Ben Pitcher – Class 6: Social Media

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Well, good evening, everyone.
And we are a lot of young people

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down the front here which is
good because that’s exactly who

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I’d like to be talking to.
So just make sure that because

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I’m in oit and trouble with it
people as we speak a lot of

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jargon and TLS which is three
letter acronyms so wonderful

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about social media.
Do you know what social media

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means?
When I say that word, yeah,

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anybody what social media?
Yep.

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You’re chatting to people
online.

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Yep.
Facebook.

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Yep.
That’s one.

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Anything else?
Yeah, see the adults.

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All no Instagram, Snapchat.
Yeah.

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But not unique.
You guys are up with the new

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ones like mastodons and aloe and
you guys.

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Anyway, I logged in there and
there’s nothing there yet, let

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me tell you anyway.
So that’s one of the things

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that’s always changing.
So when I talk about a social

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media feed because I’m not going
to talk about one specific

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platform, if I talk about us.
So we know what social media is,

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if I talk about a social media
feed, what do you think of

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social media feed is I’ll give
you hints.

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Not you eating it.
Do you know, what do you think

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the feed of social media feed
is?

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So if you go to Facebook, what
do you look at?

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Yeah.
Yeah.

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You look at on your phone and
you look at your Facebook.

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What’s it called?
Come on old people.

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Yeah, it’s your Facebook wall so
all the comments you’ve made.

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So if you’re on Twitter it’s all
your tweets.

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Fits on the Instagram, it’s all
your photos.

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So that’s your social when we
talk about a social media feed,

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its the information, all the
information in sequence that

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you’ve posted up there.
Okay cool.

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So the thing is, I’m talking
about a social media manual

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tonight and social media is not
directly mentioned in the Bible.

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Because how many, how many
thousands of years ago was the

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Bible written?
All right, so it was written

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over, thousands of years and the
last book we’ve got is nearly

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2000 years old.
So even though social media is

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not mentioned the Bible, I found
a verse that’s really, really

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close.
You have a read of this and

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Ecclesiastes, 10 verse 20, even
in your thoughts, don’t curse

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the king nor in your bedroom
curse, the rich for a bird of

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the air, air will carry your
voice.

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Sorry that got locked out or
some winged creature will All

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the matter.
So there you are Twitter with

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all its entertainment.
Gossip can take your comment

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that you post in the bedroom and
instantly post it, the world

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over.
So be careful about talking

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about the rich or the king from
your bedroom.

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So that’s what social media is.
Literally, everyone has the

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ability now to publish And
everyone has a voice as loud as

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someone else.
So when you look at someone’s

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Social Media profile or their
feed, you actually get a bit of

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an idea on a feel for, you know,
how they think perhaps and what

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topics interest them.
So, you know, this is my Twitter

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feed and he’s not here, sorry
the anchors not for the Dockers,

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it’s because I like sailing but
like, you know, there’s

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batteries and infant development
and power.

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And so there’s sort of things
that I’m interested in science.

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Second, some outdoor stuff in
the photos, you can see there.

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So that’s you can.
Look at my social media feed and

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instantly get a picture of sort
of things that interest me what

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I post about.
So there’s post from random

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times about random topics as I
came across them sort of from

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August back to June and you can
see groupings of topics of

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interest in someone’s Social
Media profile.

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So, often You’ll follow someone
for this types of topics that

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they post about, but all their
poster, sort of random as they

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come across information.
So, here’s the interesting

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thing, Have you ever thought
that the Book of Proverbs is a

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bit like someone’s Social Media
feed?

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Because you got all these posts
from the one author in sort of

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no particular order about
topics, that were important, as

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they came across them.
And, you know, I’ve heard it

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said that the Book of Proverbs
is a bit like life where often

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we learning lessons from
ourselves and others experience

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as we come across them, and
Proverbs is a bit like that

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random order of things that, as
you come across them.

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So, it’s not structured like,
you know, a classroom text or

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some of the other letters, where
it’s all sequential has all

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these random things, as the as
the teacher came across them and

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there’s groupings of areas of
interest and topics.

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So, if you’ve never thought of
it before, perhaps you can think

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of the Verbs as being a bit more
up-to-date than you thought.

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And it’s a series of social
media posts from the right of

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the proverb.
So he is Proverbs 27.

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You know, don’t boast about
tomorrow.

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Let another praise.
You not out of your own mouth.

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A stone is heavy and Sanders.
Wait, you buffoons provocation

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is heavier than both the fry.
The primaries must come across.

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Lots of foolish, people all day.
And you just post about uh, you

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know, it’s better to perhaps be
silent and you won’t be thought

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a fool like this bloke.
I’m standing behind in line,

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maybe.
So, Roth is cruel.

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Anger is overwhelming better as
open rebuke and Hidden love.

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Faithful are the wounds of a
friend, producer, the kisses,

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the enemy.
So he said, I must have gone

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through some bit of a something
wearing shorter.

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There was an issue where he
suddenly discovered the benefits

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of a true friend.
So yeah, those perhaps something

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to think about and that’s really
what we’re going to use tonight.

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In terms of perhaps the Bible’s
not as irrelevant as you think

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and an old musty document, maybe
it’s right up to date.

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Wait.
So this is nothing new Under the

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Sun.
It says in Ecclesiastes and the

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way that we consume information
online now is exactly the same

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way Proverbs and Ecclesiastes is
structured And, you know, to add

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to the idea of the Book of
Proverbs being like a social

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media.
What do you think about Facebook

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stalking?
So here’s a proverb that says,

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take no hick, so don’t go
looking to close at Facebook,

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take, no heed to all the words
that are spoken.

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Lest thou hear thy servant curse
thee.

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So there’s some advice to
employers, not to go looking too

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deeply in their employees,
social media, profile, or they

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might find a post cursing them.
So, And that’s really my point

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that we want to come around
tonight is there’s actually

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information right up-to-date
relevant for today’s technology

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in this book of the Bible and so
the Bible as a whole but

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Proverbs particularly is a
really good guide book as to how

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to navigate in a Godly way on a
social media platform.

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So the social media manual in
case you didn’t quite get it.

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That we’re talking about tonight
is God’s word.

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Spell before we get into the
advice of the Bible.

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I need to tell you something.
That’s a really important

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internet.
Communication principle.

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It’s not.
It’s not a viable principle.

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It’s an IT principle based on
the engineering of the internet

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and the networking but it’s
really important.

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So really want you young people
to listen to me on this.

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Every piece of communication on
the Internet is like a postcard.

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So, it’s not private.
When you send an email, it goes

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through a number of servers
before it gets to the person

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that you send it to.
And each of those servers reads

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that message along the way with
the rare exception of a message,

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that’s end-to-end encrypted, but
even there, the person on the

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other end can take a screenshot
and share that message that you

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gave to them.
So, every message that you post

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like a physical postcard that
people might It put on their

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fridge and other people might
just come wandering over.

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Go, it’s an interesting message.
Everything that you post online

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is like a postcard where someone
you send it to someone, you

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think it’s just to that person.
But there’s always the

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possibility that someone else
can see and that they can share

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it with someone else and that
person can flick that postcard

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over and read it.
So, My first principal really

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want, you understand tonight is
that every internet

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communication on.
Every platform is like a

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postcard.
The person you’re sending it to

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can share it with others and so,
getting back to the fridge

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analogy, you know, how would you
like someone to turn over a

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postcard from you on someone’s
at someone else’s house on the

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fridge?
For all to see and that

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postcards full of hurtful words.
Nasty gossip.

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Well, have a harsh bullying
time.

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Would you like to send a
postcard in the pose to someone

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like that?
And it’s on their fridge?

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And all their friends can come
over and go off, are a bit nasty

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to you.
But that’s what posting on the

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Internet is exactly.
So we strive to do everything to

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God’s glory because he’s
watching everything we do and

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he’s pleased when we do the
right thing.

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And he can see every
communication.

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Of course, even all the private
ones, but you need to realize,

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as well as God being able to see
them the internet, really has no

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privacy and there’s no delete or
retract button where you can

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take it back.
Once you’ve hit the post button.

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And so the principal I tell my
children and other young people

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is never write anything on the
internet and an email or in a

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social media post.
Then hit submit that you would

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not be happy to see on a
postcard on someone’s fridge,

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that’s really, really important.
And so you only say things that

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you’re happy for everyone else
to read and not just messages

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with a certain Clique would
think funny or cool if they’re

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not, you know, if they’re,
they’ve got to be Godly

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messages, that would give no one
offense.

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If they were to turn it over and
read that postcard.

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And so I think this advice from
Romans is all around, excellent

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advice.
If possible as far as it depends

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with you live peaceably, with
all people.

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So that really I think is an
all-around.

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Good Bible, quote about our
communication in the sorts of

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things.
We say.

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So look, I think social media in
some ways Is similar to some

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things.
We’ve had a lot along way

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before, so I’m not going to go
in some big rant about how

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everyone’s distracted by their
screens.

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The fact is we’ve always found
ways to ignore other people.

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Even before we had screens
however, you know, our life, The

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Balancing Act.
So we’ve all got interests but

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the problem is we can get some
of those interests and things

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that we like doing out of whack.
So you can probably think of

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someone whose interest is taken
over their life.

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So here’s someone going, you
know, why would a flyover get

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caught by a Venus flytrap?
What a stupid animal and mice.

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You know should be ashamed of
getting caught on a simple trap

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and look at this.
Bear trap, you know what, a

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silly bear to get caught in that
and then they’re at home trapped

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on their computer all day.
So, my point is that social

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media also can take over our
life.

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So we need to set ourselves
boundaries and I’m really talk

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about mental, boundaries about
how far we let it take over our

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life.
So it’s a useful tool.

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We can keep in contact with
friends, but we need to be

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careful about how much we get
sucked in and in, and let that

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take over every minute of our
Our our day because it’s a very

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easy to trap to fall into so
that you know, can the Bible

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help us get our life in this
this area and balance and I

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believe it can.
And the blocks are the Bible

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doesn’t talk about social media,
even though this tip funny

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quote, that could be Twitter but
has an awful lot of useful

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information about friends.
And, you know, whilst I

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personally think that Facebook
has devalued the meaning of the

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word friend, it’s true.
That social media and our social

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lives online.
Revolve around our interactions

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with a group that we can broadly
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Our friends and acquaintances.
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at some of the wisdom that we
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And, you know, I think our
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complicated and hard to
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just take it a versa to time.
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it’s saying if you buy an ox
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out for the stool.
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So You know, cows produce
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Aikau ownership which is mucking
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So that’s really, you know how
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Proverbs is mostly now I
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My niggle about Facebook because
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everybody as a friend.
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friend Any idea, what, what’s a
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true friend?
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You got friends sitting there.
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you’re not be I say the wrong
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Yeah, that’s a really good one.
Somebody who knows you and likes

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you anyway, right?
It doesn’t care what I’m doing.

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you as much as other people.
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That’s really, really important.
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Someone who will stick with you.
So you look you really know what

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a friend is.
That’s awesome.

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So here’s a really good quote,
that’s very close to Uncle

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Jason’s.
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Are.
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you should be.
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you and love you but they’re
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good things.
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So what about acquaintances?
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social media is a bit of a
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lot of the people that you join
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acquaintances and the proverb
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many The companions or
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So, you know, these
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think of a really good example,
who can think of a good example

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in the New Testament in a
parable of Jesus, where someone

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had lots of friends.
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but when they got into trouble,
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Do you know who I’m the product?
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These girls know, they’re just
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The Prodigal Son.
Remember here, when he had all

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this money had all these
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friends, and when you ran the
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eating pig food because no one
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So, they were acquaintances.
So, a man of many acquaintances

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will come to ruin, but whoops.
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In, in a social media sense, if
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to current day, we’re talking
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people that we don’t have a real
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know, we they just give us a
like on things and that’s about

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as far as it goes.
So you know, and try to comment

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on all their profiles and keep
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you back and say all that.
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much time and energy.
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going to be disruptive because
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you’re trying to write a comment
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So they’ll write comments back
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That will lead your life to
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And, you know, this is fit for
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There’s actually documented
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that so many interactions that
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So this article on, you can
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What teen depression?
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The kids are not, all right, but
the author makes this comment.

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You my dozens of conversations
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and counselors across the
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There was a pervasive sense that
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Today’s a draining full-time job
that includes doing school work

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managing a social media identity
fretting about career and

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climate change.
Sexism racism, every fight or

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flight every fight and
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Or slight is documented online
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incident.
It’s exhausting where the first

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generation that cannot Escape
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Says, one young girl, we’re all
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getting this constant pressure
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relationships from the way
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So that’s why we need to make
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have boundaries because they’re
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following them everywhere, and
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So on the flip side, if you keep
reading in this verse in the

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Proverbs, the Proverbs really
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So it said, And of many
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but there’s one type of friend
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brother.
So you know, there’s true

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friends who don’t need you to
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post.
They know that you’ll their

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friend, you know, they don’t
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you’re just there.
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to be like a brother brother or
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acquaintance.
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be a brother or sister to your
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acquaintance that gives likes
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And so the number of friends
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Instagram followers on Instagram
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good we are.
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We are, you know, we how close
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is a better metric.
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think of in a brotherly or
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better metric of how good a
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acquaintances is because too
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ruin.
They’re not really that

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valuable.
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to friends, probably point out
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close of a friend so close that
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So here’s another one of those
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Proverbs, if you found honey,
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You lest you have your fill of
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company your companionship can
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But if you if you hang around
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are in the way all the time,
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So it’s like, you know, you
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eat a whole show, bagful it is
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You’ll feel sick.
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your neighbor’s house lessee.
Have you still love you and hate

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you?
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but there’s a That you can be
clawing and sickly and people

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just goes, all right so you
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friend so when it comes to our
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there’s a term for people that
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oversharing.
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scientific paper about
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called less is more.
The Lure of ambiguity or why

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familiarity breeds contempt or
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And it’s saying the research is
that people share and so much

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makes other people hate them and
this one here, this book privacy

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online.
I’ve highlighted the bit there

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it’s inevitable that we end up
knowing more about people and

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disliking them because of it.
So just think twice before you

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post that photo of that sandwich
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proverb says one post here and
Now, and then is really

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enjoyable.
But if you post every second of

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everyday, people just going to
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feel like vomiting?
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Sweet and light, right?
Just a tree.

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Make every post that you do a
treat for people that they go

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on.
They post such good things

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rather than go on clothes.
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remember a true friend can be
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So, you know, I thinking about
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What’s some ways that you think
that you could use social media

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online in a positive way rather
than a negative way.

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So, we talked the – what some
ways that you could post some

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things to social media and use
social media that to strengthen

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friendships, These adults might
want to pop up here.

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So inspirational quotes like
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that I posted of a friend that
came from social media, you

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know, so you can find Bible
quotes in that you enjoy in nice

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format and post them.
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What how else can you strengthen
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in a positive way?
The form of special interest

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groups.
Yeah, so you know in social

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media you don’t have to just
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You can create a Facebook group
or a group of people that all

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might be discussing the readings
at for the day so that could be

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a readings group and so you when
you join that group, you

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discussing the Bible readings or
maybe you’re doing research on

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Bible topic like the Kings and
so you’re all digging up

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research and posting it on there
to share to each other.

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So you’re all real time sharing
research and information and

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discussing it.
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these a bit more for adults, but
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So events you know on Facebook
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So like when you get to youth
group age they’ll often advise

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you on social media.
If you follow them, when you

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know, when bookings, are opening
for a camp or updates, about

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what youth activities are going
on and often, they’ll post

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photos of people having fun
there and you can go see

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yourself after the event.
So yeah, that’s a really good

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way to keep in touch with what’s
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That you can be involved with
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Yeah.
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Yeah, so it’s like you actually
get an opportunity so you chat

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with your friends about
something and you’re all, you

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know, talking about this topic
and then after you go away and

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think about it, you’ve actually
got an opportunity to reflect

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and perhaps find something that
you’d thought of or you’d spoken

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to your mom and Dad and Dad said
something and you can you can

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actually add to the conversation
afterwards or you might find a

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an article in a In a book, or a
magazine or a, or a Bible verse

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that relates to the conversation
that you’re having and you could

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post it.
So you keep the true friends

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that you were having that really
good conversation with, you can

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keep that conversation going and
be helpful.

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Now, the really obvious thing is
that you can keep in touch with

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people, especially people like,
as you grow up and make friends

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in youth group, and then you
might go to a youth conference,

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the might be in another state or
you might end up with friends,

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overseas, not mentioning any
names of People who might be

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moving overseas, but, you know,
you can actually then keep in

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touch with them and reach out to
them and they can feel you.

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It would be like a sweet treat
for them to get a message from

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you.
You know, like what’s going on

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here at bustled and bible
school, take a selfie and and

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send it to them.
So that that can be a really

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sweet tree when you’ve developed
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True friendships.
We’re talking about that

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stretch, our Over Australian
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Yeah, yeah, so the prodigal son.
That was looking for a way back.

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Maybe my to come back sooner.
If he could tweet to his dad at

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the pigs diet, Joe, like,
seriously his dad was watching

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out or maybe his dad was
watching his social media feed

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and sort of was ready to receive
him because he could see that

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the topics that he was posting
about what coming around a bit

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to being a bit more conducive to
wanting you know that thought

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process.
He had of maybe my dad’s

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Servants looked after better
than me, you could think of it

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like that.
So, yes, really, really some

437
00:27:04,800 –> 00:27:07,300
positive things.
So there’s some good use of

438
00:27:07,300 –> 00:27:09,800
social media.
Does anyone know who this is in

439
00:27:09,800 –> 00:27:12,100
the original painting?
It might be an adult question.

440
00:27:12,700 –> 00:27:14,800
Anyone know what that does the
famous painting?

441
00:27:14,800 –> 00:27:19,900
That’s been narcissus, right?
So, narcissus is a Greek myth

442
00:27:20,900 –> 00:27:23,200
that from which we get the word
narcissist.

443
00:27:23,200 –> 00:27:26,900
So does anyone want to give me
the 10 second summary of what

444
00:27:26,900 –> 00:27:34,200
this painting is?
I’ve who narcissus is Yes, he

445
00:27:34,200 –> 00:27:37,200
couldn’t he, you know, there’s
this lovely girl there and he’s

446
00:27:37,200 –> 00:27:40,400
fallen in love with his own
reflection, right.

447
00:27:40,800 –> 00:27:43,400
And thinks that’s the most
beautiful thing is saying.

448
00:27:44,100 –> 00:27:49,700
So you know, I want to deal with
a few challenges of social media

449
00:27:49,700 –> 00:27:53,200
just briefly and the first one I
want to talk about is a living

450
00:27:53,200 –> 00:27:57,400
for the likes.
You know where boys you say

451
00:27:57,400 –> 00:28:00,500
something a little bit edgy or
do something risky.

452
00:28:02,100 –> 00:28:05,300
And you get a really big
response and Everyone likes that

453
00:28:05,300 –> 00:28:09,300
close that you do and then you
tempted to take a bit further

454
00:28:10,200 –> 00:28:15,900
or, you know, girls, you do
something like, you know, dress

455
00:28:15,900 –> 00:28:19,400
up all glamorous, and take a
shot or bear a shoulder or

456
00:28:19,400 –> 00:28:23,200
something, and try and look a
luring or daring, and then you

457
00:28:23,200 –> 00:28:26,200
to get lots of feedback and
attention, but who’s giving you

458
00:28:26,200 –> 00:28:31,200
that attention?
You know who’s giving you the

459
00:28:31,200 –> 00:28:34,100
lights and approval, you know,
are they people that?

460
00:28:34,100 –> 00:28:36,300
Are they your best friends?
Are they people that you know,

461
00:28:36,300 –> 00:28:39,400
and care about so who are you
doing this for?

462
00:28:39,900 –> 00:28:43,300
You know, and is it positive
feedback that you’re getting?

463
00:28:43,400 –> 00:28:46,600
Or is it just you know?
So like you you just getting

464
00:28:46,700 –> 00:28:50,000
lots of salacious and rapacious
comments, filling up your news

465
00:28:50,000 –> 00:28:53,100
feed that are taking the thing
that you did sort of a little

466
00:28:53,100 –> 00:28:56,100
bit risque assure a little bit
daring.

467
00:28:56,100 –> 00:28:58,800
If you’re a bloke said
something, A bit edgy and then

468
00:28:58,800 –> 00:29:02,600
all these comments are taking it
way further than you meant to.

469
00:29:03,400 –> 00:29:07,700
So just think about that come
back to what would a true friend

470
00:29:07,700 –> 00:29:11,500
like to see on a postcard on
their fridge?

471
00:29:11,900 –> 00:29:15,400
Do you really want this?
And everyone else’s comments

472
00:29:15,400 –> 00:29:22,400
attached on, posted on someone’s
fridge for someone else to see.

473
00:29:23,600 –> 00:29:27,300
And also be mindful that, this
is what you post online.

474
00:29:27,300 –> 00:29:30,400
Like I said, you can’t delete
it, you can never take it back.

475
00:29:30,700 –> 00:29:37,200
So it’s your reputation and
proverb says, a good name is to

476
00:29:37,200 –> 00:29:40,500
be chosen rather than great
riches and favor better than

477
00:29:40,500 –> 00:29:42,800
silver or gold.
So, you know, of course, the

478
00:29:42,800 –> 00:29:46,200
ultimate good name that we would
like, to be known by his God’s

479
00:29:46,200 –> 00:29:49,300
name, isn’t it?
But this is talking about our

480
00:29:49,300 –> 00:29:53,800
good name to our reputation and
you know, E astiz, the more

481
00:29:53,800 –> 00:29:58,700
complicated book talks about
people’s reputation being like

482
00:29:58,700 –> 00:30:02,900
that’s been destroyed, like dead
flies making a precious ointment

483
00:30:02,900 –> 00:30:06,800
to stink.
So, you know, we can we can be

484
00:30:06,800 –> 00:30:10,300
like those flies with other
people’s reputations with what

485
00:30:10,300 –> 00:30:13,100
we say about them.
And so we can we have to be

486
00:30:13,100 –> 00:30:17,300
careful about making a stink out
of other people like out of

487
00:30:17,300 –> 00:30:20,100
other people’s names.
Everyone sort of, when you say

488
00:30:20,100 –> 00:30:22,800
been picture, everyone goes and
looks a bit side.

489
00:30:22,900 –> 00:30:25,500
Woods because there’s all these
flies been crawling around

490
00:30:25,500 –> 00:30:27,600
saying things about been picture
online.

491
00:30:27,900 –> 00:30:30,500
That makes people question that
person’s name.

492
00:30:31,400 –> 00:30:33,900
So we have to be really careful
about what we say about other

493
00:30:33,900 –> 00:30:37,100
people.
But also our own actions and our

494
00:30:37,100 –> 00:30:39,900
own posts.
And the words we say can affect

495
00:30:39,900 –> 00:30:42,000
our reputation.
So you can get a reputation of

496
00:30:42,008 –> 00:30:46,100
being a nasty argumentative
person because you of what you

497
00:30:46,100 –> 00:30:49,000
post.
So it doesn’t take someone else,

498
00:30:49,000 –> 00:30:52,100
another fly to mock it up.
We can do that for ourselves so

499
00:30:52,100 –> 00:30:57,300
just be Careful and, you know,
never in history have job

500
00:30:57,300 –> 00:31:01,300
recruiters or potential boss has
had such an ability to see the

501
00:31:01,300 –> 00:31:03,100
Integrity of a potential
employee.

502
00:31:03,100 –> 00:31:07,000
So, when they get a resume on
their desk, you can search that

503
00:31:07,000 –> 00:31:10,300
that person’s name and see what
pops up on social media and see

504
00:31:10,300 –> 00:31:14,600
whether there are worthwhile
honorable person to employ and,

505
00:31:14,600 –> 00:31:18,600
you know, just by doing a
Facebook search on them.

506
00:31:18,600 –> 00:31:21,700
So be really careful about the
things that you post on time.

507
00:31:21,700 –> 00:31:26,500
They hang around for So now you
just this probably a little bit

508
00:31:26,500 –> 00:31:28,800
more for parents.
I know social media is not

509
00:31:29,000 –> 00:31:34,900
legally allowed until you’re 30
but, you know, in our family, I

510
00:31:36,100 –> 00:31:38,800
wouldn’t advise my children.
That’s the minimum that the

511
00:31:38,800 –> 00:31:41,800
world thinks is appropriate.
So in our family, I wouldn’t let

512
00:31:41,800 –> 00:31:44,300
our children have some sort of
social media account of their

513
00:31:44,300 –> 00:31:48,600
own two of our 16, at least,
before that we shared family

514
00:31:48,600 –> 00:31:52,200
accounts, so that protected them
in many ways.

515
00:31:52,200 –> 00:31:56,000
So, You know, they’re including
their reputation from posting

516
00:31:56,000 –> 00:31:59,600
too many silly things that never
go away age, 13, 14.

517
00:31:59,900 –> 00:32:02,500
When you’re getting a job at 20,
people could still find it.

518
00:32:02,800 –> 00:32:06,000
So, you know, this comment more
people are concerned with

519
00:32:06,000 –> 00:32:08,000
deleting history of and making
it.

520
00:32:09,300 –> 00:32:13,600
And if you have family accounts,
like a family, Skype account,

521
00:32:13,600 –> 00:32:17,100
and a family, whatever, other
social media account, that the

522
00:32:17,100 –> 00:32:20,400
kids can post to and have chats
in, you actually get to Mentor

523
00:32:20,400 –> 00:32:22,700
them and see the conversations
that they’re having.

524
00:32:23,600 –> 00:32:26,400
Because they’re all in your
shared family feet, so it’s like

525
00:32:26,600 –> 00:32:29,500
90 of creating a protection for
them when they search for their

526
00:32:29,500 –> 00:32:30,800
name.
It won’t pop up because it’ll be

527
00:32:30,800 –> 00:32:35,300
like the picture family.
We just work hook, always cool,

528
00:32:35,300 –> 00:32:38,300
the picture porridge pot, so you
search for that on.

529
00:32:38,300 –> 00:32:43,600
Skype might still be there but
but you create an environment

530
00:32:43,600 –> 00:32:47,200
that you can mentor and oversee
what they’re doing because it’s

531
00:32:47,200 –> 00:32:52,500
all postcards inside and then
area that and you can put the

532
00:32:52,500 –> 00:32:55,400
one account on Multiple devices
and they can all use it.

533
00:32:55,400 –> 00:32:57,300
So that’s just my advice for
you.

534
00:32:59,000 –> 00:33:02,200
So remember that Proverbs is
pretty blunt and to the point.

535
00:33:02,500 –> 00:33:06,900
So, what about this proverb
answer, not a fool according to

536
00:33:06,900 –> 00:33:10,800
his folly, lest you be like him
yourself?

537
00:33:12,200 –> 00:33:13,800
So that’s pretty
straightforward, isn’t it?

538
00:33:14,000 –> 00:33:18,000
It’s a, you know, you know the
problem someone’s wrong on the

539
00:33:18,000 –> 00:33:20,600
internet and I can’t let that
stand.

540
00:33:21,600 –> 00:33:26,500
And the problem is that you
quickly appear to be a Fool by

541
00:33:26,500 –> 00:33:32,100
responding to baited statements.
And they’re always falls on the

542
00:33:32,100 –> 00:33:37,500
internet but don’t be one
yourself so you know don’t feed

543
00:33:37,500 –> 00:33:40,200
the Trolls but here’s the
challenging thing.

544
00:33:41,700 –> 00:33:43,200
I said the prophet is a
straightforward.

545
00:33:43,200 –> 00:33:45,600
What do you make of this?
The very next verse?

546
00:33:46,600 –> 00:33:48,900
Answer a fool according to his
folly.

547
00:33:50,000 –> 00:33:55,100
Lest he be wise in his own eyes.
So we’ve got the very next verse

548
00:33:55,100 –> 00:33:58,200
saying, the exact opposite.
So what do you think that means?

549
00:33:59,400 –> 00:34:02,800
Any ideas, adults?
It’s a bit of a tricky one.

550
00:34:06,500 –> 00:34:09,800
Circumstances, dictate.
All right, let’s close.

551
00:34:09,800 –> 00:34:12,699
Yeah.
I mean, I’ve got my suggestion

552
00:34:12,699 –> 00:34:16,000
that I’ll give you, I don’t have
to, you can go look online.

553
00:34:16,000 –> 00:34:17,400
People got all sorts of ideas
here.

554
00:34:17,400 –> 00:34:19,900
So there’s no real wrong answer
here, right or wrong answer

555
00:34:19,900 –> 00:34:21,600
here.
Just usually, if you’ve got

556
00:34:21,600 –> 00:34:24,100
ideas of what you think this is
about, but I reckon that’s

557
00:34:24,100 –> 00:34:25,699
right.
Circumstances, dictate.

558
00:34:25,699 –> 00:34:28,699
I’ll give you my suggestion of
how that works in a second.

559
00:34:36,000 –> 00:34:36,600
Yeah.
Yeah.

560
00:34:36,600 –> 00:34:38,500
So that would be one
circumstance where you get to

561
00:34:38,500 –> 00:34:46,300
make a judgment call?
Yeah.

562
00:34:48,100 –> 00:34:49,699
Yep.
Yep.

563
00:34:51,699 –> 00:34:54,800
So I mean there’s a bit of a
case here.

564
00:34:54,800 –> 00:34:56,199
I think you could take it as a
lot.

565
00:34:56,199 –> 00:34:57,900
You’re damned.
If you do, damned if you don’t

566
00:34:57,900 –> 00:35:04,000
like the sort of, it’s a toy in
cost, in a way, like it’s really

567
00:35:04,000 –> 00:35:08,700
up in the air.
Come point us.

568
00:35:08,700 –> 00:35:11,700
Yeah.
Sorry.

569
00:35:14,600 –> 00:35:21,400
But I think really, the general
principle is that, you know,

570
00:35:22,500 –> 00:35:26,300
because the first verse is don’t
answer a fool according to their

571
00:35:26,500 –> 00:35:29,000
Folly.
The general overall principle,

572
00:35:29,000 –> 00:35:32,200
guiding principle is don’t
answer a fool according to their

573
00:35:32,800 –> 00:35:35,300
their fallen.
Don’t get sucked into it, but

574
00:35:35,300 –> 00:35:37,900
there are occasions where you
make a judgment call and go.

575
00:35:37,900 –> 00:35:42,100
I wonder if he’s really
understands what Is his sighing?

576
00:35:42,100 –> 00:35:46,700
Like, you know, I’ll give him a
benefit of a doubt and just say

577
00:35:46,700 –> 00:35:49,600
a comment, try to balance that
out a little bit.

578
00:35:49,600 –> 00:35:53,200
So you’re welcome to have a go
and make one comment, but don’t

579
00:35:53,200 –> 00:35:57,400
get stuck in a continual Loop.
Like you make one attempt and

580
00:35:57,400 –> 00:36:01,800
then if they show themselves to
be a fool, you just leave it

581
00:36:01,800 –> 00:36:04,000
there and just don’t get caught
in the spiral.

582
00:36:04,000 –> 00:36:06,200
So I think that’s what it’s
saying is as a general rule,

583
00:36:06,300 –> 00:36:08,000
don’t answer them to coordinate
their Folly.

584
00:36:08,100 –> 00:36:10,200
There’s people that come along
and you’re not sure if they are

585
00:36:10,200 –> 00:36:12,600
a fool because you have Any
dealings with them yet so

586
00:36:12,600 –> 00:36:16,600
they’ll say something you’ll add
wisdom into it.

587
00:36:16,600 –> 00:36:18,400
And then see what response you
get back.

588
00:36:18,400 –> 00:36:22,000
If you get foolishness back,
just leave it move on.

589
00:36:22,100 –> 00:36:23,900
I think is what the proverb is
saying.

590
00:36:24,600 –> 00:36:29,600
So Joe, in this case here,
remember our words are never

591
00:36:29,600 –> 00:36:32,400
going to go away.
And whatever we say we want to

592
00:36:32,400 –> 00:36:36,900
be able to see it printed out
and on someone’s fridge and not

593
00:36:36,900 –> 00:36:39,000
be embarrassed if that were the
case.

594
00:36:39,400 –> 00:36:42,500
So, you know, problems also.
Says that if you’ve got nothing

595
00:36:42,500 –> 00:36:46,500
better to say, sometimes it’s
better to say nothing at all.

596
00:36:46,600 –> 00:36:49,300
So here’s a problem, that’s
pretty blunt in its assessment,

597
00:36:49,300 –> 00:36:52,400
really straightforward easy to
understand, even a fool who keep

598
00:36:52,400 –> 00:36:56,700
silent.
He’s considered wise When he

599
00:36:56,700 –> 00:37:00,400
closes his lips, his deemed
intelligent.

600
00:37:01,100 –> 00:37:03,200
So the Proverbs are saying, you
know, don’t get sucked into just

601
00:37:03,200 –> 00:37:06,100
posting gibberish and rubbish
and your sandwich because that’s

602
00:37:06,100 –> 00:37:08,300
when you look like, people think
you look silly.

603
00:37:08,700 –> 00:37:11,700
So if you’ve got nothing
positive to contribute to a true

604
00:37:11,700 –> 00:37:15,500
friend don’t say anything, just
keep the social media quiet.

605
00:37:15,500 –> 00:37:19,100
And when you’ve got something of
value to share then share that

606
00:37:19,100 –> 00:37:22,100
to, it’s better to keep silent
and for people to think you look

607
00:37:22,100 –> 00:37:26,400
silly.
Male words are a really big

608
00:37:26,400 –> 00:37:28,800
problem in social media.
That’s really what we’re talking

609
00:37:28,800 –> 00:37:32,300
about is is the our speech and
that’s nothing new.

610
00:37:32,300 –> 00:37:36,100
So social media might be the
latest platform but forever and

611
00:37:36,100 –> 00:37:39,200
a day when people have talked to
each other, they’ve been able to

612
00:37:39,200 –> 00:37:41,100
words have always been a
problem.

613
00:37:41,100 –> 00:37:46,200
So just look at this in James
James talks about the tongue and

614
00:37:46,200 –> 00:37:48,600
the things we speak.
And he says, if we put bits into

615
00:37:48,600 –> 00:37:52,600
the mouths of horses so that
they obey us, we will guide

616
00:37:52,600 –> 00:37:56,200
their Party as well.
So you can steer an entire

617
00:37:56,200 –> 00:37:59,500
galloping horse.
Just buy something small in

618
00:37:59,500 –> 00:38:02,900
their mouth.
And look at the big ships

619
00:38:03,000 –> 00:38:04,900
though.
They’re so large and driven by

620
00:38:04,900 –> 00:38:07,900
strong winds.
They’re Guided by a very small

621
00:38:07,900 –> 00:38:10,800
Rudder at the back there,
wherever the pilot directs.

622
00:38:11,500 –> 00:38:14,500
So we’re used to these really
big lumbering things that are

623
00:38:15,000 –> 00:38:17,400
that are steered by something
tiny.

624
00:38:19,000 –> 00:38:23,800
So we’ll also the tongue even
though it’s a small member yet,

625
00:38:23,800 –> 00:38:27,700
it boasts of great things how
great a forest is set, Ablaze by

626
00:38:27,700 –> 00:38:31,000
such a small fire and the tongue
is a fire world of

627
00:38:31,300 –> 00:38:34,200
Righteousness, the tongue of
said, amongst our members

628
00:38:34,200 –> 00:38:37,900
staining, the whole body sitting
on fire the course of life and

629
00:38:37,900 –> 00:38:42,000
set on fire by hell.
So your words can devastate

630
00:38:42,000 –> 00:38:47,200
friendships is what James is
saying for every kind of Beast

631
00:38:47,200 –> 00:38:51,000
bird reptile and sea creature
Can Be Tamed and has been tamed

632
00:38:51,000 –> 00:38:55,400
by mankind, but no human being
can chain the tongue.

633
00:38:55,700 –> 00:38:59,100
It’s a Restless evil.
Full of deadly poison.

634
00:39:00,300 –> 00:39:05,600
So, you know, there’s four
things here that you can’t get

635
00:39:05,600 –> 00:39:08,200
back.
The Mind want to want.

636
00:39:08,200 –> 00:39:11,200
You think about is hurtful words
after they’ve been spoken or

637
00:39:11,200 –> 00:39:16,200
gossips been spread, you can’t
get it back in the same way.

638
00:39:16,200 –> 00:39:18,600
Like we saw that photo of that
Bushfire.

639
00:39:19,000 –> 00:39:23,400
Once a Bushfire has been, let go
and gone through, you can’t get

640
00:39:23,400 –> 00:39:26,100
it back.
And once it’s burnt, the trees,

641
00:39:26,100 –> 00:39:30,300
and scrub, you can’t reverse it.
They’re burnt, they’re dead.

642
00:39:30,300 –> 00:39:32,200
They’re gone.
That’s what James is saying.

643
00:39:32,200 –> 00:39:34,600
And so your friends that you
want to be close to the like a

644
00:39:34,607 –> 00:39:37,400
brother, you really need to be
careful about The things that

645
00:39:37,400 –> 00:39:41,500
you say because you can burn
friendships, so there’s nothing

646
00:39:41,500 –> 00:39:44,500
left.
So just be careful with our

647
00:39:44,700 –> 00:39:49,000
words and along with words, the
Modern Trend in social media is

648
00:39:49,000 –> 00:39:52,400
social shaming.
I’m not really going to go into

649
00:39:52,400 –> 00:39:56,600
it, but I’m sure you’ve seen it
where based on one photo or one

650
00:39:56,600 –> 00:40:01,100
short video clip, people make a
snap judgment about that person

651
00:40:01,100 –> 00:40:03,200
and their whole character.
The whole thing could be out of

652
00:40:03,207 –> 00:40:06,600
context and then social media
comes like a big.

653
00:40:06,800 –> 00:40:11,300
Aab pile on that person and
shaming them so don’t get caught

654
00:40:11,300 –> 00:40:14,700
up in Social shaming.
That’s just like a big fire

655
00:40:14,700 –> 00:40:18,700
raging where people are saying
hurtful things, that’s not what

656
00:40:18,700 –> 00:40:22,200
a true friend would do.
Remember a true friend is

657
00:40:22,200 –> 00:40:26,600
looking to better that person
and loves them.

658
00:40:26,700 –> 00:40:31,700
Doesn’t shame them and a friend
sticks closer than a brother.

659
00:40:33,200 –> 00:40:42,200
and, you know, we, I hope we
would go and talk to a friend if

660
00:40:42,200 –> 00:40:46,200
we thought that we needed to and
we would help and encourage them

661
00:40:46,200 –> 00:40:49,100
not to shame them by posting
something horrible, that we

662
00:40:49,100 –> 00:40:51,300
think they might have done on
social media.

663
00:40:51,800 –> 00:40:53,700
And so, that’s what Proverbs
talks about.

664
00:40:53,700 –> 00:40:55,400
This is the correct way to do
it.

665
00:40:55,900 –> 00:40:58,700
Is better is open rebuke than
hidden love.

666
00:40:58,700 –> 00:41:00,600
Faithful are the wounds of a
friend.

667
00:41:01,000 –> 00:41:03,900
Profuse are the kisses of an
enemy?

668
00:41:04,900 –> 00:41:07,200
And the kisses of an enemy, they
remind us of Judas.

669
00:41:07,200 –> 00:41:10,600
Don’t they who are compared to
our Lord?

670
00:41:10,600 –> 00:41:13,000
Jesus Christ.
Who openly rebuked Peter?

671
00:41:13,000 –> 00:41:15,300
Remember that he rebuked him and
said, get behind me.

672
00:41:15,300 –> 00:41:18,100
Why do you say that?
So, he Christ loved Peter.

673
00:41:18,100 –> 00:41:22,200
So he openly rebuked him and
Judas betrayed Jesus by kissing

674
00:41:22,200 –> 00:41:25,200
him.
So, what we need to be is true

675
00:41:25,200 –> 00:41:28,800
friends, who would openly go and
chat to our friends if we

676
00:41:28,800 –> 00:41:32,800
thought there was a problem, not
be social media, shamers, and

677
00:41:32,900 –> 00:41:34,500
post things that we think that
they’ve done.

678
00:41:34,700 –> 00:41:36,700
On for everyone else to pile on
and tell them.

679
00:41:36,700 –> 00:41:41,200
They’ve done that wrong too.
Just a couple of other problems

680
00:41:41,200 –> 00:41:48,300
I want to highlight about social
media loneliness and bullying.

681
00:41:50,200 –> 00:41:54,400
So, you know, loneliness and you
might not realize, but some of

682
00:41:54,400 –> 00:41:57,800
your people, the young people
that you associate with could be

683
00:41:57,800 –> 00:42:02,400
standing around and feeling
lonely, and it’s a real problem.

684
00:42:03,200 –> 00:42:07,500
And social media sometimes
doesn’t help because we can see

685
00:42:07,500 –> 00:42:10,000
all these things going on online
that people are doing.

686
00:42:10,000 –> 00:42:15,500
And we’re not part of it or
Worse, we can manufacture

687
00:42:15,500 –> 00:42:20,400
things, to be part of it.
And know everything you see on

688
00:42:20,400 –> 00:42:24,600
social media is true.
You know, in fact, many of the

689
00:42:24,600 –> 00:42:30,000
most popular Instagram accounts
are curated with obscene amounts

690
00:42:30,000 –> 00:42:33,400
of effort in makeup and
professional photography and

691
00:42:33,400 –> 00:42:36,200
lighting and production for a
single photograph.

692
00:42:36,500 –> 00:42:39,200
Because if they get lots of
followers, they get advertisers

693
00:42:39,200 –> 00:42:42,000
offering and money and products.
So a lot of the stuff you see on

694
00:42:42,000 –> 00:42:47,500
social media isn’t actually
real, it’s manufactured, And so,

695
00:42:48,000 –> 00:42:52,600
you know, if your life is taken
over, but to this extent, you’ve

696
00:42:52,600 –> 00:42:54,500
gone too far.
So that’s where you got to find

697
00:42:54,500 –> 00:42:56,800
the boundaries with social
media.

698
00:42:56,800 –> 00:43:00,800
So don’t don’t feel like you
need to fit into this frenzy and

699
00:43:00,800 –> 00:43:03,900
don’t feel like you need to
respond to every post.

700
00:43:04,100 –> 00:43:07,600
Every one of your friends puts
up online, you know, your true

701
00:43:07,600 –> 00:43:09,600
friend will know, you’re their
friend.

702
00:43:09,900 –> 00:43:14,600
You don’t have to reassure them
by commenting on every post that

703
00:43:14,600 –> 00:43:18,200
they put up.
And if you were lonely, and

704
00:43:18,200 –> 00:43:21,800
you’re looking at other people’s
posts, if you don’t remember,

705
00:43:21,800 –> 00:43:24,500
they have lots of normal days
and normal meals and they’re,

706
00:43:24,500 –> 00:43:27,100
perhaps, they’re trying to be
give people treats and not

707
00:43:27,100 –> 00:43:33,000
posting Every Sandwich.
So, look at my Instagram. now it

708
00:43:33,000 –> 00:43:37,100
looks fantastic but I’ll tell
you, I’ve gone out sailing three

709
00:43:37,100 –> 00:43:43,900
times in the last 18 months.
And in the 12 months prior to

710
00:43:43,900 –> 00:43:46,600
that, I didn’t get out once
because we had some big projects

711
00:43:46,600 –> 00:43:49,500
on.
So I really didn’t go sailing so

712
00:43:49,500 –> 00:43:53,100
a lot of these are old photos
that I’ve dug up and posted and

713
00:43:53,100 –> 00:43:56,800
shared so yeah I don’t post the
boring microwave dinners.

714
00:43:56,800 –> 00:44:01,900
I eat at my desk at work or my
drop boring drive to work each

715
00:44:01,900 –> 00:44:04,700
day.
So but my life isn’t always that

716
00:44:04,700 –> 00:44:08,600
exciting.
So, don’t compare your everyday

717
00:44:08,600 –> 00:44:14,100
life to my once-in-a-lifetime.
Of sailing on Lake Argyle and

718
00:44:14,100 –> 00:44:18,300
think that you’re missing out
because that’s not my day to day

719
00:44:18,300 –> 00:44:21,900
life either.
I’m just posting some highlights

720
00:44:21,900 –> 00:44:30,300
for friends to chat about with
me, so making friends with other

721
00:44:30,300 –> 00:44:35,400
people is about communicating in
a positive way weather. literal

722
00:44:35,400 –> 00:44:39,700
offline as, like real tangible
friends, or whether where we’ve

723
00:44:39,700 –> 00:44:42,500
made a friend and we’re
communicating with them online,

724
00:44:43,800 –> 00:44:47,900
And so if you are struggling
with interacting and making

725
00:44:47,900 –> 00:44:52,600
friends, here’s some really good
on advice and probably upstairs.

726
00:44:52,600 –> 00:44:57,200
Let another praise you and not
your own mouth, a stranger and

727
00:44:57,200 –> 00:45:00,000
not your own lips.
So you know, don’t boast about

728
00:45:00,000 –> 00:45:01,800
yourself and the things that
you’re up to.

729
00:45:01,800 –> 00:45:04,200
So if you keep big noting
yourself and all the wonderful

730
00:45:04,200 –> 00:45:07,900
things that you’re doing on
social media, people are really

731
00:45:07,900 –> 00:45:10,300
going to be that excited about
being friends.

732
00:45:10,800 –> 00:45:16,900
So, you know, maybe use if you
want to make a friend look at

733
00:45:16,900 –> 00:45:19,400
other people’s feeds that you
sort of know and would like to

734
00:45:19,400 –> 00:45:22,600
get to know and you can post
selectively some comments about

735
00:45:22,600 –> 00:45:28,000
some things that they’ve done
that, get a conversation going

736
00:45:28,000 –> 00:45:31,300
about things that they’re doing
and then maybe post a thing

737
00:45:31,300 –> 00:45:33,100
about where you’re up to from
time to time.

738
00:45:33,100 –> 00:45:38,500
And so if you’re polite and
respectful interesting or funny

739
00:45:38,500 –> 00:45:40,800
then people will respond to your
comments.

740
00:45:40,800 –> 00:45:45,000
But if you start posting Like,
here’s the great big, you know,

741
00:45:45,800 –> 00:45:48,500
boat, I’m on today.
And this is the champagne

742
00:45:48,500 –> 00:45:50,800
chicken lunch, I’m having now,
and it’s all about you.

743
00:45:50,800 –> 00:45:53,700
And the fun times you’re having,
you don’t actually you get lots

744
00:45:53,700 –> 00:45:57,200
of likes, but you won’t actually
develop any real friendship.

745
00:45:57,200 –> 00:46:00,000
So friendships is about a
two-way communication to

746
00:46:00,000 –> 00:46:02,500
communication.
So, you talk about the things

747
00:46:02,500 –> 00:46:06,400
that they’re doing and to start
with.

748
00:46:07,900 –> 00:46:10,100
So here’s some good advice from
the proverbs.

749
00:46:11,100 –> 00:46:14,800
He who loves purity of heart
whose speech is gracious will

750
00:46:14,800 –> 00:46:18,100
have the king as his friend.
So, you know, you can think

751
00:46:18,100 –> 00:46:21,600
about the true king that will
make as a friend, if we have

752
00:46:22,400 –> 00:46:28,100
wholesome conversations in the
Lord, Jesus Christ, but the

753
00:46:28,100 –> 00:46:30,300
straightforward logic is true as
well.

754
00:46:31,200 –> 00:46:36,700
That if we poles post, wholesome
and gracious, things will end up

755
00:46:36,700 –> 00:46:40,600
making friends.
With people that are upright and

756
00:46:40,600 –> 00:46:44,100
have integrity and that, like,
wholesome things as well.

757
00:46:44,700 –> 00:46:48,300
So, you know, the good thing
about social media and having

758
00:46:48,300 –> 00:46:51,700
conversations with friends
around the places, it’s not like

759
00:46:51,700 –> 00:46:54,000
a conversation where you have to
think about something on the

760
00:46:54,000 –> 00:46:58,200
spot, they post something, you
can think about it for a bit and

761
00:46:58,200 –> 00:47:03,600
then when you thought of
something really, Appropriate

762
00:47:03,600 –> 00:47:07,200
and interesting to say in
response, maybe a day later or

763
00:47:07,200 –> 00:47:10,400
even you can then you’ve got
time to think about it before

764
00:47:10,400 –> 00:47:13,700
you post so you don’t have to
respond straight away.

765
00:47:13,700 –> 00:47:16,800
So make the time to develop
friendships that are wholesome

766
00:47:16,800 –> 00:47:20,800
encouraging by thinking of
encouraging things to say to

767
00:47:20,800 –> 00:47:23,000
each other.
But again, don’t make someone

768
00:47:23,000 –> 00:47:26,100
feel sick by commenting on every
single one of their posts and

769
00:47:26,100 –> 00:47:28,600
make it look like you’ve been
over there whole social media

770
00:47:28,600 –> 00:47:31,700
profile back 10 years and
commented on everything because

771
00:47:31,900 –> 00:47:36,400
Remember too much of someone can
make someone else feel ill ill.

772
00:47:36,400 –> 00:47:42,600
So, just keep it light in Social
settings when making friends and

773
00:47:42,600 –> 00:47:46,200
be a bit aware about the timing
and volume of your communication

774
00:47:46,200 –> 00:47:48,000
years.
A proverb that says, whoever

775
00:47:48,000 –> 00:47:50,700
blesses, his neighbor with a
loud voice Rising early in the

776
00:47:50,700 –> 00:47:52,500
morning, will be counted as a
cursing.

777
00:47:52,700 –> 00:47:58,000
So if you’re sending a message
at 2 a.m. you know you might be

778
00:47:58,000 –> 00:48:02,400
saying hello or trying to have a
joke but if your dming Too much

779
00:48:02,400 –> 00:48:06,000
at the wrong times and in the
wrong way, it will probably be

780
00:48:06,000 –> 00:48:11,200
received differently to what you
intended and I mentioned at the

781
00:48:11,200 –> 00:48:13,500
beginning.
We needed to have our social

782
00:48:14,000 –> 00:48:16,400
media and online life in
balance.

783
00:48:21,800 –> 00:48:24,700
Does anyone have with sort of
going to run along a bit?

784
00:48:24,700 –> 00:48:29,200
But does anyone quickly have a
suggestion of perhaps some

785
00:48:29,200 –> 00:48:31,500
things that people do if they
felt their life was a bit out of

786
00:48:31,500 –> 00:48:41,600
control with social media?
Hmm.

787
00:48:45,400 –> 00:48:49,700
Yeah, yeah prune.
Your friends list that you’re

788
00:48:49,700 –> 00:48:51,200
following and communicating
with.

789
00:48:51,200 –> 00:48:55,100
Yep, it’s a good one.
I just a couple of Gotti’s

790
00:48:55,100 –> 00:49:02,900
actually make some friends, make
some plans with friends in RL So

791
00:49:02,900 –> 00:49:06,000
get out and let make some
actually meet someone for coffee

792
00:49:06,000 –> 00:49:09,600
rather than messaging online all
the time.

793
00:49:11,300 –> 00:49:15,700
It’s really important to have
some down time, you know, go out

794
00:49:15,700 –> 00:49:19,100
for a run, get some exercise
have some thinking time away

795
00:49:19,100 –> 00:49:21,000
from it, make that part of your
schedule.

796
00:49:23,200 –> 00:49:28,500
It’s really important to make
time for prayer and the Bible.

797
00:49:28,900 –> 00:49:31,300
So, you know, Center yourself
with God.

798
00:49:31,300 –> 00:49:34,600
Don’t censor yourself over on
social media all the time.

799
00:49:36,100 –> 00:49:40,500
Really good one that we’ve heard
is people going out with friends

800
00:49:40,700 –> 00:49:43,600
to dinner, put all your phones
in the middle of the table.

801
00:49:44,000 –> 00:49:49,000
The first person that picks
their phone up, pays the tab and

802
00:49:49,200 –> 00:49:52,100
when our kids were little the
default rule was no books at the

803
00:49:52,100 –> 00:49:55,600
table because the Have a nice
dinner and so we have a no

804
00:49:55,600 –> 00:49:58,200
phones at the table rule as
well.

805
00:50:00,000 –> 00:50:04,000
So, I said the other problem
that we would deal with just

806
00:50:04,000 –> 00:50:08,800
quickly as bullying on the way
they are, just want to point

807
00:50:08,800 –> 00:50:12,500
out, one of my pet peeves, it’s
the prank stuff that’s endemic

808
00:50:12,500 –> 00:50:13,600
online.
You know.

809
00:50:13,600 –> 00:50:16,900
None of them are clever jokes.
They’re just this like a madman

810
00:50:16,900 –> 00:50:20,800
who throws firebrands and arrows
and death is the man who

811
00:50:20,800 –> 00:50:23,800
deceives his neighbor and says,
I’m only liking, I’m only

812
00:50:23,800 –> 00:50:26,400
joking.
So instead of deliberately

813
00:50:26,400 –> 00:50:30,500
upsetting people for the lulz,
you know, we can Actually speak

814
00:50:30,500 –> 00:50:34,000
in encouraging things to others.
Like, you know, and the New

815
00:50:34,000 –> 00:50:37,100
Testament talks about the fruit
of our lips.

816
00:50:38,300 –> 00:50:42,700
But the Proverbs says that our
words can be like a precious

817
00:50:42,700 –> 00:50:47,100
fruit, how about this?
Proverbs 25, a word fitly spoken

818
00:50:47,600 –> 00:50:51,000
is like apples of gold in
settings of silver.

819
00:50:52,000 –> 00:50:55,100
So what this says to me is that
we can say something to somebody

820
00:50:55,100 –> 00:50:59,700
that’s so positive and helpful.
And we’re at the time, we may

821
00:50:59,700 –> 00:51:04,700
not realize how helpful that was
and that person that we set it

822
00:51:04,700 –> 00:51:07,300
to can Treasurer it like a
precious.

823
00:51:07,300 –> 00:51:09,400
Ointment Ornament.
Sorry.

824
00:51:09,900 –> 00:51:13,500
And so every so often I can get
it out and reflect on what was

825
00:51:13,500 –> 00:51:15,600
said to them.
And how helpful it was that

826
00:51:15,600 –> 00:51:19,300
person said that now, can you
think of a time when someone

827
00:51:19,300 –> 00:51:23,100
said something to you that you
treasure, it could be a school

828
00:51:23,100 –> 00:51:25,700
teacher at school, who said
something that you’ve done a

829
00:51:25,700 –> 00:51:29,000
really good job or ankles a
friend who said something.

830
00:51:30,000 –> 00:51:32,100
So, can you think of a time when
someone said something that

831
00:51:32,100 –> 00:51:34,200
really means something to you
and even when you pull it out,

832
00:51:34,200 –> 00:51:36,600
now, your heart sort of goes, oh
yeah, it was so nice.

833
00:51:37,500 –> 00:51:42,600
That’s the The positive impact
that words can have, you know,

834
00:51:42,700 –> 00:51:46,400
could have been helpful advice,
maybe it was some praise or

835
00:51:46,400 –> 00:51:50,400
encouragement, maybe it was some
insight to something you’ve not

836
00:51:50,400 –> 00:51:54,600
seen before or maybe it’s just
that the way they have

837
00:51:54,600 –> 00:51:58,100
expressing themselves.
That’s really resonated and stay

838
00:51:58,100 –> 00:51:59,800
with you.
Maybe it was a point in a talk,

839
00:51:59,800 –> 00:52:03,500
once I don’t know, I’m sure
there’s something we can all

840
00:52:03,500 –> 00:52:06,300
mediately bring to mind that.
We just treasure that, that

841
00:52:06,300 –> 00:52:09,600
thing was said and we heard it.
And perhaps it was said just to

842
00:52:09,600 –> 00:52:12,300
us.
Well that should be our aim

843
00:52:12,300 –> 00:52:14,500
online.
You know everything we posed.

844
00:52:14,500 –> 00:52:17,400
We should aim to be something
that someone else could

845
00:52:17,400 –> 00:52:21,100
treasure.
To say positive things that are

846
00:52:21,100 –> 00:52:24,200
so good and helpful that they
resonate with that person.

847
00:52:24,500 –> 00:52:28,400
Long, after the page, the
posters moved off the front page

848
00:52:28,400 –> 00:52:30,200
of their feed.
They still remember what we

849
00:52:30,200 –> 00:52:33,700
said.
So with bullying, sort of

850
00:52:33,700 –> 00:52:36,500
running out of time, I’m going
to discuss a little bit about

851
00:52:36,500 –> 00:52:39,200
what potential actions we could
take.

852
00:52:40,800 –> 00:52:43,000
So I’ll just run through them
here rather than having a

853
00:52:43,000 –> 00:52:45,600
discussion.
So first thing is we need to

854
00:52:45,600 –> 00:52:48,100
adjust, it learn to ignore them,
you know, like there’s a

855
00:52:48,107 –> 00:52:49,900
difference between friends.
Acquaintances.

856
00:52:50,200 –> 00:52:53,100
And if there’s stuff coming to
us and it’s from acquaintances,

857
00:52:53,100 –> 00:52:55,800
it’s not really our friends.
We should just number one,

858
00:52:55,800 –> 00:52:59,900
ignore it, if they’re not
friends like a brother, just put

859
00:52:59,900 –> 00:53:01,600
it out of our mind.
The other thing we can do is we

860
00:53:01,600 –> 00:53:03,600
can block them.
So you can block people on

861
00:53:03,600 –> 00:53:06,800
social media and then you never
have to see anything from them.

862
00:53:06,800 –> 00:53:13,900
Again, if it’s serious bullying,
it can be, we can report them.

863
00:53:13,900 –> 00:53:16,900
So, you know, young people have
someone saying hurtful things,

864
00:53:17,000 –> 00:53:20,800
never feel like it’s shameful.
How to tell your parents and

865
00:53:20,800 –> 00:53:22,800
your parents can either take it
up with someone else.

866
00:53:22,800 –> 00:53:25,100
If it’s really bad, they can go
to the authorities and the

867
00:53:25,100 –> 00:53:28,300
police there’s laws about it
being nasty to people online,

868
00:53:28,300 –> 00:53:31,400
and being hurtful and
continually harassing people

869
00:53:31,400 –> 00:53:37,100
online, it’s against the law.
So don’t respond don’t escalate

870
00:53:37,100 –> 00:53:42,500
and make things worse.
And so yeah, parents if children

871
00:53:42,500 –> 00:53:45,200
are struggling at school with
like being harassed, you can go

872
00:53:45,200 –> 00:53:46,900
to the police.
It’s totally fine.

873
00:53:47,900 –> 00:53:50,900
And they’ll get in touch with
their parents rather than you

874
00:53:50,900 –> 00:53:54,700
doing it.
Take some bigger down time so I

875
00:53:54,700 –> 00:53:57,200
see it in putting limits around
our social media.

876
00:53:57,200 –> 00:53:59,900
We should have down time every
day where we go for walks and do

877
00:53:59,900 –> 00:54:04,000
think ride our bikes and do
stuff outside and meal times.

878
00:54:04,200 –> 00:54:06,900
But if there’s people saying
things that are upsetting us,

879
00:54:07,000 –> 00:54:12,400
take a bigger break.
Number one rule, don’t take the

880
00:54:12,400 –> 00:54:17,000
phone to bed because every ding
you when you’re trying to sleep

881
00:54:17,000 –> 00:54:19,400
you know that there’s someone
else talking about that issue.

882
00:54:20,600 –> 00:54:24,500
So, you know, get some
perspective, leave your phone.

883
00:54:24,500 –> 00:54:28,600
Go read some books.
Two kids in hospital, go help

884
00:54:28,600 –> 00:54:31,100
other people, you know,
demonstrate that you’ve got

885
00:54:31,100 –> 00:54:33,300
Worth to yourself and that you
can help other people.

886
00:54:33,300 –> 00:54:35,200
And all these things that people
are saying online.

887
00:54:35,200 –> 00:54:37,000
Don’t really matter, it’s not
the real you.

888
00:54:37,000 –> 00:54:41,200
So there’s some suggestions, you
know, it’s because it’s easier

889
00:54:41,200 –> 00:54:46,200
to say just get over it.
But to have to let it go.

890
00:54:46,400 –> 00:54:48,700
Is sometimes difficult.
So you know you can print them

891
00:54:48,700 –> 00:54:53,900
out and burn them like really
help yourself get over what they

892
00:54:53,900 –> 00:54:56,600
said, throw it away, print it
out, throw it away.

893
00:54:56,600 –> 00:55:00,200
Like you really need to go to an
effort, sometimes to get rid of

894
00:55:00,200 –> 00:55:04,700
the problem and a change of
scene or always helps too.

895
00:55:05,400 –> 00:55:09,000
So in conclusion, this is what
we’re aspiring to.

896
00:55:09,100 –> 00:55:13,400
And fortunately is what we sung
at the beginning, whatever’s,

897
00:55:13,600 –> 00:55:15,400
True.
Whatever is Honorable, whatever

898
00:55:15,400 –> 00:55:18,200
is just whatever is pure.
Whatever is lovely, whatever is

899
00:55:18,200 –> 00:55:20,100
commendable if there’s any
Excellence.

900
00:55:20,100 –> 00:55:23,300
If there’s anything worthy of
Praise, think about these things

901
00:55:23,500 –> 00:55:26,000
and these are the kinds of
things that we should be posting

902
00:55:26,000 –> 00:55:28,500
online.
And what you’ve received heard,

903
00:55:28,800 –> 00:55:31,300
and learned and received
practice these things.

904
00:55:31,300 –> 00:55:32,800
And the God of Peace will be
with you.

905
00:55:33,200 –> 00:55:35,900
So that should be the measure of
what our social media feeds

906
00:55:35,900 –> 00:55:38,900
should look like.
And the people that we follow

907
00:55:38,900 –> 00:55:41,500
online, you know, we should be
following movie stars or

908
00:55:41,500 –> 00:55:46,500
celebrities that post Scandalous
things and risque photos, we

909
00:55:46,500 –> 00:55:50,100
should follow people that have
got praise worthy and honorable

910
00:55:50,100 –> 00:55:53,700
things.
And we should follow that in the

911
00:55:53,700 –> 00:55:55,900
tone of our posts.
In the comments, we make should

912
00:55:55,900 –> 00:55:58,600
always be praiseworthy and
Excellency.

913
00:55:59,000 –> 00:56:02,100
So we’ve seen tonight that trip.
There’s there are true friends

914
00:56:02,300 –> 00:56:03,900
that can be closer than a
brother.

915
00:56:05,200 –> 00:56:07,800
And and really the challenge is
to be like that for other

916
00:56:07,800 –> 00:56:11,200
people.
Be a brother or sister to our

917
00:56:11,200 –> 00:56:14,900
friends.
And Christ says, pray for your

918
00:56:14,900 –> 00:56:17,900
enemies, I say to you love your
enemies and pray for those who

919
00:56:17,900 –> 00:56:20,900
persecute you.
So, if you are suffering from

920
00:56:20,900 –> 00:56:25,200
people saying things that hurt,
you take it to God In Prayer,

921
00:56:25,300 –> 00:56:28,900
lay it out before him.
And when you pray to God, it’ll

922
00:56:28,900 –> 00:56:33,100
help you get it in perspective.
And, you know, just when you

923
00:56:33,100 –> 00:56:36,600
pray to God, you’re approaching
in Christ.

924
00:56:37,100 –> 00:56:41,000
Who if you think about it, he
had terrible and hurtful things

925
00:56:41,000 –> 00:56:42,600
said.
And done said about him and

926
00:56:42,600 –> 00:56:43,400
done.
Him.

927
00:56:43,700 –> 00:56:46,600
So when you pray to God about
terrible, things done to you

928
00:56:47,200 –> 00:56:49,700
your mediator, that’s taking
that prayer.

929
00:56:51,000 –> 00:56:55,200
A completely understands
terrible and hurtful things

930
00:56:55,200 –> 00:56:58,600
because he experienced the worst
persecution ever.

931
00:56:58,600 –> 00:57:02,900
So don’t be afraid to take
things that people have said

932
00:57:02,900 –> 00:57:08,400
that hurt you to God In Prayer
because Jesus understands and he

933
00:57:08,400 –> 00:57:18,300
will intercede on our behalf.
so, Yeah, so when we pray to

934
00:57:18,300 –> 00:57:21,500
God, we take it to someone who’s
got plans for the whole earth.

935
00:57:21,500 –> 00:57:25,700
So it’s what I’m saying is, what
said to you is not that if

936
00:57:25,700 –> 00:57:27,700
somebody says something to you
that’s hurtful it’s not

937
00:57:27,700 –> 00:57:32,300
insignificant, right?
It was hurtful it did hurt.

938
00:57:33,000 –> 00:57:36,500
But sometimes when we go to God
In Prayer, we get a bigger

939
00:57:36,500 –> 00:57:40,200
perspective of God’s purpose on
the whole earth and that helps

940
00:57:40,200 –> 00:57:45,500
us get over these things.
So don’t retaliate and help and

941
00:57:45,500 –> 00:57:48,800
support your friends.
If Being nasty to them, you can

942
00:57:48,800 –> 00:57:52,400
be closer than a brother by
helping and supporting them or

943
00:57:52,400 –> 00:57:55,600
be like a sister to them and
take them out for hot chocolate

944
00:57:55,600 –> 00:57:57,400
and things like that.
That sisters do.

945
00:58:00,500 –> 00:58:06,300
So we’ve seen that life does not
consist in the abundance of

946
00:58:06,300 –> 00:58:10,900
friends.
In fact, many friends can bring

947
00:58:10,900 –> 00:58:14,000
someone to ruin the Prodigal
Son, felt that.

948
00:58:14,000 –> 00:58:17,600
But how true is that?
Now our day, where if you’re

949
00:58:17,600 –> 00:58:21,200
pandering to all these friends
online, you could be well

950
00:58:21,200 –> 00:58:26,000
missing out on the meaningful.
Interaction of someone right

951
00:58:26,000 –> 00:58:30,700
alongside you the true friend
that could be just there and

952
00:58:30,700 –> 00:58:33,300
social media is just another
tool, another communication

953
00:58:33,300 –> 00:58:39,200
tool, just like writing a letter
or telegram if you A those kids.

954
00:58:39,200 –> 00:58:41,400
Don’t ya or calling on a
telephone?

955
00:58:41,400 –> 00:58:43,400
It’s just another extension of
that kind of thing.

956
00:58:43,400 –> 00:58:50,700
So it’s transmitting our words
and it’s our words that can

957
00:58:53,700 –> 00:58:55,800
potentially cause the most
damage.

958
00:58:56,400 –> 00:58:59,700
And so we need to learn to
Bridle our tongue as James said.

959
00:59:00,000 –> 00:59:02,700
And you know, we have the
ability to do this, pauses with

960
00:59:02,700 –> 00:59:06,500
social media are okay in
conversations.

961
00:59:06,500 –> 00:59:09,000
So, you know, people are doing
things, you don’t have to have a

962
00:59:09,000 –> 00:59:12,100
real-time conversation, don’t
fire back.

963
00:59:12,300 –> 00:59:14,200
Someone says something and
you’re quite sure.

964
00:59:14,200 –> 00:59:17,100
Go away for a walk, get some
perspective, think about it

965
00:59:17,100 –> 00:59:21,100
before you come back and and
pose maybe set send a message

966
00:59:21,100 –> 00:59:23,300
tomorrow after you’ve had time
to do.

967
00:59:23,500 –> 00:59:28,100
Use things because maybe you
misinterpreted and took the

968
00:59:28,100 –> 00:59:31,100
wrong way, something they said
and you don’t want to escalate

969
00:59:31,100 –> 00:59:34,400
things and four things.
Those people that are obsessed

970
00:59:34,400 –> 00:59:39,500
with posting a photo and getting
lots of likes, I know that sort

971
00:59:39,500 –> 00:59:42,600
of probably more a girl thing to
then all have to comment on each

972
00:59:42,600 –> 00:59:46,300
other’s thing that they posted
instantly the moment they pose

973
00:59:46,300 –> 00:59:51,700
so they’ll comment on yours back
and we’ll the quiet about to

974
00:59:51,700 –> 00:59:55,500
show, really?
Is about girls but actually in

975
00:59:55,500 –> 00:59:57,500
the Bible but actually applies
to all of us.

976
00:59:57,500 –> 01:00:01,400
So, first P3, don’t let your or
Dawning be external the braiding

977
01:00:01,400 –> 01:00:03,700
of the hair and the putting on
the gold jewelry and the

978
01:00:03,700 –> 01:00:05,600
clothing you wear.
So, you know, the Instagram

979
01:00:05,600 –> 01:00:08,500
glamour shot that you’re going
to take to get lots of likes.

980
01:00:08,500 –> 01:00:11,900
Don’t let it be like that.
Let it be the adorning of the

981
01:00:11,900 –> 01:00:15,200
Hidden person of the heart, with
the imperishable, beauty of a

982
01:00:15,207 –> 01:00:19,300
gentle and quiet Spirit which in
God’s sight is very precious and

983
01:00:19,300 –> 01:00:22,200
that’s just as true for the boys
as it is the girl.

984
01:00:22,200 –> 01:00:26,700
So I think Peter’s talking to
everyone as he says it’s about

985
01:00:26,700 –> 01:00:29,100
the Inner, Man.
The qualities inside you that

986
01:00:29,100 –> 01:00:31,800
count, and what is the our Inner
Man?

987
01:00:31,800 –> 01:00:35,700
What’s the depth of our
character can that be seen in a

988
01:00:35,900 –> 01:00:41,100
witty 140-character statement,
or one really professionally,

989
01:00:41,100 –> 01:00:45,700
lit and nicely pose.
Selfie a character’s, much more

990
01:00:45,700 –> 01:00:49,100
bigger, and important than that.
And so our characters

991
01:00:49,100 –> 01:00:52,200
appreciated by those, that we
associate with that a true

992
01:00:52,200 –> 01:00:56,600
friends that loved us, Us.
But mostly our inner character

993
01:00:57,400 –> 01:01:01,800
is appreciated by our heavenly
father and our Lord Jesus

994
01:01:01,800 –> 01:01:04,800
Christ.
And you know the sad fact is

995
01:01:06,900 –> 01:01:11,300
your friends just like you.
And so at some point you’re

996
01:01:11,300 –> 01:01:13,700
going to let your friend down
and your friend is going to let

997
01:01:13,700 –> 01:01:17,200
you down.
But there’s one friend that will

998
01:01:17,200 –> 01:01:21,200
never let you down.
That’s our Lord, Jesus Christ.

999
01:01:21,300 –> 01:01:24,100
This is what John says greater
love.

1000
01:01:24,100 –> 01:01:27,800
Has no one than this that
someone lay down his life for

1001
01:01:27,800 –> 01:01:30,400
his friends.
You are my friends.

1002
01:01:30,400 –> 01:01:34,400
If you do what I command you so
this abundance of friends

1003
01:01:34,400 –> 01:01:38,500
online, there’s one true friend
who would give his life for you.

1004
01:01:38,900 –> 01:01:41,700
So Jesus is reaching out with
true friendship.

1005
01:01:42,600 –> 01:01:44,900
And if you think about all those
things, we’ve said tonight that

1006
01:01:44,900 –> 01:01:47,800
a true Would do, that’s our
Lord.

1007
01:01:47,800 –> 01:01:52,700
Jesus Christ in all those things
and we don’t have to go through

1008
01:01:52,700 –> 01:01:55,800
life accumulating.
Lots of likes for online

1009
01:01:55,800 –> 01:01:57,600
friends.
We only need one.

1010
01:01:57,600 –> 01:02:02,100
True friend one, that’s closer
than a brother to us.

1011
01:02:02,400 –> 01:02:06,200
If we follow his commands and
he’s already demonstrated the

1012
01:02:06,200 –> 01:02:09,800
depth of his love and friendship
by laying down his life for us.

1013
01:02:10,200 –> 01:02:16,200
So it’s up to each of us to want
to be like him and to respond to

1014
01:02:16,200 –> 01:02:16,500
him.