your dad about protecting
Joseph?

536
00:38:47,160 –> 00:38:51,920
Yeah.
What’s it like to lose the wife

537
00:38:51,920 –> 00:38:56,760
that you live love and they’d be
left with this woman, Tamar,

538
00:38:56,760 –> 00:39:00,560
that you never actually did
love, but now you’ve got to live

539
00:39:00,560 –> 00:39:08,440
with her?
That’s more than that.

540
00:39:09,400 –> 00:39:17,200
What’s it like to have children
that you didn’t want to have?

541
00:39:19,200 –> 00:39:24,160
Because Judo now has two twins
about to be born.

542
00:39:24,160 –> 00:39:29,240
He doesn’t know that quite yet.
That’s the final piece that will

543
00:39:29,240 –> 00:39:35,320
fit into this puzzle.
What’s it like to be tricked by

544
00:39:35,320 –> 00:39:37,880
a veil that was overtime us
eyes?

545
00:39:39,160 –> 00:39:41,280
Bit like the coat that you gave
to your dad.

546
00:39:42,960 –> 00:39:46,440
A bit like the coat that your
dad tricked your dad’s dad with.

547
00:39:54,560 –> 00:40:01,400
Just stop and think about that
for a minute and discern whether

548
00:40:01,400 –> 00:40:17,600
you’re an honest, truthful man.
Identify this code and in that

549
00:40:17,600 –> 00:40:24,520
moment Judah is taught the value
of family.

550
00:40:25,920 –> 00:40:31,080
Of relationships, of all the
things that he despised and was

551
00:40:31,080 –> 00:40:36,200
bitter about and all got turned
around and put back on his head.

552
00:40:38,360 –> 00:40:41,560
But the most encouraging thing
is that is what is going to

553
00:40:41,560 –> 00:40:45,320
rebuild him.
And in trials, we think that

554
00:40:45,320 –> 00:40:48,920
that breaks us, we give up.
And we think, I can’t recover

555
00:40:48,920 –> 00:40:51,440
from this.
And Judah’s standing up there

556
00:40:51,440 –> 00:40:53,840
calling the shots on her.
He’s now embarrassed.

557
00:40:53,840 –> 00:40:56,080
He could go out and go, I can’t
recover.

558
00:40:56,480 –> 00:41:02,680
I’m past it.
That is what is going to rebuild

559
00:41:02,680 –> 00:41:06,720
Judah and change him.
Those very experiences.

560
00:41:07,720 –> 00:41:10,080
And that’s what I want you to
grasp in your life, too.

561
00:41:10,320 –> 00:41:13,840
The mistakes are learning,
opportunities to become a better

562
00:41:13,840 –> 00:41:17,280
person, to grow.
I very much hope you don’t have

563
00:41:17,280 –> 00:41:25,480
to go to the moral despair of
where Judah is brought, but

564
00:41:25,480 –> 00:41:30,280
that’s how we learnt.
I want to put it this way.

565
00:41:30,680 –> 00:41:36,800
The meals of God’s Providence
and the way God works in our

566
00:41:36,800 –> 00:41:42,000
life is through Providence.
And Providence grinds through

567
00:41:42,000 –> 00:41:48,160
our life very, very slowly.
And this wheel has turned over

568
00:41:48,160 –> 00:41:52,320
20 something years.
But what it does is it grinds

569
00:41:52,560 –> 00:41:57,680
incredibly precise because it’s
God’s meal.

570
00:41:58,600 –> 00:42:01,600
God knows exactly what he’s
doing in our life.

571
00:42:03,560 –> 00:42:09,480
The precision is incredible.
It’s ironic, isn’t it?

572
00:42:11,160 –> 00:42:14,600
It’s the way God works.
Just think about this man, same

573
00:42:14,600 –> 00:42:22,640
problem and God ended his life
in a prison without his eyes

574
00:42:23,760 –> 00:42:29,200
doing the job that was normally
allocated to the ladies so that

575
00:42:29,200 –> 00:42:40,400
he could learn truthfulness.
That’s a huge lesson to learn.

576
00:42:43,920 –> 00:42:48,720
It’s called irony.
Irony is the kind of thing,

577
00:42:48,720 –> 00:42:51,200
let’s define it for a second.
It’s like irony is like when the

578
00:42:51,240 –> 00:42:52,640
ambulance runs over and kills
you.

579
00:42:52,640 –> 00:42:56,200
You know, the one that was
coming to help you ambulance.

580
00:42:57,200 –> 00:43:02,600
Use that as an analogy.
Maybe irony is when the fire

581
00:43:02,600 –> 00:43:04,960
engine burns up or the fire
station burns up.

582
00:43:08,280 –> 00:43:09,640
See how there’s a similarity in
it?

583
00:43:10,520 –> 00:43:12,280
It’s like us drawing a tree on a
piece of paper.

584
00:43:12,280 –> 00:43:19,120
That’s irony.
Irony happens in your life too,

585
00:43:21,920 –> 00:43:31,160
and God controls it.
He allows it to occur by our own

586
00:43:31,480 –> 00:43:41,440
dumb decisions that we are being
forced to have to own, man up to

587
00:43:43,200 –> 00:43:50,520
and face the consequences of.
And that’s what makes a man a

588
00:43:50,520 –> 00:43:55,360
man or a woman a woman.
We’re picking on men in this

589
00:43:55,360 –> 00:44:01,960
story.
Face up to the truth of the

590
00:44:01,960 –> 00:44:06,600
situation.
Cosande is coming.

591
00:44:07,560 –> 00:44:11,880
Jesus says to us the judgement
that you judge on other people,

592
00:44:12,880 –> 00:44:15,720
bring her out and burn her.
That’s how you’ll be judged.

593
00:44:16,600 –> 00:44:19,160
The measure that you meet on
people is the way it’ll be

594
00:44:19,160 –> 00:44:22,920
measured to you.
Again at the judgement seat.

595
00:44:25,640 –> 00:44:26,800
And young people, don’t be
fooled.

596
00:44:28,320 –> 00:44:33,600
God is not mocked.
What you sow in your life,

597
00:44:34,600 –> 00:44:34,960
you’re right.