Class 6 from Bro. Ben Pitcher\u2019s series on \u201cGrowing Godly Families\u201d<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
Class 1 from this series was used for GCT Episode 099.<\/p>\n
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\ndown the front here which is
\ngood because that’s exactly who <\/p>\n
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\nI’d like to be talking to.
\nSo just make sure that because <\/p>\n
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\nI’m in oit and trouble with it
\npeople as we speak a lot of <\/p>\n
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\njargon and TLS which is three
\nletter acronyms so wonderful <\/p>\n
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\nabout social media.
\nDo you know what social media <\/p>\n
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\nmeans?
\nWhen I say that word, yeah, <\/p>\n
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\nanybody what social media?
\nYep. <\/p>\n
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\nYou’re chatting to people
\nonline. <\/p>\n
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\nYep.
\nFacebook. <\/p>\n
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\nYep.
\nThat’s one. <\/p>\n
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\nAnything else?
\nYeah, see the adults. <\/p>\n
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\nAll no Instagram, Snapchat.
\nYeah. <\/p>\n
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\nBut not unique.
\nYou guys are up with the new <\/p>\n
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\nones like mastodons and aloe and
\nyou guys. <\/p>\n
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\nAnyway, I logged in there and
\nthere’s nothing there yet, let <\/p>\n
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\nme tell you anyway.
\nSo that’s one of the things <\/p>\n
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\nthat’s always changing.
\nSo when I talk about a social <\/p>\n
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\nmedia feed because I’m not going
\nto talk about one specific <\/p>\n
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\nplatform, if I talk about us.
\nSo we know what social media is,<\/p>\n
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\nif I talk about a social media
\nfeed, what do you think of <\/p>\n
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\nsocial media feed is I’ll give
\nyou hints. <\/p>\n
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\nNot you eating it.
\nDo you know, what do you think <\/p>\n
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\nthe feed of social media feed
\nis? <\/p>\n
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\nSo if you go to Facebook, what
\ndo you look at? <\/p>\n
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\nYeah.
\nYeah. <\/p>\n
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\nYou look at on your phone and
\nyou look at your Facebook. <\/p>\n
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\nWhat’s it called?
\nCome on old people. <\/p>\n
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\nYeah, it’s your Facebook wall so
\nall the comments you’ve made. <\/p>\n
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\nSo if you’re on Twitter it’s all
\nyour tweets. <\/p>\n
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\nFits on the Instagram, it’s all
\nyour photos. <\/p>\n
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\nSo that’s your social when we
\ntalk about a social media feed, <\/p>\n
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\nits the information, all the
\ninformation in sequence that <\/p>\n
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\nyou’ve posted up there.
\nOkay cool. <\/p>\n
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\nSo the thing is, I’m talking
\nabout a social media manual <\/p>\n
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\ntonight and social media is not
\ndirectly mentioned in the Bible.<\/p>\n
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\nBecause how many, how many
\nthousands of years ago was the <\/p>\n
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\nBible written?
\nAll right, so it was written <\/p>\n
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\nover, thousands of years and the
\nlast book we’ve got is nearly <\/p>\n
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\n2000 years old.
\nSo even though social media is <\/p>\n
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\nnot mentioned the Bible, I found
\na verse that’s really, really <\/p>\n
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\nclose.
\nYou have a read of this and <\/p>\n
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\nEcclesiastes, 10 verse 20, even
\nin your thoughts, don’t curse <\/p>\n
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\nthe king nor in your bedroom
\ncurse, the rich for a bird of <\/p>\n
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\nthe air, air will carry your
\nvoice. <\/p>\n
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\nSorry that got locked out or
\nsome winged creature will All <\/p>\n
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\nthe matter.
\nSo there you are Twitter with <\/p>\n
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\nall its entertainment.
\nGossip can take your comment <\/p>\n
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\nthat you post in the bedroom and
\ninstantly post it, the world <\/p>\n
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\nover.
\nSo be careful about talking <\/p>\n
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\nabout the rich or the king from
\nyour bedroom. <\/p>\n
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\nSo that’s what social media is.
\nLiterally, everyone has the <\/p>\n
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\nability now to publish And
\neveryone has a voice as loud as <\/p>\n
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\nsomeone else.
\nSo when you look at someone’s <\/p>\n
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\nSocial Media profile or their
\nfeed, you actually get a bit of <\/p>\n
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\nan idea on a feel for, you know,
\nhow they think perhaps and what <\/p>\n
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\ntopics interest them.
\nSo, you know, this is my Twitter<\/p>\n
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\nfeed and he’s not here, sorry
\nthe anchors not for the Dockers,<\/p>\n
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\nit’s because I like sailing but
\nlike, you know, there’s <\/p>\n
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\nbatteries and infant development
\nand power. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd so there’s sort of things
\nthat I’m interested in science. <\/p>\n
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\nSecond, some outdoor stuff in
\nthe photos, you can see there. <\/p>\n
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\nSo that’s you can.
\nLook at my social media feed and<\/p>\n
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\ninstantly get a picture of sort
\nof things that interest me what <\/p>\n
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\nI post about.
\nSo there’s post from random <\/p>\n
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\ntimes about random topics as I
\ncame across them sort of from <\/p>\n
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\nAugust back to June and you can
\nsee groupings of topics of <\/p>\n
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\ninterest in someone’s Social
\nMedia profile. <\/p>\n
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\nSo, often You’ll follow someone
\nfor this types of topics that <\/p>\n
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\nthey post about, but all their
\nposter, sort of random as they <\/p>\n
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\ncome across information.
\nSo, here’s the interesting <\/p>\n
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\nthing, Have you ever thought
\nthat the Book of Proverbs is a <\/p>\n
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\nbit like someone’s Social Media
\nfeed? <\/p>\n
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\nBecause you got all these posts
\nfrom the one author in sort of <\/p>\n
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\nno particular order about
\ntopics, that were important, as <\/p>\n
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\nthey came across them.
\nAnd, you know, I’ve heard it <\/p>\n
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\nsaid that the Book of Proverbs
\nis a bit like life where often <\/p>\n
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\nwe learning lessons from
\nourselves and others experience <\/p>\n
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\nas we come across them, and
\nProverbs is a bit like that <\/p>\n
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\nrandom order of things that, as
\nyou come across them. <\/p>\n
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\nSo, it’s not structured like,
\nyou know, a classroom text or <\/p>\n
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\nsome of the other letters, where
\nit’s all sequential has all <\/p>\n
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\nthese random things, as the as
\nthe teacher came across them and<\/p>\n
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\nthere’s groupings of areas of
\ninterest and topics. <\/p>\n
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\nSo, if you’ve never thought of
\nit before, perhaps you can think<\/p>\n
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\nof the Verbs as being a bit more
\nup-to-date than you thought. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd it’s a series of social
\nmedia posts from the right of <\/p>\n
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\nthe proverb.
\nSo he is Proverbs 27. <\/p>\n
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\nYou know, don’t boast about
\ntomorrow. <\/p>\n
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\nLet another praise.
\nYou not out of your own mouth. <\/p>\n
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\nA stone is heavy and Sanders.
\nWait, you buffoons provocation <\/p>\n
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\nis heavier than both the fry.
\nThe primaries must come across. <\/p>\n
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\nLots of foolish, people all day.
\nAnd you just post about uh, you <\/p>\n
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\nknow, it’s better to perhaps be
\nsilent and you won’t be thought <\/p>\n
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\na fool like this bloke.
\nI’m standing behind in line, <\/p>\n
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\nmaybe.
\nSo, Roth is cruel. <\/p>\n
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\nAnger is overwhelming better as
\nopen rebuke and Hidden love. <\/p>\n
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\nFaithful are the wounds of a
\nfriend, producer, the kisses, <\/p>\n
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\nSo he said, I must have gone <\/p>\n
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\nthrough some bit of a something
\nwearing shorter. <\/p>\n
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\nThere was an issue where he
\nsuddenly discovered the benefits<\/p>\n
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\nof a true friend.
\nSo yeah, those perhaps something<\/p>\n
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\nto think about and that’s really
\nwhat we’re going to use tonight.<\/p>\n
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\nIn terms of perhaps the Bible’s
\nnot as irrelevant as you think <\/p>\n
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\nand an old musty document, maybe
\nit’s right up to date. <\/p>\n
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\nWait.
\nSo this is nothing new Under the<\/p>\n
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\nSun.
\nIt says in Ecclesiastes and the <\/p>\n
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\nway that we consume information
\nonline now is exactly the same <\/p>\n
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\nway Proverbs and Ecclesiastes is
\nstructured And, you know, to add<\/p>\n
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\nto the idea of the Book of
\nProverbs being like a social <\/p>\n
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\nmedia.
\nWhat do you think about Facebook<\/p>\n
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\nstalking?
\nSo here’s a proverb that says, <\/p>\n
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\ntake no hick, so don’t go
\nlooking to close at Facebook, <\/p>\n
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\ntake, no heed to all the words
\nthat are spoken. <\/p>\n
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\nLest thou hear thy servant curse
\nthee. <\/p>\n
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\nSo there’s some advice to
\nemployers, not to go looking too<\/p>\n
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\ndeeply in their employees,
\nsocial media, profile, or they <\/p>\n
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\nmight find a post cursing them.
\nSo, And that’s really my point <\/p>\n
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\nthat we want to come around
\ntonight is there’s actually <\/p>\n
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\ninformation right up-to-date
\nrelevant for today’s technology <\/p>\n
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\nin this book of the Bible and so
\nthe Bible as a whole but <\/p>\n
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\nProverbs particularly is a
\nreally good guide book as to how<\/p>\n
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\nto navigate in a Godly way on a
\nsocial media platform. <\/p>\n
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\nSo the social media manual in
\ncase you didn’t quite get it. <\/p>\n
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\nThat we’re talking about tonight
\nis God’s word. <\/p>\n
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\nSpell before we get into the
\nadvice of the Bible. <\/p>\n
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\nI need to tell you something.
\nThat’s a really important <\/p>\n
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\ninternet.
\nCommunication principle. <\/p>\n
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\nIt’s not.
\nIt’s not a viable principle. <\/p>\n
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\nIt’s an IT principle based on
\nthe engineering of the internet <\/p>\n
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\nand the networking but it’s
\nreally important. <\/p>\n
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\nSo really want you young people
\nto listen to me on this. <\/p>\n
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\nEvery piece of communication on
\nthe Internet is like a postcard.<\/p>\n
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\nSo, it’s not private.
\nWhen you send an email, it goes <\/p>\n
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\nthrough a number of servers
\nbefore it gets to the person <\/p>\n
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\nthat you send it to.
\nAnd each of those servers reads <\/p>\n
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\nthat message along the way with
\nthe rare exception of a message,<\/p>\n
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\nthat’s end-to-end encrypted, but
\neven there, the person on the <\/p>\n
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\nother end can take a screenshot
\nand share that message that you <\/p>\n
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\ngave to them.
\nSo, every message that you post <\/p>\n
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\nlike a physical postcard that
\npeople might It put on their <\/p>\n
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\nfridge and other people might
\njust come wandering over. <\/p>\n
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\nGo, it’s an interesting message.
\nEverything that you post online <\/p>\n
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\nis like a postcard where someone
\nyou send it to someone, you <\/p>\n
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\nthink it’s just to that person.
\nBut there’s always the <\/p>\n
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\npossibility that someone else
\ncan see and that they can share <\/p>\n
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\nit with someone else and that
\nperson can flick that postcard <\/p>\n
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\nover and read it.
\nSo, My first principal really <\/p>\n
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\nwant, you understand tonight is
\nthat every internet <\/p>\n
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\ncommunication on.
\nEvery platform is like a <\/p>\n
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\npostcard.
\nThe person you’re sending it to <\/p>\n
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\ncan share it with others and so,
\ngetting back to the fridge <\/p>\n
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\nanalogy, you know, how would you
\nlike someone to turn over a <\/p>\n
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\npostcard from you on someone’s
\nat someone else’s house on the <\/p>\n
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\nfridge?
\nFor all to see and that <\/p>\n
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\npostcards full of hurtful words.
\nNasty gossip. <\/p>\n
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\nWell, have a harsh bullying
\ntime. <\/p>\n
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\nWould you like to send a
\npostcard in the pose to someone <\/p>\n
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\nlike that?
\nAnd it’s on their fridge? <\/p>\n
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\nAnd all their friends can come
\nover and go off, are a bit nasty<\/p>\n
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\nto you.
\nBut that’s what posting on the <\/p>\n
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\nInternet is exactly.
\nSo we strive to do everything to<\/p>\n
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\nGod’s glory because he’s
\nwatching everything we do and <\/p>\n
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\nhe’s pleased when we do the
\nright thing. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd he can see every
\ncommunication. <\/p>\n
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\nOf course, even all the private
\nones, but you need to realize, <\/p>\n
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\nas well as God being able to see
\nthem the internet, really has no<\/p>\n
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\nprivacy and there’s no delete or
\nretract button where you can <\/p>\n
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\ntake it back.
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\nthey’ll get sick of you. <\/p>\n
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\n00:20:44,100 –> 00:20:47,200
\nSo it’s like, you know, you
\nmight enjoy lollies, but if you <\/p>\n
339
\n00:20:47,200 –> 00:20:49,200
\neat a whole show, bagful it is
\nsitting. <\/p>\n
340
\n00:20:49,200 –> 00:20:52,400
\nYou’ll feel sick.
\nSo it let your foot be seldom in<\/p>\n
341
\n00:20:52,400 –> 00:20:55,200
\nyour neighbor’s house lessee.
\nHave you still love you and hate<\/p>\n
342
\n00:20:55,200 –> 00:20:56,900
\nyou?
\nSo you can be a close friend, <\/p>\n
343
\n00:20:57,100 –> 00:20:59,700
\nbut there’s a That you can be
\nclawing and sickly and people <\/p>\n
344
\n00:20:59,700 –> 00:21:02,500
\njust goes, all right so you
\ndon’t want to be that kind of <\/p>\n
345
\n00:21:02,500 –> 00:21:06,500
\nfriend so when it comes to our
\nonline world of social media, <\/p>\n
346
\n00:21:06,500 –> 00:21:09,700
\nthere’s a term for people that
\nmake you sick and that’s <\/p>\n
347
\n00:21:09,800 –> 00:21:13,200
\noversharing.
\nSo, here’s a published <\/p>\n
348
\n00:21:13,200 –> 00:21:17,800
\nscientific paper about
\noversharing in the digital world<\/p>\n
349
\n00:21:17,800 –> 00:21:23,400
\ncalled less is more.
\nThe Lure of ambiguity or why <\/p>\n
350
\n00:21:23,400 –> 00:21:26,700
\nfamiliarity breeds contempt or
\nthis. <\/p>\n
351
\n00:21:27,300 –> 00:21:30,400
\nAnd it’s saying the research is
\nthat people share and so much <\/p>\n
352
\n00:21:30,400 –> 00:21:33,900
\nmakes other people hate them and
\nthis one here, this book privacy<\/p>\n
353
\n00:21:33,900 –> 00:21:36,400
\nonline.
\nI’ve highlighted the bit there <\/p>\n
354
\n00:21:38,600 –> 00:21:41,400
\nit’s inevitable that we end up
\nknowing more about people and <\/p>\n
355
\n00:21:41,400 –> 00:21:45,000
\ndisliking them because of it.
\nSo just think twice before you <\/p>\n
356
\n00:21:45,000 –> 00:21:48,200
\npost that photo of that sandwich
\nonline that you’re enjoying so <\/p>\n
357
\n00:21:48,500 –> 00:21:52,000
\nproverb says one post here and
\nNow, and then is really <\/p>\n
358
\n00:21:52,000 –> 00:21:54,600
\nenjoyable.
\nBut if you post every second of <\/p>\n
359
\n00:21:54,600 –> 00:21:59,800
\neveryday, people just going to
\ngo up and feel like you’re you <\/p>\n
360
\n00:22:00,200 –> 00:22:02,500
\nfeel like vomiting?
\nSo, keep it, sweet. <\/p>\n
361
\n00:22:02,500 –> 00:22:05,600
\nSweet and light, right?
\nJust a tree. <\/p>\n
362
\n00:22:05,800 –> 00:22:08,700
\nMake every post that you do a
\ntreat for people that they go <\/p>\n
363
\n00:22:08,700 –> 00:22:10,600
\non.
\nThey post such good things <\/p>\n
364
\n00:22:10,900 –> 00:22:15,200
\nrather than go on clothes.
\nSo on the flip side from that, <\/p>\n
365
\n00:22:15,600 –> 00:22:19,400
\nremember a true friend can be
\ncloser than a brother. <\/p>\n
366
\n00:22:20,700 –> 00:22:23,100
\nSo, you know, I thinking about
\nthat. <\/p>\n
367
\n00:22:23,300 –> 00:22:27,100
\nWhat’s some ways that you think
\nthat you could use social media <\/p>\n
368
\n00:22:27,100 –> 00:22:30,800
\nonline in a positive way rather
\nthan a negative way. <\/p>\n
369
\n00:22:30,800 –> 00:22:33,900
\nSo, we talked the – what some
\nways that you could post some <\/p>\n
370
\n00:22:33,900 –> 00:22:37,900
\nthings to social media and use
\nsocial media that to strengthen <\/p>\n
371
\n00:22:37,900 –> 00:22:43,500
\nfriendships, These adults might
\nwant to pop up here. <\/p>\n
372
\n00:22:47,800 –> 00:22:50,100
\nYeah.
\nYeah. <\/p>\n
373
\n00:22:50,100 –> 00:22:53,000
\nSo inspirational quotes like
\nthat, that thing that I’ve got <\/p>\n
374
\n00:22:53,100 –> 00:22:56,200
\nthat I posted of a friend that
\ncame from social media, you <\/p>\n
375
\n00:22:56,200 –> 00:23:02,800
\nknow, so you can find Bible
\nquotes in that you enjoy in nice<\/p>\n
376
\n00:23:02,800 –> 00:23:04,600
\nformat and post them.
\nYeah. <\/p>\n
377
\n00:23:04,800 –> 00:23:08,300
\nWhat how else can you strengthen
\nfriendships using social media <\/p>\n
378
\n00:23:08,300 –> 00:23:15,100
\nin a positive way?
\nThe form of special interest <\/p>\n
379
\n00:23:15,100 –> 00:23:22,600
\ngroups.
\nYeah, so you know in social <\/p>\n
380
\n00:23:22,600 –> 00:23:24,200
\nmedia you don’t have to just
\nhave one on one. <\/p>\n
381
\n00:23:24,200 –> 00:23:28,600
\nYou can create a Facebook group
\nor a group of people that all <\/p>\n
382
\n00:23:28,600 –> 00:23:32,500
\nmight be discussing the readings
\nat for the day so that could be <\/p>\n
383
\n00:23:32,500 –> 00:23:35,400
\na readings group and so you when
\nyou join that group, you <\/p>\n
384
\n00:23:35,400 –> 00:23:39,700
\ndiscussing the Bible readings or
\nmaybe you’re doing research on <\/p>\n
385
\n00:23:40,600 –> 00:23:43,300
\nBible topic like the Kings and
\nso you’re all digging up <\/p>\n
386
\n00:23:43,300 –> 00:23:46,000
\nresearch and posting it on there
\nto share to each other. <\/p>\n
387
\n00:23:46,000 –> 00:23:50,200
\nSo you’re all real time sharing
\nresearch and information and <\/p>\n
388
\n00:23:50,200 –> 00:23:54,000
\ndiscussing it.
\nYep, really good ideas. guess <\/p>\n
389
\n00:23:54,000 –> 00:23:59,200
\nthese a bit more for adults, but
\nyeah. <\/p>\n
390
\n00:24:01,000 –> 00:24:02,700
\nYep.
\nYep. <\/p>\n
391
\n00:24:02,700 –> 00:24:07,000
\nSo events you know on Facebook
\nand Twitter. <\/p>\n
392
\n00:24:07,000 –> 00:24:10,500
\nSo like when you get to youth
\ngroup age they’ll often advise <\/p>\n
393
\n00:24:10,500 –> 00:24:13,100
\nyou on social media.
\nIf you follow them, when you <\/p>\n
394
\n00:24:13,100 –> 00:24:16,900
\nknow, when bookings, are opening
\nfor a camp or updates, about <\/p>\n
395
\n00:24:16,900 –> 00:24:19,400
\nwhat youth activities are going
\non and often, they’ll post <\/p>\n
396
\n00:24:19,400 –> 00:24:22,200
\nphotos of people having fun
\nthere and you can go see <\/p>\n
397
\n00:24:22,200 –> 00:24:24,800
\nyourself after the event.
\nSo yeah, that’s a really good <\/p>\n
398
\n00:24:24,800 –> 00:24:28,400
\nway to keep in touch with what’s
\ngoing on. <\/p>\n
399
\n00:24:28,400 –> 00:24:30,000
\nThat you can be involved with
\nyeah. <\/p>\n
400
\n00:24:38,700 –> 00:24:48,800
\nYeah.
\nYep. <\/p>\n
401
\n00:24:53,800 –> 00:24:56,900
\nYeah, so it’s like you actually
\nget an opportunity so you chat <\/p>\n
402
\n00:24:56,900 –> 00:25:01,100
\nwith your friends about
\nsomething and you’re all, you <\/p>\n
403
\n00:25:01,100 –> 00:25:06,200
\nknow, talking about this topic
\nand then after you go away and <\/p>\n
404
\n00:25:06,200 –> 00:25:08,400
\nthink about it, you’ve actually
\ngot an opportunity to reflect <\/p>\n
405
\n00:25:08,400 –> 00:25:15,300
\nand perhaps find something that
\nyou’d thought of or you’d spoken<\/p>\n
406
\n00:25:15,300 –> 00:25:18,300
\nto your mom and Dad and Dad said
\nsomething and you can you can <\/p>\n
407
\n00:25:18,300 –> 00:25:21,900
\nactually add to the conversation
\nafterwards or you might find a <\/p>\n
408
\n00:25:22,000 –> 00:25:27,300
\nan article in a In a book, or a
\nmagazine or a, or a Bible verse <\/p>\n
409
\n00:25:27,300 –> 00:25:30,000
\nthat relates to the conversation
\nthat you’re having and you could<\/p>\n
410
\n00:25:30,000 –> 00:25:32,400
\npost it.
\nSo you keep the true friends <\/p>\n
411
\n00:25:32,400 –> 00:25:34,800
\nthat you were having that really
\ngood conversation with, you can <\/p>\n
412
\n00:25:34,800 –> 00:25:37,100
\nkeep that conversation going and
\nbe helpful. <\/p>\n
413
\n00:25:38,600 –> 00:25:40,900
\nNow, the really obvious thing is
\nthat you can keep in touch with <\/p>\n
414
\n00:25:40,900 –> 00:25:43,800
\npeople, especially people like,
\nas you grow up and make friends <\/p>\n
415
\n00:25:43,800 –> 00:25:46,400
\nin youth group, and then you
\nmight go to a youth conference, <\/p>\n
416
\n00:25:46,600 –> 00:25:51,300
\nthe might be in another state or
\nyou might end up with friends, <\/p>\n
417
\n00:25:51,300 –> 00:25:54,400
\noverseas, not mentioning any
\nnames of People who might be <\/p>\n
418
\n00:25:54,400 –> 00:25:57,400
\nmoving overseas, but, you know,
\nyou can actually then keep in <\/p>\n
419
\n00:25:57,400 –> 00:26:01,300
\ntouch with them and reach out to
\nthem and they can feel you. <\/p>\n
420
\n00:26:02,100 –> 00:26:05,600
\nIt would be like a sweet treat
\nfor them to get a message from <\/p>\n
421
\n00:26:05,600 –> 00:26:10,800
\nyou.
\nYou know, like what’s going on <\/p>\n
422
\n00:26:10,800 –> 00:26:14,000
\nhere at bustled and bible
\nschool, take a selfie and and <\/p>\n
423
\n00:26:14,000 –> 00:26:16,900
\nsend it to them.
\nSo that that can be a really <\/p>\n
424
\n00:26:16,900 –> 00:26:19,700
\nsweet tree when you’ve developed
\nfriendships. <\/p>\n
425
\n00:26:19,800 –> 00:26:22,000
\nTrue friendships.
\nWe’re talking about that <\/p>\n
426
\n00:26:22,100 –> 00:26:25,600
\nstretch, our Over Australian
\nover the world. <\/p>\n
427
\n00:26:30,000 –> 00:26:34,100
\nYeah, yeah, so the prodigal son.
\nThat was looking for a way back.<\/p>\n
428
\n00:26:34,300 –> 00:26:38,300
\nMaybe my to come back sooner.
\nIf he could tweet to his dad at <\/p>\n
429
\n00:26:38,300 –> 00:26:43,500
\nthe pigs diet, Joe, like,
\nseriously his dad was watching <\/p>\n
430
\n00:26:43,500 –> 00:26:46,100
\nout or maybe his dad was
\nwatching his social media feed <\/p>\n
431
\n00:26:46,100 –> 00:26:49,100
\nand sort of was ready to receive
\nhim because he could see that <\/p>\n
432
\n00:26:49,200 –> 00:26:52,100
\nthe topics that he was posting
\nabout what coming around a bit <\/p>\n
433
\n00:26:52,100 –> 00:26:56,000
\nto being a bit more conducive to
\nwanting you know that thought <\/p>\n
434
\n00:26:56,000 –> 00:26:59,100
\nprocess.
\nHe had of maybe my dad’s <\/p>\n
435
\n00:26:59,800 –> 00:27:02,100
\nServants looked after better
\nthan me, you could think of it <\/p>\n
436
\n00:27:02,100 –> 00:27:04,800
\nlike that.
\nSo, yes, really, really some <\/p>\n
437
\n00:27:04,800 –> 00:27:07,300
\npositive things.
\nSo there’s some good use of <\/p>\n
438
\n00:27:07,300 –> 00:27:09,800
\nsocial media.
\nDoes anyone know who this is in <\/p>\n
439
\n00:27:09,800 –> 00:27:12,100
\nthe original painting?
\nIt might be an adult question. <\/p>\n
440
\n00:27:12,700 –> 00:27:14,800
\nAnyone know what that does the
\nfamous painting? <\/p>\n
441
\n00:27:14,800 –> 00:27:19,900
\nThat’s been narcissus, right?
\nSo, narcissus is a Greek myth <\/p>\n
442
\n00:27:20,900 –> 00:27:23,200
\nthat from which we get the word
\nnarcissist. <\/p>\n
443
\n00:27:23,200 –> 00:27:26,900
\nSo does anyone want to give me
\nthe 10 second summary of what <\/p>\n
444
\n00:27:26,900 –> 00:27:34,200
\nthis painting is?
\nI’ve who narcissus is Yes, he <\/p>\n
445
\n00:27:34,200 –> 00:27:37,200
\ncouldn’t he, you know, there’s
\nthis lovely girl there and he’s <\/p>\n
446
\n00:27:37,200 –> 00:27:40,400
\nfallen in love with his own
\nreflection, right. <\/p>\n
447
\n00:27:40,800 –> 00:27:43,400
\nAnd thinks that’s the most
\nbeautiful thing is saying. <\/p>\n
448
\n00:27:44,100 –> 00:27:49,700
\nSo you know, I want to deal with
\na few challenges of social media<\/p>\n
449
\n00:27:49,700 –> 00:27:53,200
\njust briefly and the first one I
\nwant to talk about is a living <\/p>\n
450
\n00:27:53,200 –> 00:27:57,400
\nfor the likes.
\nYou know where boys you say <\/p>\n
451
\n00:27:57,400 –> 00:28:00,500
\nsomething a little bit edgy or
\ndo something risky. <\/p>\n
452
\n00:28:02,100 –> 00:28:05,300
\nAnd you get a really big
\nresponse and Everyone likes that<\/p>\n
453
\n00:28:05,300 –> 00:28:09,300
\nclose that you do and then you
\ntempted to take a bit further <\/p>\n
454
\n00:28:10,200 –> 00:28:15,900
\nor, you know, girls, you do
\nsomething like, you know, dress <\/p>\n
455
\n00:28:15,900 –> 00:28:19,400
\nup all glamorous, and take a
\nshot or bear a shoulder or <\/p>\n
456
\n00:28:19,400 –> 00:28:23,200
\nsomething, and try and look a
\nluring or daring, and then you <\/p>\n
457
\n00:28:23,200 –> 00:28:26,200
\nto get lots of feedback and
\nattention, but who’s giving you <\/p>\n
458
\n00:28:26,200 –> 00:28:31,200
\nthat attention?
\nYou know who’s giving you the <\/p>\n
459
\n00:28:31,200 –> 00:28:34,100
\nlights and approval, you know,
\nare they people that? <\/p>\n
460
\n00:28:34,100 –> 00:28:36,300
\nAre they your best friends?
\nAre they people that you know, <\/p>\n
461
\n00:28:36,300 –> 00:28:39,400
\nand care about so who are you
\ndoing this for? <\/p>\n
462
\n00:28:39,900 –> 00:28:43,300
\nYou know, and is it positive
\nfeedback that you’re getting? <\/p>\n
463
\n00:28:43,400 –> 00:28:46,600
\nOr is it just you know?
\nSo like you you just getting <\/p>\n
464
\n00:28:46,700 –> 00:28:50,000
\nlots of salacious and rapacious
\ncomments, filling up your news <\/p>\n
465
\n00:28:50,000 –> 00:28:53,100
\nfeed that are taking the thing
\nthat you did sort of a little <\/p>\n
466
\n00:28:53,100 –> 00:28:56,100
\nbit risque assure a little bit
\ndaring. <\/p>\n
467
\n00:28:56,100 –> 00:28:58,800
\nIf you’re a bloke said
\nsomething, A bit edgy and then <\/p>\n
468
\n00:28:58,800 –> 00:29:02,600
\nall these comments are taking it
\nway further than you meant to. <\/p>\n
469
\n00:29:03,400 –> 00:29:07,700
\nSo just think about that come
\nback to what would a true friend<\/p>\n
470
\n00:29:07,700 –> 00:29:11,500
\nlike to see on a postcard on
\ntheir fridge? <\/p>\n
471
\n00:29:11,900 –> 00:29:15,400
\nDo you really want this?
\nAnd everyone else’s comments <\/p>\n
472
\n00:29:15,400 –> 00:29:22,400
\nattached on, posted on someone’s
\nfridge for someone else to see. <\/p>\n
473
\n00:29:23,600 –> 00:29:27,300
\nAnd also be mindful that, this
\nis what you post online. <\/p>\n
474
\n00:29:27,300 –> 00:29:30,400
\nLike I said, you can’t delete
\nit, you can never take it back. <\/p>\n
475
\n00:29:30,700 –> 00:29:37,200
\nSo it’s your reputation and
\nproverb says, a good name is to <\/p>\n
476
\n00:29:37,200 –> 00:29:40,500
\nbe chosen rather than great
\nriches and favor better than <\/p>\n
477
\n00:29:40,500 –> 00:29:42,800
\nsilver or gold.
\nSo, you know, of course, the <\/p>\n
478
\n00:29:42,800 –> 00:29:46,200
\nultimate good name that we would
\nlike, to be known by his God’s <\/p>\n
479
\n00:29:46,200 –> 00:29:49,300
\nname, isn’t it?
\nBut this is talking about our <\/p>\n
480
\n00:29:49,300 –> 00:29:53,800
\ngood name to our reputation and
\nyou know, E astiz, the more <\/p>\n
481
\n00:29:53,800 –> 00:29:58,700
\ncomplicated book talks about
\npeople’s reputation being like <\/p>\n
482
\n00:29:58,700 –> 00:30:02,900
\nthat’s been destroyed, like dead
\nflies making a precious ointment<\/p>\n
483
\n00:30:02,900 –> 00:30:06,800
\nto stink.
\nSo, you know, we can we can be <\/p>\n
484
\n00:30:06,800 –> 00:30:10,300
\nlike those flies with other
\npeople’s reputations with what <\/p>\n
485
\n00:30:10,300 –> 00:30:13,100
\nwe say about them.
\nAnd so we can we have to be <\/p>\n
486
\n00:30:13,100 –> 00:30:17,300
\ncareful about making a stink out
\nof other people like out of <\/p>\n
487
\n00:30:17,300 –> 00:30:20,100
\nother people’s names.
\nEveryone sort of, when you say <\/p>\n
488
\n00:30:20,100 –> 00:30:22,800
\nbeen picture, everyone goes and
\nlooks a bit side. <\/p>\n
489
\n00:30:22,900 –> 00:30:25,500
\nWoods because there’s all these
\nflies been crawling around <\/p>\n
490
\n00:30:25,500 –> 00:30:27,600
\nsaying things about been picture
\nonline. <\/p>\n
491
\n00:30:27,900 –> 00:30:30,500
\nThat makes people question that
\nperson’s name. <\/p>\n
492
\n00:30:31,400 –> 00:30:33,900
\nSo we have to be really careful
\nabout what we say about other <\/p>\n
493
\n00:30:33,900 –> 00:30:37,100
\npeople.
\nBut also our own actions and our<\/p>\n
494
\n00:30:37,100 –> 00:30:39,900
\nown posts.
\nAnd the words we say can affect <\/p>\n
495
\n00:30:39,900 –> 00:30:42,000
\nour reputation.
\nSo you can get a reputation of <\/p>\n
496
\n00:30:42,008 –> 00:30:46,100
\nbeing a nasty argumentative
\nperson because you of what you <\/p>\n
497
\n00:30:46,100 –> 00:30:49,000
\npost.
\nSo it doesn’t take someone else,<\/p>\n
498
\n00:30:49,000 –> 00:30:52,100
\nanother fly to mock it up.
\nWe can do that for ourselves so <\/p>\n
499
\n00:30:52,100 –> 00:30:57,300
\njust be Careful and, you know,
\nnever in history have job <\/p>\n
500
\n00:30:57,300 –> 00:31:01,300
\nrecruiters or potential boss has
\nhad such an ability to see the <\/p>\n
501
\n00:31:01,300 –> 00:31:03,100
\nIntegrity of a potential
\nemployee. <\/p>\n
502
\n00:31:03,100 –> 00:31:07,000
\nSo, when they get a resume on
\ntheir desk, you can search that <\/p>\n
503
\n00:31:07,000 –> 00:31:10,300
\nthat person’s name and see what
\npops up on social media and see <\/p>\n
504
\n00:31:10,300 –> 00:31:14,600
\nwhether there are worthwhile
\nhonorable person to employ and, <\/p>\n
505
\n00:31:14,600 –> 00:31:18,600
\nyou know, just by doing a
\nFacebook search on them. <\/p>\n
506
\n00:31:18,600 –> 00:31:21,700
\nSo be really careful about the
\nthings that you post on time. <\/p>\n
507
\n00:31:21,700 –> 00:31:26,500
\nThey hang around for So now you
\njust this probably a little bit <\/p>\n
508
\n00:31:26,500 –> 00:31:28,800
\nmore for parents.
\nI know social media is not <\/p>\n
509
\n00:31:29,000 –> 00:31:34,900
\nlegally allowed until you’re 30
\nbut, you know, in our family, I <\/p>\n
510
\n00:31:36,100 –> 00:31:38,800
\nwouldn’t advise my children.
\nThat’s the minimum that the <\/p>\n
511
\n00:31:38,800 –> 00:31:41,800
\nworld thinks is appropriate.
\nSo in our family, I wouldn’t let<\/p>\n
512
\n00:31:41,800 –> 00:31:44,300
\nour children have some sort of
\nsocial media account of their <\/p>\n
513
\n00:31:44,300 –> 00:31:48,600
\nown two of our 16, at least,
\nbefore that we shared family <\/p>\n
514
\n00:31:48,600 –> 00:31:52,200
\naccounts, so that protected them
\nin many ways. <\/p>\n
515
\n00:31:52,200 –> 00:31:56,000
\nSo, You know, they’re including
\ntheir reputation from posting <\/p>\n
516
\n00:31:56,000 –> 00:31:59,600
\ntoo many silly things that never
\ngo away age, 13, 14. <\/p>\n
517
\n00:31:59,900 –> 00:32:02,500
\nWhen you’re getting a job at 20,
\npeople could still find it. <\/p>\n
518
\n00:32:02,800 –> 00:32:06,000
\nSo, you know, this comment more
\npeople are concerned with <\/p>\n
519
\n00:32:06,000 –> 00:32:08,000
\ndeleting history of and making
\nit. <\/p>\n
520
\n00:32:09,300 –> 00:32:13,600
\nAnd if you have family accounts,
\nlike a family, Skype account, <\/p>\n
521
\n00:32:13,600 –> 00:32:17,100
\nand a family, whatever, other
\nsocial media account, that the <\/p>\n
522
\n00:32:17,100 –> 00:32:20,400
\nkids can post to and have chats
\nin, you actually get to Mentor <\/p>\n
523
\n00:32:20,400 –> 00:32:22,700
\nthem and see the conversations
\nthat they’re having. <\/p>\n
524
\n00:32:23,600 –> 00:32:26,400
\nBecause they’re all in your
\nshared family feet, so it’s like<\/p>\n
525
\n00:32:26,600 –> 00:32:29,500
\n90 of creating a protection for
\nthem when they search for their <\/p>\n
526
\n00:32:29,500 –> 00:32:30,800
\nname.
\nIt won’t pop up because it’ll be<\/p>\n
527
\n00:32:30,800 –> 00:32:35,300
\nlike the picture family.
\nWe just work hook, always cool, <\/p>\n
528
\n00:32:35,300 –> 00:32:38,300
\nthe picture porridge pot, so you
\nsearch for that on. <\/p>\n
529
\n00:32:38,300 –> 00:32:43,600
\nSkype might still be there but
\nbut you create an environment <\/p>\n
530
\n00:32:43,600 –> 00:32:47,200
\nthat you can mentor and oversee
\nwhat they’re doing because it’s <\/p>\n
531
\n00:32:47,200 –> 00:32:52,500
\nall postcards inside and then
\narea that and you can put the <\/p>\n
532
\n00:32:52,500 –> 00:32:55,400
\none account on Multiple devices
\nand they can all use it. <\/p>\n
533
\n00:32:55,400 –> 00:32:57,300
\nSo that’s just my advice for
\nyou. <\/p>\n
534
\n00:32:59,000 –> 00:33:02,200
\nSo remember that Proverbs is
\npretty blunt and to the point. <\/p>\n
535
\n00:33:02,500 –> 00:33:06,900
\nSo, what about this proverb
\nanswer, not a fool according to <\/p>\n
536
\n00:33:06,900 –> 00:33:10,800
\nhis folly, lest you be like him
\nyourself? <\/p>\n
537
\n00:33:12,200 –> 00:33:13,800
\nSo that’s pretty
\nstraightforward, isn’t it? <\/p>\n
538
\n00:33:14,000 –> 00:33:18,000
\nIt’s a, you know, you know the
\nproblem someone’s wrong on the <\/p>\n
539
\n00:33:18,000 –> 00:33:20,600
\ninternet and I can’t let that
\nstand. <\/p>\n
540
\n00:33:21,600 –> 00:33:26,500
\nAnd the problem is that you
\nquickly appear to be a Fool by <\/p>\n
541
\n00:33:26,500 –> 00:33:32,100
\nresponding to baited statements.
\nAnd they’re always falls on the <\/p>\n
542
\n00:33:32,100 –> 00:33:37,500
\ninternet but don’t be one
\nyourself so you know don’t feed <\/p>\n
543
\n00:33:37,500 –> 00:33:40,200
\nthe Trolls but here’s the
\nchallenging thing. <\/p>\n
544
\n00:33:41,700 –> 00:33:43,200
\nI said the prophet is a
\nstraightforward. <\/p>\n
545
\n00:33:43,200 –> 00:33:45,600
\nWhat do you make of this?
\nThe very next verse? <\/p>\n
546
\n00:33:46,600 –> 00:33:48,900
\nAnswer a fool according to his
\nfolly. <\/p>\n
547
\n00:33:50,000 –> 00:33:55,100
\nLest he be wise in his own eyes.
\nSo we’ve got the very next verse<\/p>\n
548
\n00:33:55,100 –> 00:33:58,200
\nsaying, the exact opposite.
\nSo what do you think that means?<\/p>\n
549
\n00:33:59,400 –> 00:34:02,800
\nAny ideas, adults?
\nIt’s a bit of a tricky one. <\/p>\n
550
\n00:34:06,500 –> 00:34:09,800
\nCircumstances, dictate.
\nAll right, let’s close. <\/p>\n
551
\n00:34:09,800 –> 00:34:12,699
\nYeah.
\nI mean, I’ve got my suggestion <\/p>\n
552
\n00:34:12,699 –> 00:34:16,000
\nthat I’ll give you, I don’t have
\nto, you can go look online. <\/p>\n
553
\n00:34:16,000 –> 00:34:17,400
\nPeople got all sorts of ideas
\nhere. <\/p>\n
554
\n00:34:17,400 –> 00:34:19,900
\nSo there’s no real wrong answer
\nhere, right or wrong answer <\/p>\n
555
\n00:34:19,900 –> 00:34:21,600
\nhere.
\nJust usually, if you’ve got <\/p>\n
556
\n00:34:21,600 –> 00:34:24,100
\nideas of what you think this is
\nabout, but I reckon that’s <\/p>\n
557
\n00:34:24,100 –> 00:34:25,699
\nright.
\nCircumstances, dictate. <\/p>\n
558
\n00:34:25,699 –> 00:34:28,699
\nI’ll give you my suggestion of
\nhow that works in a second. <\/p>\n
559
\n00:34:36,000 –> 00:34:36,600
\nYeah.
\nYeah. <\/p>\n
560
\n00:34:36,600 –> 00:34:38,500
\nSo that would be one
\ncircumstance where you get to <\/p>\n
561
\n00:34:38,500 –> 00:34:46,300
\nmake a judgment call?
\nYeah. <\/p>\n
562
\n00:34:48,100 –> 00:34:49,699
\nYep.
\nYep. <\/p>\n
563
\n00:34:51,699 –> 00:34:54,800
\nSo I mean there’s a bit of a
\ncase here. <\/p>\n
564
\n00:34:54,800 –> 00:34:56,199
\nI think you could take it as a
\nlot. <\/p>\n
565
\n00:34:56,199 –> 00:34:57,900
\nYou’re damned.
\nIf you do, damned if you don’t <\/p>\n
566
\n00:34:57,900 –> 00:35:04,000
\nlike the sort of, it’s a toy in
\ncost, in a way, like it’s really<\/p>\n
567
\n00:35:04,000 –> 00:35:08,700
\nup in the air.
\nCome point us. <\/p>\n
568
\n00:35:08,700 –> 00:35:11,700
\nYeah.
\nSorry. <\/p>\n
569
\n00:35:14,600 –> 00:35:21,400
\nBut I think really, the general
\nprinciple is that, you know, <\/p>\n
570
\n00:35:22,500 –> 00:35:26,300
\nbecause the first verse is don’t
\nanswer a fool according to their<\/p>\n
571
\n00:35:26,500 –> 00:35:29,000
\nFolly.
\nThe general overall principle, <\/p>\n
572
\n00:35:29,000 –> 00:35:32,200
\nguiding principle is don’t
\nanswer a fool according to their<\/p>\n
573
\n00:35:32,800 –> 00:35:35,300
\ntheir fallen.
\nDon’t get sucked into it, but <\/p>\n
574
\n00:35:35,300 –> 00:35:37,900
\nthere are occasions where you
\nmake a judgment call and go. <\/p>\n
575
\n00:35:37,900 –> 00:35:42,100
\nI wonder if he’s really
\nunderstands what Is his sighing?<\/p>\n
576
\n00:35:42,100 –> 00:35:46,700
\nLike, you know, I’ll give him a
\nbenefit of a doubt and just say <\/p>\n
577
\n00:35:46,700 –> 00:35:49,600
\na comment, try to balance that
\nout a little bit. <\/p>\n
578
\n00:35:49,600 –> 00:35:53,200
\nSo you’re welcome to have a go
\nand make one comment, but don’t <\/p>\n
579
\n00:35:53,200 –> 00:35:57,400
\nget stuck in a continual Loop.
\nLike you make one attempt and <\/p>\n
580
\n00:35:57,400 –> 00:36:01,800
\nthen if they show themselves to
\nbe a fool, you just leave it <\/p>\n
581
\n00:36:01,800 –> 00:36:04,000
\nthere and just don’t get caught
\nin the spiral. <\/p>\n
582
\n00:36:04,000 –> 00:36:06,200
\nSo I think that’s what it’s
\nsaying is as a general rule, <\/p>\n
583
\n00:36:06,300 –> 00:36:08,000
\ndon’t answer them to coordinate
\ntheir Folly. <\/p>\n
584
\n00:36:08,100 –> 00:36:10,200
\nThere’s people that come along
\nand you’re not sure if they are <\/p>\n
585
\n00:36:10,200 –> 00:36:12,600
\na fool because you have Any
\ndealings with them yet so <\/p>\n
586
\n00:36:12,600 –> 00:36:16,600
\nthey’ll say something you’ll add
\nwisdom into it. <\/p>\n
587
\n00:36:16,600 –> 00:36:18,400
\nAnd then see what response you
\nget back. <\/p>\n
588
\n00:36:18,400 –> 00:36:22,000
\nIf you get foolishness back,
\njust leave it move on. <\/p>\n
589
\n00:36:22,100 –> 00:36:23,900
\nI think is what the proverb is
\nsaying. <\/p>\n
590
\n00:36:24,600 –> 00:36:29,600
\nSo Joe, in this case here,
\nremember our words are never <\/p>\n
591
\n00:36:29,600 –> 00:36:32,400
\ngoing to go away.
\nAnd whatever we say we want to <\/p>\n
592
\n00:36:32,400 –> 00:36:36,900
\nbe able to see it printed out
\nand on someone’s fridge and not <\/p>\n
593
\n00:36:36,900 –> 00:36:39,000
\nbe embarrassed if that were the
\ncase. <\/p>\n
594
\n00:36:39,400 –> 00:36:42,500
\nSo, you know, problems also.
\nSays that if you’ve got nothing <\/p>\n
595
\n00:36:42,500 –> 00:36:46,500
\nbetter to say, sometimes it’s
\nbetter to say nothing at all. <\/p>\n
596
\n00:36:46,600 –> 00:36:49,300
\nSo here’s a problem, that’s
\npretty blunt in its assessment, <\/p>\n
597
\n00:36:49,300 –> 00:36:52,400
\nreally straightforward easy to
\nunderstand, even a fool who keep<\/p>\n
598
\n00:36:52,400 –> 00:36:56,700
\nsilent.
\nHe’s considered wise When he <\/p>\n
599
\n00:36:56,700 –> 00:37:00,400
\ncloses his lips, his deemed
\nintelligent. <\/p>\n
600
\n00:37:01,100 –> 00:37:03,200
\nSo the Proverbs are saying, you
\nknow, don’t get sucked into just<\/p>\n
601
\n00:37:03,200 –> 00:37:06,100
\nposting gibberish and rubbish
\nand your sandwich because that’s<\/p>\n
602
\n00:37:06,100 –> 00:37:08,300
\nwhen you look like, people think
\nyou look silly. <\/p>\n
603
\n00:37:08,700 –> 00:37:11,700
\nSo if you’ve got nothing
\npositive to contribute to a true<\/p>\n
604
\n00:37:11,700 –> 00:37:15,500
\nfriend don’t say anything, just
\nkeep the social media quiet. <\/p>\n
605
\n00:37:15,500 –> 00:37:19,100
\nAnd when you’ve got something of
\nvalue to share then share that <\/p>\n
606
\n00:37:19,100 –> 00:37:22,100
\nto, it’s better to keep silent
\nand for people to think you look<\/p>\n
607
\n00:37:22,100 –> 00:37:26,400
\nsilly.
\nMale words are a really big <\/p>\n
608
\n00:37:26,400 –> 00:37:28,800
\nproblem in social media.
\nThat’s really what we’re talking<\/p>\n
609
\n00:37:28,800 –> 00:37:32,300
\nabout is is the our speech and
\nthat’s nothing new. <\/p>\n
610
\n00:37:32,300 –> 00:37:36,100
\nSo social media might be the
\nlatest platform but forever and <\/p>\n
611
\n00:37:36,100 –> 00:37:39,200
\na day when people have talked to
\neach other, they’ve been able to<\/p>\n
612
\n00:37:39,200 –> 00:37:41,100
\nwords have always been a
\nproblem. <\/p>\n
613
\n00:37:41,100 –> 00:37:46,200
\nSo just look at this in James
\nJames talks about the tongue and<\/p>\n
614
\n00:37:46,200 –> 00:37:48,600
\nthe things we speak.
\nAnd he says, if we put bits into<\/p>\n
615
\n00:37:48,600 –> 00:37:52,600
\nthe mouths of horses so that
\nthey obey us, we will guide <\/p>\n
616
\n00:37:52,600 –> 00:37:56,200
\ntheir Party as well.
\nSo you can steer an entire <\/p>\n
617
\n00:37:56,200 –> 00:37:59,500
\ngalloping horse.
\nJust buy something small in <\/p>\n
618
\n00:37:59,500 –> 00:38:02,900
\ntheir mouth.
\nAnd look at the big ships <\/p>\n
619
\n00:38:03,000 –> 00:38:04,900
\nthough.
\nThey’re so large and driven by <\/p>\n
620
\n00:38:04,900 –> 00:38:07,900
\nstrong winds.
\nThey’re Guided by a very small <\/p>\n
621
\n00:38:07,900 –> 00:38:10,800
\nRudder at the back there,
\nwherever the pilot directs. <\/p>\n
622
\n00:38:11,500 –> 00:38:14,500
\nSo we’re used to these really
\nbig lumbering things that are <\/p>\n
623
\n00:38:15,000 –> 00:38:17,400
\nthat are steered by something
\ntiny. <\/p>\n
624
\n00:38:19,000 –> 00:38:23,800
\nSo we’ll also the tongue even
\nthough it’s a small member yet, <\/p>\n
625
\n00:38:23,800 –> 00:38:27,700
\nit boasts of great things how
\ngreat a forest is set, Ablaze by<\/p>\n
626
\n00:38:27,700 –> 00:38:31,000
\nsuch a small fire and the tongue
\nis a fire world of <\/p>\n
627
\n00:38:31,300 –> 00:38:34,200
\nRighteousness, the tongue of
\nsaid, amongst our members <\/p>\n
628
\n00:38:34,200 –> 00:38:37,900
\nstaining, the whole body sitting
\non fire the course of life and <\/p>\n
629
\n00:38:37,900 –> 00:38:42,000
\nset on fire by hell.
\nSo your words can devastate <\/p>\n
630
\n00:38:42,000 –> 00:38:47,200
\nfriendships is what James is
\nsaying for every kind of Beast <\/p>\n
631
\n00:38:47,200 –> 00:38:51,000
\nbird reptile and sea creature
\nCan Be Tamed and has been tamed <\/p>\n
632
\n00:38:51,000 –> 00:38:55,400
\nby mankind, but no human being
\ncan chain the tongue. <\/p>\n
633
\n00:38:55,700 –> 00:38:59,100
\nIt’s a Restless evil.
\nFull of deadly poison. <\/p>\n
634
\n00:39:00,300 –> 00:39:05,600
\nSo, you know, there’s four
\nthings here that you can’t get <\/p>\n
635
\n00:39:05,600 –> 00:39:08,200
\nback.
\nThe Mind want to want. <\/p>\n
636
\n00:39:08,200 –> 00:39:11,200
\nYou think about is hurtful words
\nafter they’ve been spoken or <\/p>\n
637
\n00:39:11,200 –> 00:39:16,200
\ngossips been spread, you can’t
\nget it back in the same way. <\/p>\n
638
\n00:39:16,200 –> 00:39:18,600
\nLike we saw that photo of that
\nBushfire. <\/p>\n
639
\n00:39:19,000 –> 00:39:23,400
\nOnce a Bushfire has been, let go
\nand gone through, you can’t get <\/p>\n
640
\n00:39:23,400 –> 00:39:26,100
\nit back.
\nAnd once it’s burnt, the trees, <\/p>\n
641
\n00:39:26,100 –> 00:39:30,300
\nand scrub, you can’t reverse it.
\nThey’re burnt, they’re dead. <\/p>\n
642
\n00:39:30,300 –> 00:39:32,200
\nThey’re gone.
\nThat’s what James is saying. <\/p>\n
643
\n00:39:32,200 –> 00:39:34,600
\nAnd so your friends that you
\nwant to be close to the like a <\/p>\n
644
\n00:39:34,607 –> 00:39:37,400
\nbrother, you really need to be
\ncareful about The things that <\/p>\n
645
\n00:39:37,400 –> 00:39:41,500
\nyou say because you can burn
\nfriendships, so there’s nothing <\/p>\n
646
\n00:39:41,500 –> 00:39:44,500
\nleft.
\nSo just be careful with our <\/p>\n
647
\n00:39:44,700 –> 00:39:49,000
\nwords and along with words, the
\nModern Trend in social media is <\/p>\n
648
\n00:39:49,000 –> 00:39:52,400
\nsocial shaming.
\nI’m not really going to go into <\/p>\n
649
\n00:39:52,400 –> 00:39:56,600
\nit, but I’m sure you’ve seen it
\nwhere based on one photo or one <\/p>\n
650
\n00:39:56,600 –> 00:40:01,100
\nshort video clip, people make a
\nsnap judgment about that person <\/p>\n
651
\n00:40:01,100 –> 00:40:03,200
\nand their whole character.
\nThe whole thing could be out of <\/p>\n
652
\n00:40:03,207 –> 00:40:06,600
\ncontext and then social media
\ncomes like a big. <\/p>\n
653
\n00:40:06,800 –> 00:40:11,300
\nAab pile on that person and
\nshaming them so don’t get caught<\/p>\n
654
\n00:40:11,300 –> 00:40:14,700
\nup in Social shaming.
\nThat’s just like a big fire <\/p>\n
655
\n00:40:14,700 –> 00:40:18,700
\nraging where people are saying
\nhurtful things, that’s not what <\/p>\n
656
\n00:40:18,700 –> 00:40:22,200
\na true friend would do.
\nRemember a true friend is <\/p>\n
657
\n00:40:22,200 –> 00:40:26,600
\nlooking to better that person
\nand loves them. <\/p>\n
658
\n00:40:26,700 –> 00:40:31,700
\nDoesn’t shame them and a friend
\nsticks closer than a brother. <\/p>\n
659
\n00:40:33,200 –> 00:40:42,200
\nand, you know, we, I hope we
\nwould go and talk to a friend if<\/p>\n
660
\n00:40:42,200 –> 00:40:46,200
\nwe thought that we needed to and
\nwe would help and encourage them<\/p>\n
661
\n00:40:46,200 –> 00:40:49,100
\nnot to shame them by posting
\nsomething horrible, that we <\/p>\n
662
\n00:40:49,100 –> 00:40:51,300
\nthink they might have done on
\nsocial media. <\/p>\n
663
\n00:40:51,800 –> 00:40:53,700
\nAnd so, that’s what Proverbs
\ntalks about. <\/p>\n
664
\n00:40:53,700 –> 00:40:55,400
\nThis is the correct way to do
\nit. <\/p>\n
665
\n00:40:55,900 –> 00:40:58,700
\nIs better is open rebuke than
\nhidden love. <\/p>\n
666
\n00:40:58,700 –> 00:41:00,600
\nFaithful are the wounds of a
\nfriend. <\/p>\n
667
\n00:41:01,000 –> 00:41:03,900
\nProfuse are the kisses of an
\nenemy? <\/p>\n
668
\n00:41:04,900 –> 00:41:07,200
\nAnd the kisses of an enemy, they
\nremind us of Judas. <\/p>\n
669
\n00:41:07,200 –> 00:41:10,600
\nDon’t they who are compared to
\nour Lord? <\/p>\n
670
\n00:41:10,600 –> 00:41:13,000
\nJesus Christ.
\nWho openly rebuked Peter? <\/p>\n
671
\n00:41:13,000 –> 00:41:15,300
\nRemember that he rebuked him and
\nsaid, get behind me. <\/p>\n
672
\n00:41:15,300 –> 00:41:18,100
\nWhy do you say that?
\nSo, he Christ loved Peter. <\/p>\n
673
\n00:41:18,100 –> 00:41:22,200
\nSo he openly rebuked him and
\nJudas betrayed Jesus by kissing <\/p>\n
674
\n00:41:22,200 –> 00:41:25,200
\nhim.
\nSo, what we need to be is true <\/p>\n
675
\n00:41:25,200 –> 00:41:28,800
\nfriends, who would openly go and
\nchat to our friends if we <\/p>\n
676
\n00:41:28,800 –> 00:41:32,800
\nthought there was a problem, not
\nbe social media, shamers, and <\/p>\n
677
\n00:41:32,900 –> 00:41:34,500
\npost things that we think that
\nthey’ve done. <\/p>\n
678
\n00:41:34,700 –> 00:41:36,700
\nOn for everyone else to pile on
\nand tell them. <\/p>\n
679
\n00:41:36,700 –> 00:41:41,200
\nThey’ve done that wrong too.
\nJust a couple of other problems <\/p>\n
680
\n00:41:41,200 –> 00:41:48,300
\nI want to highlight about social
\nmedia loneliness and bullying. <\/p>\n
681
\n00:41:50,200 –> 00:41:54,400
\nSo, you know, loneliness and you
\nmight not realize, but some of <\/p>\n
682
\n00:41:54,400 –> 00:41:57,800
\nyour people, the young people
\nthat you associate with could be<\/p>\n
683
\n00:41:57,800 –> 00:42:02,400
\nstanding around and feeling
\nlonely, and it’s a real problem.<\/p>\n
684
\n00:42:03,200 –> 00:42:07,500
\nAnd social media sometimes
\ndoesn’t help because we can see <\/p>\n
685
\n00:42:07,500 –> 00:42:10,000
\nall these things going on online
\nthat people are doing. <\/p>\n
686
\n00:42:10,000 –> 00:42:15,500
\nAnd we’re not part of it or
\nWorse, we can manufacture <\/p>\n
687
\n00:42:15,500 –> 00:42:20,400
\nthings, to be part of it.
\nAnd know everything you see on <\/p>\n
688
\n00:42:20,400 –> 00:42:24,600
\nsocial media is true.
\nYou know, in fact, many of the <\/p>\n
689
\n00:42:24,600 –> 00:42:30,000
\nmost popular Instagram accounts
\nare curated with obscene amounts<\/p>\n
690
\n00:42:30,000 –> 00:42:33,400
\nof effort in makeup and
\nprofessional photography and <\/p>\n
691
\n00:42:33,400 –> 00:42:36,200
\nlighting and production for a
\nsingle photograph. <\/p>\n
692
\n00:42:36,500 –> 00:42:39,200
\nBecause if they get lots of
\nfollowers, they get advertisers <\/p>\n
693
\n00:42:39,200 –> 00:42:42,000
\noffering and money and products.
\nSo a lot of the stuff you see on<\/p>\n
694
\n00:42:42,000 –> 00:42:47,500
\nsocial media isn’t actually
\nreal, it’s manufactured, And so,<\/p>\n
695
\n00:42:48,000 –> 00:42:52,600
\nyou know, if your life is taken
\nover, but to this extent, you’ve<\/p>\n
696
\n00:42:52,600 –> 00:42:54,500
\ngone too far.
\nSo that’s where you got to find <\/p>\n
697
\n00:42:54,500 –> 00:42:56,800
\nthe boundaries with social
\nmedia. <\/p>\n
698
\n00:42:56,800 –> 00:43:00,800
\nSo don’t don’t feel like you
\nneed to fit into this frenzy and<\/p>\n
699
\n00:43:00,800 –> 00:43:03,900
\ndon’t feel like you need to
\nrespond to every post. <\/p>\n
700
\n00:43:04,100 –> 00:43:07,600
\nEvery one of your friends puts
\nup online, you know, your true <\/p>\n
701
\n00:43:07,600 –> 00:43:09,600
\nfriend will know, you’re their
\nfriend. <\/p>\n
702
\n00:43:09,900 –> 00:43:14,600
\nYou don’t have to reassure them
\nby commenting on every post that<\/p>\n
703
\n00:43:14,600 –> 00:43:18,200
\nthey put up.
\nAnd if you were lonely, and <\/p>\n
704
\n00:43:18,200 –> 00:43:21,800
\nyou’re looking at other people’s
\nposts, if you don’t remember, <\/p>\n
705
\n00:43:21,800 –> 00:43:24,500
\nthey have lots of normal days
\nand normal meals and they’re, <\/p>\n
706
\n00:43:24,500 –> 00:43:27,100
\nperhaps, they’re trying to be
\ngive people treats and not <\/p>\n
707
\n00:43:27,100 –> 00:43:33,000
\nposting Every Sandwich.
\nSo, look at my Instagram. now it<\/p>\n
708
\n00:43:33,000 –> 00:43:37,100
\nlooks fantastic but I’ll tell
\nyou, I’ve gone out sailing three<\/p>\n
709
\n00:43:37,100 –> 00:43:43,900
\ntimes in the last 18 months.
\nAnd in the 12 months prior to <\/p>\n
710
\n00:43:43,900 –> 00:43:46,600
\nthat, I didn’t get out once
\nbecause we had some big projects<\/p>\n
711
\n00:43:46,600 –> 00:43:49,500
\non.
\nSo I really didn’t go sailing so<\/p>\n
712
\n00:43:49,500 –> 00:43:53,100
\na lot of these are old photos
\nthat I’ve dug up and posted and <\/p>\n
713
\n00:43:53,100 –> 00:43:56,800
\nshared so yeah I don’t post the
\nboring microwave dinners. <\/p>\n
714
\n00:43:56,800 –> 00:44:01,900
\nI eat at my desk at work or my
\ndrop boring drive to work each <\/p>\n
715
\n00:44:01,900 –> 00:44:04,700
\nday.
\nSo but my life isn’t always that<\/p>\n
716
\n00:44:04,700 –> 00:44:08,600
\nexciting.
\nSo, don’t compare your everyday <\/p>\n
717
\n00:44:08,600 –> 00:44:14,100
\nlife to my once-in-a-lifetime.
\nOf sailing on Lake Argyle and <\/p>\n
718
\n00:44:14,100 –> 00:44:18,300
\nthink that you’re missing out
\nbecause that’s not my day to day<\/p>\n
719
\n00:44:18,300 –> 00:44:21,900
\nlife either.
\nI’m just posting some highlights<\/p>\n
720
\n00:44:21,900 –> 00:44:30,300
\nfor friends to chat about with
\nme, so making friends with other<\/p>\n
721
\n00:44:30,300 –> 00:44:35,400
\npeople is about communicating in
\na positive way weather. literal <\/p>\n
722
\n00:44:35,400 –> 00:44:39,700
\noffline as, like real tangible
\nfriends, or whether where we’ve <\/p>\n
723
\n00:44:39,700 –> 00:44:42,500
\nmade a friend and we’re
\ncommunicating with them online, <\/p>\n
724
\n00:44:43,800 –> 00:44:47,900
\nAnd so if you are struggling
\nwith interacting and making <\/p>\n
725
\n00:44:47,900 –> 00:44:52,600
\nfriends, here’s some really good
\non advice and probably upstairs.<\/p>\n
726
\n00:44:52,600 –> 00:44:57,200
\nLet another praise you and not
\nyour own mouth, a stranger and <\/p>\n
727
\n00:44:57,200 –> 00:45:00,000
\nnot your own lips.
\nSo you know, don’t boast about <\/p>\n
728
\n00:45:00,000 –> 00:45:01,800
\nyourself and the things that
\nyou’re up to. <\/p>\n
729
\n00:45:01,800 –> 00:45:04,200
\nSo if you keep big noting
\nyourself and all the wonderful <\/p>\n
730
\n00:45:04,200 –> 00:45:07,900
\nthings that you’re doing on
\nsocial media, people are really <\/p>\n
731
\n00:45:07,900 –> 00:45:10,300
\ngoing to be that excited about
\nbeing friends. <\/p>\n
732
\n00:45:10,800 –> 00:45:16,900
\nSo, you know, maybe use if you
\nwant to make a friend look at <\/p>\n
733
\n00:45:16,900 –> 00:45:19,400
\nother people’s feeds that you
\nsort of know and would like to <\/p>\n
734
\n00:45:19,400 –> 00:45:22,600
\nget to know and you can post
\nselectively some comments about <\/p>\n
735
\n00:45:22,600 –> 00:45:28,000
\nsome things that they’ve done
\nthat, get a conversation going <\/p>\n
736
\n00:45:28,000 –> 00:45:31,300
\nabout things that they’re doing
\nand then maybe post a thing <\/p>\n
737
\n00:45:31,300 –> 00:45:33,100
\nabout where you’re up to from
\ntime to time. <\/p>\n
738
\n00:45:33,100 –> 00:45:38,500
\nAnd so if you’re polite and
\nrespectful interesting or funny <\/p>\n
739
\n00:45:38,500 –> 00:45:40,800
\nthen people will respond to your
\ncomments. <\/p>\n
740
\n00:45:40,800 –> 00:45:45,000
\nBut if you start posting Like,
\nhere’s the great big, you know, <\/p>\n
741
\n00:45:45,800 –> 00:45:48,500
\nboat, I’m on today.
\nAnd this is the champagne <\/p>\n
742
\n00:45:48,500 –> 00:45:50,800
\nchicken lunch, I’m having now,
\nand it’s all about you. <\/p>\n
743
\n00:45:50,800 –> 00:45:53,700
\nAnd the fun times you’re having,
\nyou don’t actually you get lots <\/p>\n
744
\n00:45:53,700 –> 00:45:57,200
\nof likes, but you won’t actually
\ndevelop any real friendship. <\/p>\n
745
\n00:45:57,200 –> 00:46:00,000
\nSo friendships is about a
\ntwo-way communication to <\/p>\n
746
\n00:46:00,000 –> 00:46:02,500
\ncommunication.
\nSo, you talk about the things <\/p>\n
747
\n00:46:02,500 –> 00:46:06,400
\nthat they’re doing and to start
\nwith. <\/p>\n
748
\n00:46:07,900 –> 00:46:10,100
\nSo here’s some good advice from
\nthe proverbs. <\/p>\n
749
\n00:46:11,100 –> 00:46:14,800
\nHe who loves purity of heart
\nwhose speech is gracious will <\/p>\n
750
\n00:46:14,800 –> 00:46:18,100
\nhave the king as his friend.
\nSo, you know, you can think <\/p>\n
751
\n00:46:18,100 –> 00:46:21,600
\nabout the true king that will
\nmake as a friend, if we have <\/p>\n
752
\n00:46:22,400 –> 00:46:28,100
\nwholesome conversations in the
\nLord, Jesus Christ, but the <\/p>\n
753
\n00:46:28,100 –> 00:46:30,300
\nstraightforward logic is true as
\nwell. <\/p>\n
754
\n00:46:31,200 –> 00:46:36,700
\nThat if we poles post, wholesome
\nand gracious, things will end up<\/p>\n
755
\n00:46:36,700 –> 00:46:40,600
\nmaking friends.
\nWith people that are upright and<\/p>\n
756
\n00:46:40,600 –> 00:46:44,100
\nhave integrity and that, like,
\nwholesome things as well. <\/p>\n
757
\n00:46:44,700 –> 00:46:48,300
\nSo, you know, the good thing
\nabout social media and having <\/p>\n
758
\n00:46:48,300 –> 00:46:51,700
\nconversations with friends
\naround the places, it’s not like<\/p>\n
759
\n00:46:51,700 –> 00:46:54,000
\na conversation where you have to
\nthink about something on the <\/p>\n
760
\n00:46:54,000 –> 00:46:58,200
\nspot, they post something, you
\ncan think about it for a bit and<\/p>\n
761
\n00:46:58,200 –> 00:47:03,600
\nthen when you thought of
\nsomething really, Appropriate <\/p>\n
762
\n00:47:03,600 –> 00:47:07,200
\nand interesting to say in
\nresponse, maybe a day later or <\/p>\n
763
\n00:47:07,200 –> 00:47:10,400
\neven you can then you’ve got
\ntime to think about it before <\/p>\n
764
\n00:47:10,400 –> 00:47:13,700
\nyou post so you don’t have to
\nrespond straight away. <\/p>\n
765
\n00:47:13,700 –> 00:47:16,800
\nSo make the time to develop
\nfriendships that are wholesome <\/p>\n
766
\n00:47:16,800 –> 00:47:20,800
\nencouraging by thinking of
\nencouraging things to say to <\/p>\n
767
\n00:47:20,800 –> 00:47:23,000
\neach other.
\nBut again, don’t make someone <\/p>\n
768
\n00:47:23,000 –> 00:47:26,100
\nfeel sick by commenting on every
\nsingle one of their posts and <\/p>\n
769
\n00:47:26,100 –> 00:47:28,600
\nmake it look like you’ve been
\nover there whole social media <\/p>\n
770
\n00:47:28,600 –> 00:47:31,700
\nprofile back 10 years and
\ncommented on everything because <\/p>\n
771
\n00:47:31,900 –> 00:47:36,400
\nRemember too much of someone can
\nmake someone else feel ill ill. <\/p>\n
772
\n00:47:36,400 –> 00:47:42,600
\nSo, just keep it light in Social
\nsettings when making friends and<\/p>\n
773
\n00:47:42,600 –> 00:47:46,200
\nbe a bit aware about the timing
\nand volume of your communication<\/p>\n
774
\n00:47:46,200 –> 00:47:48,000
\nyears.
\nA proverb that says, whoever <\/p>\n
775
\n00:47:48,000 –> 00:47:50,700
\nblesses, his neighbor with a
\nloud voice Rising early in the <\/p>\n
776
\n00:47:50,700 –> 00:47:52,500
\nmorning, will be counted as a
\ncursing. <\/p>\n
777
\n00:47:52,700 –> 00:47:58,000
\nSo if you’re sending a message
\nat 2 a.m. you know you might be <\/p>\n
778
\n00:47:58,000 –> 00:48:02,400
\nsaying hello or trying to have a
\njoke but if your dming Too much <\/p>\n
779
\n00:48:02,400 –> 00:48:06,000
\nat the wrong times and in the
\nwrong way, it will probably be <\/p>\n
780
\n00:48:06,000 –> 00:48:11,200
\nreceived differently to what you
\nintended and I mentioned at the <\/p>\n
781
\n00:48:11,200 –> 00:48:13,500
\nbeginning.
\nWe needed to have our social <\/p>\n
782
\n00:48:14,000 –> 00:48:16,400
\nmedia and online life in
\nbalance. <\/p>\n
783
\n00:48:21,800 –> 00:48:24,700
\nDoes anyone have with sort of
\ngoing to run along a bit? <\/p>\n
784
\n00:48:24,700 –> 00:48:29,200
\nBut does anyone quickly have a
\nsuggestion of perhaps some <\/p>\n
785
\n00:48:29,200 –> 00:48:31,500
\nthings that people do if they
\nfelt their life was a bit out of<\/p>\n
786
\n00:48:31,500 –> 00:48:41,600
\ncontrol with social media?
\nHmm. <\/p>\n
787
\n00:48:45,400 –> 00:48:49,700
\nYeah, yeah prune.
\nYour friends list that you’re <\/p>\n
788
\n00:48:49,700 –> 00:48:51,200
\nfollowing and communicating
\nwith. <\/p>\n
789
\n00:48:51,200 –> 00:48:55,100
\nYep, it’s a good one.
\nI just a couple of Gotti’s <\/p>\n
790
\n00:48:55,100 –> 00:49:02,900
\nactually make some friends, make
\nsome plans with friends in RL So<\/p>\n
791
\n00:49:02,900 –> 00:49:06,000
\nget out and let make some
\nactually meet someone for coffee<\/p>\n
792
\n00:49:06,000 –> 00:49:09,600
\nrather than messaging online all
\nthe time. <\/p>\n
793
\n00:49:11,300 –> 00:49:15,700
\nIt’s really important to have
\nsome down time, you know, go out<\/p>\n
794
\n00:49:15,700 –> 00:49:19,100
\nfor a run, get some exercise
\nhave some thinking time away <\/p>\n
795
\n00:49:19,100 –> 00:49:21,000
\nfrom it, make that part of your
\nschedule. <\/p>\n
796
\n00:49:23,200 –> 00:49:28,500
\nIt’s really important to make
\ntime for prayer and the Bible. <\/p>\n
797
\n00:49:28,900 –> 00:49:31,300
\nSo, you know, Center yourself
\nwith God. <\/p>\n
798
\n00:49:31,300 –> 00:49:34,600
\nDon’t censor yourself over on
\nsocial media all the time. <\/p>\n
799
\n00:49:36,100 –> 00:49:40,500
\nReally good one that we’ve heard
\nis people going out with friends<\/p>\n
800
\n00:49:40,700 –> 00:49:43,600
\nto dinner, put all your phones
\nin the middle of the table. <\/p>\n
801
\n00:49:44,000 –> 00:49:49,000
\nThe first person that picks
\ntheir phone up, pays the tab and<\/p>\n
802
\n00:49:49,200 –> 00:49:52,100
\nwhen our kids were little the
\ndefault rule was no books at the<\/p>\n
803
\n00:49:52,100 –> 00:49:55,600
\ntable because the Have a nice
\ndinner and so we have a no <\/p>\n
804
\n00:49:55,600 –> 00:49:58,200
\nphones at the table rule as
\nwell. <\/p>\n
805
\n00:50:00,000 –> 00:50:04,000
\nSo, I said the other problem
\nthat we would deal with just <\/p>\n
806
\n00:50:04,000 –> 00:50:08,800
\nquickly as bullying on the way
\nthey are, just want to point <\/p>\n
807
\n00:50:08,800 –> 00:50:12,500
\nout, one of my pet peeves, it’s
\nthe prank stuff that’s endemic <\/p>\n
808
\n00:50:12,500 –> 00:50:13,600
\nonline.
\nYou know. <\/p>\n
809
\n00:50:13,600 –> 00:50:16,900
\nNone of them are clever jokes.
\nThey’re just this like a madman <\/p>\n
810
\n00:50:16,900 –> 00:50:20,800
\nwho throws firebrands and arrows
\nand death is the man who <\/p>\n
811
\n00:50:20,800 –> 00:50:23,800
\ndeceives his neighbor and says,
\nI’m only liking, I’m only <\/p>\n
812
\n00:50:23,800 –> 00:50:26,400
\njoking.
\nSo instead of deliberately <\/p>\n
813
\n00:50:26,400 –> 00:50:30,500
\nupsetting people for the lulz,
\nyou know, we can Actually speak <\/p>\n
814
\n00:50:30,500 –> 00:50:34,000
\nin encouraging things to others.
\nLike, you know, and the New <\/p>\n
815
\n00:50:34,000 –> 00:50:37,100
\nTestament talks about the fruit
\nof our lips. <\/p>\n
816
\n00:50:38,300 –> 00:50:42,700
\nBut the Proverbs says that our
\nwords can be like a precious <\/p>\n
817
\n00:50:42,700 –> 00:50:47,100
\nfruit, how about this?
\nProverbs 25, a word fitly spoken<\/p>\n
818
\n00:50:47,600 –> 00:50:51,000
\nis like apples of gold in
\nsettings of silver. <\/p>\n
819
\n00:50:52,000 –> 00:50:55,100
\nSo what this says to me is that
\nwe can say something to somebody<\/p>\n
820
\n00:50:55,100 –> 00:50:59,700
\nthat’s so positive and helpful.
\nAnd we’re at the time, we may <\/p>\n
821
\n00:50:59,700 –> 00:51:04,700
\nnot realize how helpful that was
\nand that person that we set it <\/p>\n
822
\n00:51:04,700 –> 00:51:07,300
\nto can Treasurer it like a
\nprecious. <\/p>\n
823
\n00:51:07,300 –> 00:51:09,400
\nOintment Ornament.
\nSorry. <\/p>\n
824
\n00:51:09,900 –> 00:51:13,500
\nAnd so every so often I can get
\nit out and reflect on what was <\/p>\n
825
\n00:51:13,500 –> 00:51:15,600
\nsaid to them.
\nAnd how helpful it was that <\/p>\n
826
\n00:51:15,600 –> 00:51:19,300
\nperson said that now, can you
\nthink of a time when someone <\/p>\n
827
\n00:51:19,300 –> 00:51:23,100
\nsaid something to you that you
\ntreasure, it could be a school <\/p>\n
828
\n00:51:23,100 –> 00:51:25,700
\nteacher at school, who said
\nsomething that you’ve done a <\/p>\n
829
\n00:51:25,700 –> 00:51:29,000
\nreally good job or ankles a
\nfriend who said something. <\/p>\n
830
\n00:51:30,000 –> 00:51:32,100
\nSo, can you think of a time when
\nsomeone said something that <\/p>\n
831
\n00:51:32,100 –> 00:51:34,200
\nreally means something to you
\nand even when you pull it out, <\/p>\n
832
\n00:51:34,200 –> 00:51:36,600
\nnow, your heart sort of goes, oh
\nyeah, it was so nice. <\/p>\n
833
\n00:51:37,500 –> 00:51:42,600
\nThat’s the The positive impact
\nthat words can have, you know, <\/p>\n
834
\n00:51:42,700 –> 00:51:46,400
\ncould have been helpful advice,
\nmaybe it was some praise or <\/p>\n
835
\n00:51:46,400 –> 00:51:50,400
\nencouragement, maybe it was some
\ninsight to something you’ve not <\/p>\n
836
\n00:51:50,400 –> 00:51:54,600
\nseen before or maybe it’s just
\nthat the way they have <\/p>\n
837
\n00:51:54,600 –> 00:51:58,100
\nexpressing themselves.
\nThat’s really resonated and stay<\/p>\n
838
\n00:51:58,100 –> 00:51:59,800
\nwith you.
\nMaybe it was a point in a talk, <\/p>\n
839
\n00:51:59,800 –> 00:52:03,500
\nonce I don’t know, I’m sure
\nthere’s something we can all <\/p>\n
840
\n00:52:03,500 –> 00:52:06,300
\nmediately bring to mind that.
\nWe just treasure that, that <\/p>\n
841
\n00:52:06,300 –> 00:52:09,600
\nthing was said and we heard it.
\nAnd perhaps it was said just to <\/p>\n
842
\n00:52:09,600 –> 00:52:12,300
\nus.
\nWell that should be our aim <\/p>\n
843
\n00:52:12,300 –> 00:52:14,500
\nonline.
\nYou know everything we posed. <\/p>\n
844
\n00:52:14,500 –> 00:52:17,400
\nWe should aim to be something
\nthat someone else could <\/p>\n
845
\n00:52:17,400 –> 00:52:21,100
\ntreasure.
\nTo say positive things that are <\/p>\n
846
\n00:52:21,100 –> 00:52:24,200
\nso good and helpful that they
\nresonate with that person. <\/p>\n
847
\n00:52:24,500 –> 00:52:28,400
\nLong, after the page, the
\nposters moved off the front page<\/p>\n
848
\n00:52:28,400 –> 00:52:30,200
\nof their feed.
\nThey still remember what we <\/p>\n
849
\n00:52:30,200 –> 00:52:33,700
\nsaid.
\nSo with bullying, sort of <\/p>\n
850
\n00:52:33,700 –> 00:52:36,500
\nrunning out of time, I’m going
\nto discuss a little bit about <\/p>\n
851
\n00:52:36,500 –> 00:52:39,200
\nwhat potential actions we could
\ntake. <\/p>\n
852
\n00:52:40,800 –> 00:52:43,000
\nSo I’ll just run through them
\nhere rather than having a <\/p>\n
853
\n00:52:43,000 –> 00:52:45,600
\ndiscussion.
\nSo first thing is we need to <\/p>\n
854
\n00:52:45,600 –> 00:52:48,100
\nadjust, it learn to ignore them,
\nyou know, like there’s a <\/p>\n
855
\n00:52:48,107 –> 00:52:49,900
\ndifference between friends.
\nAcquaintances. <\/p>\n
856
\n00:52:50,200 –> 00:52:53,100
\nAnd if there’s stuff coming to
\nus and it’s from acquaintances, <\/p>\n
857
\n00:52:53,100 –> 00:52:55,800
\nit’s not really our friends.
\nWe should just number one, <\/p>\n
858
\n00:52:55,800 –> 00:52:59,900
\nignore it, if they’re not
\nfriends like a brother, just put<\/p>\n
859
\n00:52:59,900 –> 00:53:01,600
\nit out of our mind.
\nThe other thing we can do is we <\/p>\n
860
\n00:53:01,600 –> 00:53:03,600
\ncan block them.
\nSo you can block people on <\/p>\n
861
\n00:53:03,600 –> 00:53:06,800
\nsocial media and then you never
\nhave to see anything from them. <\/p>\n
862
\n00:53:06,800 –> 00:53:13,900
\nAgain, if it’s serious bullying,
\nit can be, we can report them. <\/p>\n
863
\n00:53:13,900 –> 00:53:16,900
\nSo, you know, young people have
\nsomeone saying hurtful things, <\/p>\n
864
\n00:53:17,000 –> 00:53:20,800
\nnever feel like it’s shameful.
\nHow to tell your parents and <\/p>\n
865
\n00:53:20,800 –> 00:53:22,800
\nyour parents can either take it
\nup with someone else. <\/p>\n
866
\n00:53:22,800 –> 00:53:25,100
\nIf it’s really bad, they can go
\nto the authorities and the <\/p>\n
867
\n00:53:25,100 –> 00:53:28,300
\npolice there’s laws about it
\nbeing nasty to people online, <\/p>\n
868
\n00:53:28,300 –> 00:53:31,400
\nand being hurtful and
\ncontinually harassing people <\/p>\n
869
\n00:53:31,400 –> 00:53:37,100
\nonline, it’s against the law.
\nSo don’t respond don’t escalate <\/p>\n
870
\n00:53:37,100 –> 00:53:42,500
\nand make things worse.
\nAnd so yeah, parents if children<\/p>\n
871
\n00:53:42,500 –> 00:53:45,200
\nare struggling at school with
\nlike being harassed, you can go <\/p>\n
872
\n00:53:45,200 –> 00:53:46,900
\nto the police.
\nIt’s totally fine. <\/p>\n
873
\n00:53:47,900 –> 00:53:50,900
\nAnd they’ll get in touch with
\ntheir parents rather than you <\/p>\n
874
\n00:53:50,900 –> 00:53:54,700
\ndoing it.
\nTake some bigger down time so I <\/p>\n
875
\n00:53:54,700 –> 00:53:57,200
\nsee it in putting limits around
\nour social media. <\/p>\n
876
\n00:53:57,200 –> 00:53:59,900
\nWe should have down time every
\nday where we go for walks and do<\/p>\n
877
\n00:53:59,900 –> 00:54:04,000
\nthink ride our bikes and do
\nstuff outside and meal times. <\/p>\n
878
\n00:54:04,200 –> 00:54:06,900
\nBut if there’s people saying
\nthings that are upsetting us, <\/p>\n
879
\n00:54:07,000 –> 00:54:12,400
\ntake a bigger break.
\nNumber one rule, don’t take the <\/p>\n
880
\n00:54:12,400 –> 00:54:17,000
\nphone to bed because every ding
\nyou when you’re trying to sleep <\/p>\n
881
\n00:54:17,000 –> 00:54:19,400
\nyou know that there’s someone
\nelse talking about that issue. <\/p>\n
882
\n00:54:20,600 –> 00:54:24,500
\nSo, you know, get some
\nperspective, leave your phone. <\/p>\n
883
\n00:54:24,500 –> 00:54:28,600
\nGo read some books.
\nTwo kids in hospital, go help <\/p>\n
884
\n00:54:28,600 –> 00:54:31,100
\nother people, you know,
\ndemonstrate that you’ve got <\/p>\n
885
\n00:54:31,100 –> 00:54:33,300
\nWorth to yourself and that you
\ncan help other people. <\/p>\n
886
\n00:54:33,300 –> 00:54:35,200
\nAnd all these things that people
\nare saying online. <\/p>\n
887
\n00:54:35,200 –> 00:54:37,000
\nDon’t really matter, it’s not
\nthe real you. <\/p>\n
888
\n00:54:37,000 –> 00:54:41,200
\nSo there’s some suggestions, you
\nknow, it’s because it’s easier <\/p>\n
889
\n00:54:41,200 –> 00:54:46,200
\nto say just get over it.
\nBut to have to let it go. <\/p>\n
890
\n00:54:46,400 –> 00:54:48,700
\nIs sometimes difficult.
\nSo you know you can print them <\/p>\n
891
\n00:54:48,700 –> 00:54:53,900
\nout and burn them like really
\nhelp yourself get over what they<\/p>\n
892
\n00:54:53,900 –> 00:54:56,600
\nsaid, throw it away, print it
\nout, throw it away. <\/p>\n
893
\n00:54:56,600 –> 00:55:00,200
\nLike you really need to go to an
\neffort, sometimes to get rid of <\/p>\n
894
\n00:55:00,200 –> 00:55:04,700
\nthe problem and a change of
\nscene or always helps too. <\/p>\n
895
\n00:55:05,400 –> 00:55:09,000
\nSo in conclusion, this is what
\nwe’re aspiring to. <\/p>\n
896
\n00:55:09,100 –> 00:55:13,400
\nAnd fortunately is what we sung
\nat the beginning, whatever’s, <\/p>\n
897
\n00:55:13,600 –> 00:55:15,400
\nTrue.
\nWhatever is Honorable, whatever <\/p>\n
898
\n00:55:15,400 –> 00:55:18,200
\nis just whatever is pure.
\nWhatever is lovely, whatever is <\/p>\n
899
\n00:55:18,200 –> 00:55:20,100
\ncommendable if there’s any
\nExcellence. <\/p>\n
900
\n00:55:20,100 –> 00:55:23,300
\nIf there’s anything worthy of
\nPraise, think about these things<\/p>\n
901
\n00:55:23,500 –> 00:55:26,000
\nand these are the kinds of
\nthings that we should be posting<\/p>\n
902
\n00:55:26,000 –> 00:55:28,500
\nonline.
\nAnd what you’ve received heard, <\/p>\n
903
\n00:55:28,800 –> 00:55:31,300
\nand learned and received
\npractice these things. <\/p>\n
904
\n00:55:31,300 –> 00:55:32,800
\nAnd the God of Peace will be
\nwith you. <\/p>\n
905
\n00:55:33,200 –> 00:55:35,900
\nSo that should be the measure of
\nwhat our social media feeds <\/p>\n
906
\n00:55:35,900 –> 00:55:38,900
\nshould look like.
\nAnd the people that we follow <\/p>\n
907
\n00:55:38,900 –> 00:55:41,500
\nonline, you know, we should be
\nfollowing movie stars or <\/p>\n
908
\n00:55:41,500 –> 00:55:46,500
\ncelebrities that post Scandalous
\nthings and risque photos, we <\/p>\n
909
\n00:55:46,500 –> 00:55:50,100
\nshould follow people that have
\ngot praise worthy and honorable <\/p>\n
910
\n00:55:50,100 –> 00:55:53,700
\nthings.
\nAnd we should follow that in the<\/p>\n
911
\n00:55:53,700 –> 00:55:55,900
\ntone of our posts.
\nIn the comments, we make should <\/p>\n
912
\n00:55:55,900 –> 00:55:58,600
\nalways be praiseworthy and
\nExcellency. <\/p>\n
913
\n00:55:59,000 –> 00:56:02,100
\nSo we’ve seen tonight that trip.
\nThere’s there are true friends <\/p>\n
914
\n00:56:02,300 –> 00:56:03,900
\nthat can be closer than a
\nbrother. <\/p>\n
915
\n00:56:05,200 –> 00:56:07,800
\nAnd and really the challenge is
\nto be like that for other <\/p>\n
916
\n00:56:07,800 –> 00:56:11,200
\npeople.
\nBe a brother or sister to our <\/p>\n
917
\n00:56:11,200 –> 00:56:14,900
\nfriends.
\nAnd Christ says, pray for your <\/p>\n
918
\n00:56:14,900 –> 00:56:17,900
\nenemies, I say to you love your
\nenemies and pray for those who <\/p>\n
919
\n00:56:17,900 –> 00:56:20,900
\npersecute you.
\nSo, if you are suffering from <\/p>\n
920
\n00:56:20,900 –> 00:56:25,200
\npeople saying things that hurt,
\nyou take it to God In Prayer, <\/p>\n
921
\n00:56:25,300 –> 00:56:28,900
\nlay it out before him.
\nAnd when you pray to God, it’ll <\/p>\n
922
\n00:56:28,900 –> 00:56:33,100
\nhelp you get it in perspective.
\nAnd, you know, just when you <\/p>\n
923
\n00:56:33,100 –> 00:56:36,600
\npray to God, you’re approaching
\nin Christ. <\/p>\n
924
\n00:56:37,100 –> 00:56:41,000
\nWho if you think about it, he
\nhad terrible and hurtful things <\/p>\n
925
\n00:56:41,000 –> 00:56:42,600
\nsaid.
\nAnd done said about him and <\/p>\n
926
\n00:56:42,600 –> 00:56:43,400
\ndone.
\nHim. <\/p>\n
927
\n00:56:43,700 –> 00:56:46,600
\nSo when you pray to God about
\nterrible, things done to you <\/p>\n
928
\n00:56:47,200 –> 00:56:49,700
\nyour mediator, that’s taking
\nthat prayer. <\/p>\n
929
\n00:56:51,000 –> 00:56:55,200
\nA completely understands
\nterrible and hurtful things <\/p>\n
930
\n00:56:55,200 –> 00:56:58,600
\nbecause he experienced the worst
\npersecution ever. <\/p>\n
931
\n00:56:58,600 –> 00:57:02,900
\nSo don’t be afraid to take
\nthings that people have said <\/p>\n
932
\n00:57:02,900 –> 00:57:08,400
\nthat hurt you to God In Prayer
\nbecause Jesus understands and he<\/p>\n
933
\n00:57:08,400 –> 00:57:18,300
\nwill intercede on our behalf.
\nso, Yeah, so when we pray to <\/p>\n
934
\n00:57:18,300 –> 00:57:21,500
\nGod, we take it to someone who’s
\ngot plans for the whole earth. <\/p>\n
935
\n00:57:21,500 –> 00:57:25,700
\nSo it’s what I’m saying is, what
\nsaid to you is not that if <\/p>\n
936
\n00:57:25,700 –> 00:57:27,700
\nsomebody says something to you
\nthat’s hurtful it’s not <\/p>\n
937
\n00:57:27,700 –> 00:57:32,300
\ninsignificant, right?
\nIt was hurtful it did hurt. <\/p>\n
938
\n00:57:33,000 –> 00:57:36,500
\nBut sometimes when we go to God
\nIn Prayer, we get a bigger <\/p>\n
939
\n00:57:36,500 –> 00:57:40,200
\nperspective of God’s purpose on
\nthe whole earth and that helps <\/p>\n
940
\n00:57:40,200 –> 00:57:45,500
\nus get over these things.
\nSo don’t retaliate and help and <\/p>\n
941
\n00:57:45,500 –> 00:57:48,800
\nsupport your friends.
\nIf Being nasty to them, you can <\/p>\n
942
\n00:57:48,800 –> 00:57:52,400
\nbe closer than a brother by
\nhelping and supporting them or <\/p>\n
943
\n00:57:52,400 –> 00:57:55,600
\nbe like a sister to them and
\ntake them out for hot chocolate <\/p>\n
944
\n00:57:55,600 –> 00:57:57,400
\nand things like that.
\nThat sisters do. <\/p>\n
945
\n00:58:00,500 –> 00:58:06,300
\nSo we’ve seen that life does not
\nconsist in the abundance of <\/p>\n
946
\n00:58:06,300 –> 00:58:10,900
\nfriends.
\nIn fact, many friends can bring <\/p>\n
947
\n00:58:10,900 –> 00:58:14,000
\nsomeone to ruin the Prodigal
\nSon, felt that. <\/p>\n
948
\n00:58:14,000 –> 00:58:17,600
\nBut how true is that?
\nNow our day, where if you’re <\/p>\n
949
\n00:58:17,600 –> 00:58:21,200
\npandering to all these friends
\nonline, you could be well <\/p>\n
950
\n00:58:21,200 –> 00:58:26,000
\nmissing out on the meaningful.
\nInteraction of someone right <\/p>\n
951
\n00:58:26,000 –> 00:58:30,700
\nalongside you the true friend
\nthat could be just there and <\/p>\n
952
\n00:58:30,700 –> 00:58:33,300
\nsocial media is just another
\ntool, another communication <\/p>\n
953
\n00:58:33,300 –> 00:58:39,200
\ntool, just like writing a letter
\nor telegram if you A those kids.<\/p>\n
954
\n00:58:39,200 –> 00:58:41,400
\nDon’t ya or calling on a
\ntelephone? <\/p>\n
955
\n00:58:41,400 –> 00:58:43,400
\nIt’s just another extension of
\nthat kind of thing. <\/p>\n
956
\n00:58:43,400 –> 00:58:50,700
\nSo it’s transmitting our words
\nand it’s our words that can <\/p>\n
957
\n00:58:53,700 –> 00:58:55,800
\npotentially cause the most
\ndamage. <\/p>\n
958
\n00:58:56,400 –> 00:58:59,700
\nAnd so we need to learn to
\nBridle our tongue as James said.<\/p>\n
959
\n00:59:00,000 –> 00:59:02,700
\nAnd you know, we have the
\nability to do this, pauses with <\/p>\n
960
\n00:59:02,700 –> 00:59:06,500
\nsocial media are okay in
\nconversations. <\/p>\n
961
\n00:59:06,500 –> 00:59:09,000
\nSo, you know, people are doing
\nthings, you don’t have to have a<\/p>\n
962
\n00:59:09,000 –> 00:59:12,100
\nreal-time conversation, don’t
\nfire back. <\/p>\n
963
\n00:59:12,300 –> 00:59:14,200
\nSomeone says something and
\nyou’re quite sure. <\/p>\n
964
\n00:59:14,200 –> 00:59:17,100
\nGo away for a walk, get some
\nperspective, think about it <\/p>\n
965
\n00:59:17,100 –> 00:59:21,100
\nbefore you come back and and
\npose maybe set send a message <\/p>\n
966
\n00:59:21,100 –> 00:59:23,300
\ntomorrow after you’ve had time
\nto do. <\/p>\n
967
\n00:59:23,500 –> 00:59:28,100
\nUse things because maybe you
\nmisinterpreted and took the <\/p>\n
968
\n00:59:28,100 –> 00:59:31,100
\nwrong way, something they said
\nand you don’t want to escalate <\/p>\n
969
\n00:59:31,100 –> 00:59:34,400
\nthings and four things.
\nThose people that are obsessed <\/p>\n
970
\n00:59:34,400 –> 00:59:39,500
\nwith posting a photo and getting
\nlots of likes, I know that sort <\/p>\n
971
\n00:59:39,500 –> 00:59:42,600
\nof probably more a girl thing to
\nthen all have to comment on each<\/p>\n
972
\n00:59:42,600 –> 00:59:46,300
\nother’s thing that they posted
\ninstantly the moment they pose <\/p>\n
973
\n00:59:46,300 –> 00:59:51,700
\nso they’ll comment on yours back
\nand we’ll the quiet about to <\/p>\n
974
\n00:59:51,700 –> 00:59:55,500
\nshow, really?
\nIs about girls but actually in <\/p>\n
975
\n00:59:55,500 –> 00:59:57,500
\nthe Bible but actually applies
\nto all of us. <\/p>\n
976
\n00:59:57,500 –> 01:00:01,400
\nSo, first P3, don’t let your or
\nDawning be external the braiding<\/p>\n
977
\n01:00:01,400 –> 01:00:03,700
\nof the hair and the putting on
\nthe gold jewelry and the <\/p>\n
978
\n01:00:03,700 –> 01:00:05,600
\nclothing you wear.
\nSo, you know, the Instagram <\/p>\n
979
\n01:00:05,600 –> 01:00:08,500
\nglamour shot that you’re going
\nto take to get lots of likes. <\/p>\n
980
\n01:00:08,500 –> 01:00:11,900
\nDon’t let it be like that.
\nLet it be the adorning of the <\/p>\n
981
\n01:00:11,900 –> 01:00:15,200
\nHidden person of the heart, with
\nthe imperishable, beauty of a <\/p>\n
982
\n01:00:15,207 –> 01:00:19,300
\ngentle and quiet Spirit which in
\nGod’s sight is very precious and<\/p>\n
983
\n01:00:19,300 –> 01:00:22,200
\nthat’s just as true for the boys
\nas it is the girl. <\/p>\n
984
\n01:00:22,200 –> 01:00:26,700
\nSo I think Peter’s talking to
\neveryone as he says it’s about <\/p>\n
985
\n01:00:26,700 –> 01:00:29,100
\nthe Inner, Man.
\nThe qualities inside you that <\/p>\n
986
\n01:00:29,100 –> 01:00:31,800
\ncount, and what is the our Inner
\nMan? <\/p>\n
987
\n01:00:31,800 –> 01:00:35,700
\nWhat’s the depth of our
\ncharacter can that be seen in a <\/p>\n
988
\n01:00:35,900 –> 01:00:41,100
\nwitty 140-character statement,
\nor one really professionally, <\/p>\n
989
\n01:00:41,100 –> 01:00:45,700
\nlit and nicely pose.
\nSelfie a character’s, much more <\/p>\n
990
\n01:00:45,700 –> 01:00:49,100
\nbigger, and important than that.
\nAnd so our characters <\/p>\n
991
\n01:00:49,100 –> 01:00:52,200
\nappreciated by those, that we
\nassociate with that a true <\/p>\n
992
\n01:00:52,200 –> 01:00:56,600
\nfriends that loved us, Us.
\nBut mostly our inner character <\/p>\n
993
\n01:00:57,400 –> 01:01:01,800
\nis appreciated by our heavenly
\nfather and our Lord Jesus <\/p>\n
994
\n01:01:01,800 –> 01:01:04,800
\nChrist.
\nAnd you know the sad fact is <\/p>\n
995
\n01:01:06,900 –> 01:01:11,300
\nyour friends just like you.
\nAnd so at some point you’re <\/p>\n
996
\n01:01:11,300 –> 01:01:13,700
\ngoing to let your friend down
\nand your friend is going to let <\/p>\n
997
\n01:01:13,700 –> 01:01:17,200
\nyou down.
\nBut there’s one friend that will<\/p>\n
998
\n01:01:17,200 –> 01:01:21,200
\nnever let you down.
\nThat’s our Lord, Jesus Christ. <\/p>\n
999
\n01:01:21,300 –> 01:01:24,100
\nThis is what John says greater
\nlove. <\/p>\n
1000
\n01:01:24,100 –> 01:01:27,800
\nHas no one than this that
\nsomeone lay down his life for <\/p>\n
1001
\n01:01:27,800 –> 01:01:30,400
\nhis friends.
\nYou are my friends. <\/p>\n
1002
\n01:01:30,400 –> 01:01:34,400
\nIf you do what I command you so
\nthis abundance of friends <\/p>\n
1003
\n01:01:34,400 –> 01:01:38,500
\nonline, there’s one true friend
\nwho would give his life for you.<\/p>\n
1004
\n01:01:38,900 –> 01:01:41,700
\nSo Jesus is reaching out with
\ntrue friendship. <\/p>\n
1005
\n01:01:42,600 –> 01:01:44,900
\nAnd if you think about all those
\nthings, we’ve said tonight that <\/p>\n
1006
\n01:01:44,900 –> 01:01:47,800
\na true Would do, that’s our
\nLord. <\/p>\n
1007
\n01:01:47,800 –> 01:01:52,700
\nJesus Christ in all those things
\nand we don’t have to go through <\/p>\n
1008
\n01:01:52,700 –> 01:01:55,800
\nlife accumulating.
\nLots of likes for online <\/p>\n
1009
\n01:01:55,800 –> 01:01:57,600
\nfriends.
\nWe only need one. <\/p>\n
1010
\n01:01:57,600 –> 01:02:02,100
\nTrue friend one, that’s closer
\nthan a brother to us. <\/p>\n
1011
\n01:02:02,400 –> 01:02:06,200
\nIf we follow his commands and
\nhe’s already demonstrated the <\/p>\n
1012
\n01:02:06,200 –> 01:02:09,800
\ndepth of his love and friendship
\nby laying down his life for us. <\/p>\n
1013
\n01:02:10,200 –> 01:02:16,200
\nSo it’s up to each of us to want
\nto be like him and to respond to<\/p>\n
1014
\n01:02:16,200 –> 01:02:16,500
\nhim.\n<\/p><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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