Class 1 from this series was used in GCT Episode 322.<\/p>\n
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\nOur first class is being taught
\nby our brother Ben Brinkerhoff <\/p>\n
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\nfrom Christchurch North in New
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\nHis topic overall for the week
\nis Judah Overcoming Resentment. <\/p>\n
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\nThe The title for today’s class
\nis Judah, The Seeds of <\/p>\n
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\nResentment, Brother Ben.
\nOK, good morning, Rocky Band <\/p>\n
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\nBible school.
\nAll right. <\/p>\n
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\nWow.
\nRaise your hand if you are a <\/p>\n
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\nBringerhoff or married to one.
\nThank you for the support. <\/p>\n
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\nRaise your hand if you want to
\nbe married to a Brinkerhoff, <\/p>\n
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\nright?
\nSee Dave and Nancy, I did that <\/p>\n
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\nfor you.
\nAsk that during the teen class <\/p>\n
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\nand get some interesting
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\nI think I’ll let you know how
\nthat goes. <\/p>\n
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\nI listen.
\nI bring warm greetings from your<\/p>\n
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\nbrothers and sisters in the
\nChristchurch, N Ecclesia in New <\/p>\n
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\nZealand.
\nMy only sadness really is the <\/p>\n
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\nfact my wife Alyssa and my four
\nchildren cannot be with me this <\/p>\n
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\nweek.
\nThey want me to convey their <\/p>\n
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\nlove to you as well.
\nSo you know, Jesus tells us and <\/p>\n
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\nbrother Josh, even last night,
\nhe says, listen, there’s two <\/p>\n
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\ngreat commandments and you know
\nwhat they are. <\/p>\n
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\nSo the love of the Lord your God
\nwith all your heart, soul, mind <\/p>\n
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\nand strength.
\nAnd what’s the other one if also<\/p>\n
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\nlove your neighbor as yourself,
\nright? <\/p>\n
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\nAnd we and Christian Elphis, we
\nlove, we love this, we love it, <\/p>\n
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\nwe like to talk about it, we
\nlike to expound it, we like to <\/p>\n
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\ndiscuss it, exhort on it.
\nIt’s just the doing it that’s <\/p>\n
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\nhard.
\nThat’s the part that’s the part <\/p>\n
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\nthat’s hard.
\nAnd you ask yourself the <\/p>\n
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\nquestion, why?
\nWhy? <\/p>\n
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\nWhat’s getting in the way?
\nListen to love your neighbors <\/p>\n
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\nyourself.
\nIt’s this verse is found in <\/p>\n
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\nMatthew, it’s found in Mark,
\nit’s found in Luke, it’s found <\/p>\n
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\nin Galatians and Romans.
\nAnd if you missed the point, <\/p>\n
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\nit’s found in the book of James.
\nIt’s everywhere, right? <\/p>\n
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\nAnd what what’s getting in our
\nway? <\/p>\n
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\nAnd if you go back to the Rick
\nof the verse in its original <\/p>\n
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\ncontext in Leviticus, I think we
\nget a clue to what the problem <\/p>\n
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\nmight be.
\nOK, Leviticus chapter 19 and <\/p>\n
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\nverse 17 for context.
\nYou shall not hate your brother <\/p>\n
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\nin your heart, but you shall
\nreason with your neighbor lest <\/p>\n
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\nyou bear sin because of him.
\nYou shall not take vengeance or <\/p>\n
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\nbear any grudge against the sons
\nof your own people, but you <\/p>\n
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\nshall love your neighbor as
\nyourself. <\/p>\n
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\nI am the Lord so.
\nSo why do we find so much <\/p>\n
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\ntrouble following this beautiful
\ncommandment of the Lord? <\/p>\n
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\nPerhaps the reason is, is that
\nwe’re bearing a grudge. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd if we have hate in our heart
\nand we’re bearing a grudge, we, <\/p>\n
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\nwe can’t love.
\nIt’s it’s like bearing a grudge <\/p>\n
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\nand love.
\nIt’s like they’re these <\/p>\n
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\nopposites.
\nAdmit it. <\/p>\n
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\nIf you have, if you are bearing
\na grudge in your heart, love is <\/p>\n
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\nvery hard.
\nAnd if you have a lot of love in<\/p>\n
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\nyour heart, you’re probably not
\nbearing very many grudges. <\/p>\n
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\nThese, these things are like
\nopposites to one another. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd, and I’d like to talk to you
\nthis week from time to time <\/p>\n
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\nabout love, if I can.
\nBut you know, if, if I talk to <\/p>\n
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\nyou about love and you’re being
\na grudge, it’s like taking a cup<\/p>\n
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\nfull of that’s full of water and
\nputting under a spigot and the, <\/p>\n
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\nthe listen, the water’s going to
\nhit the cup. <\/p>\n
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\nIt’s just run over the side.
\nIt’s not going to stick. <\/p>\n
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\nBecause if you have a grudge in
\nyour heart that is, that is <\/p>\n
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\nactually preventing you from
\nfrom having love. <\/p>\n
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\nSo for its simplicity in these
\nstudies I’m going to refer to <\/p>\n
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\ngrudges and hate primarily using
\nthis word resentment because <\/p>\n
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\nit’s a word that captures the
\nattitude of the person I want to<\/p>\n
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\nconsider together.
\nNow resentment comes from 2 <\/p>\n
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\nparts of speech.
\nThe first word is re and not as <\/p>\n
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\nin my uncle’s name.
\nNo re as in to do again as in <\/p>\n
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\nrestore or replay, right?
\nYou’re doing something again. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd the second part of speech
\nthis word derives from is this <\/p>\n
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\nword sentire, which is Aladdin
\nfor to feel. <\/p>\n
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\nSo the word resentment really
\nmeans to feel again. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd it’s appropriate word for
\nsomeone who is bearing a grudge.<\/p>\n
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\nMany of us feel old hurts and
\npains again and again and, and, <\/p>\n
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\nand we replay the scene.
\nYou know how it is, admit it. <\/p>\n
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\nYou replay the scene in your
\nbrain and, and, and you and you <\/p>\n
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\nre victimize yourself while
\nwhile simultaneously and <\/p>\n
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\nironically promising that you’re
\nnever going to let yourself be <\/p>\n
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\nhurt like that again.
\nWhilst you are thinking about <\/p>\n
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\nthe thing that hurts you, whilst
\nyou are hurting yourself again, <\/p>\n
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\nright?
\nI see some nods. <\/p>\n
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\nYou know who you are, right?
\nRight. <\/p>\n
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\nI believe that all of us
\nstruggle with this. <\/p>\n
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\nSo what can we do about it?
\nPerhaps one of the best things <\/p>\n
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\nwe can do about it is to look at
\nthe example in scripture of one <\/p>\n
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\nwho overcame resentment.
\nNow Leviticus says you should <\/p>\n
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\nnot hate your brother in your
\nheart and the Bible reads, <\/p>\n
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\nleaves a record of a man that
\ndid hate his brother in his <\/p>\n
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\nheart and he appeared to have
\nevery valid reason to do so. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd his name was Judah.
\nNow consider, consider for a <\/p>\n
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\nmoment Judah.
\nJudah goes from hating his <\/p>\n
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\nbrother to selling him into
\nslavery to lying about it to his<\/p>\n
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\nfather.
\nThis is notice the downward <\/p>\n
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\nIt’s not getting any better, <\/p>\n
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\nright?
\nHe runs away from the ecclesia, <\/p>\n
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\nthen he marries in the world.
\nOh, and then he falls into <\/p>\n
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\nThis is Judah. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd then he sacrifices himself
\nor his father. <\/p>\n
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\nHow does someone go from there
\nback up to here? <\/p>\n
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\nHow does that happen?
\nHow can I do that? <\/p>\n
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\nHow can you do that?
\nSo in our first 3 1\/2 studies <\/p>\n
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\ntogether, we’re going to see how
\nJudah unwillingly falls into the<\/p>\n
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\npit of resentment.
\nIn our last 1 1\/2 studies, we’re<\/p>\n
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\ngoing to see how God lifts him
\nout of that pit and restores <\/p>\n
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\nhim.
\nSo for today’s class, we’re <\/p>\n
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\ngoing to look at where Judah’s
\nresentment originated, and we’ll<\/p>\n
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\nabout how the process of <\/p>\n
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\nresentment works within us, if
\nthat’s OK, brothers and sisters.<\/p>\n
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\nNow Judah was born the fourth
\nson of Jacob by his mother Leia.<\/p>\n
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\nHis name means praise, and upon
\nhis birth his mother says in <\/p>\n
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\nGenesis 29 and verse 35, his
\nmother says, Now I will praise <\/p>\n
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\nthe Lord.
\nTherefore she called his name <\/p>\n
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\nJudah and left bearing.
\nNow, perhaps more than anything,<\/p>\n
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\nI think this speaks to the
\ncharacter of Leah, a woman that <\/p>\n
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\ncalled on God’s memorial name
\nand praise. <\/p>\n
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\nI mean, she goes from seeking
\nthe praise and approval of her <\/p>\n
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\nhusband.
\nRemember she called Levi Levi <\/p>\n
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\nbecause she’s saying, now my
\nhusband will be joined unto me. <\/p>\n
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\nShe’s seeking what she’s seeking
\nthe approval and affections of <\/p>\n
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\nher husband.
\nAnd now with with, with Judah, <\/p>\n
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\nshe’s she’s calling on God’s
\nname and praise and she appears <\/p>\n
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\nto have adopted the God of Jacob
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\nBut, but Jacob doesn’t see her
\nin this light. <\/p>\n
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\nSo perhaps blinded by Rachel’s
\nbeauty or being deceived, angry,<\/p>\n
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\nbeing deceived at Laban
\nScripture uses really strong <\/p>\n
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\nlanguage to describe the state
\nof Leah in this household. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd turn with me to Genesis
\nchapter 29 and we’re going to <\/p>\n
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\nlook at this verses 30 and 31.
\nAnd it says there Jacob went in <\/p>\n
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\nunto Rachel, and he loved also
\nRachel more than Leah, and <\/p>\n
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\nserved with him yet seven other
\nyears. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd the Lord saw that Leah was
\nhated, and he opened her womb, <\/p>\n
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\nbut Rachel was barren.
\nSo Leah was hated and God saw <\/p>\n
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\nit.
\nNow we know that Leah was not as<\/p>\n
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\npretty as her sister, but you
\nwonder for a moment, what did <\/p>\n
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\nJudah and his brethren see when
\nthey looked at Leah? <\/p>\n
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\nDo you think to them that Leah
\nwas beautiful? <\/p>\n
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\nTo me my mother is beautiful.
\nAnd I thought that before I had <\/p>\n
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\nany concept of of looks or
\nattraction. <\/p>\n
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\nYou know, a mother is beautiful
\nbecause of the way she loves her<\/p>\n
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\nchild.
\nYou know the, the way a child is<\/p>\n
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\nloved by a it’s, it’s different
\nthan any love a man ever <\/p>\n
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\nreceives in any other part of
\nhis life. <\/p>\n
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\nListen, wives, you know you
\ndon’t love us the way our <\/p>\n
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\nmothers did.
\nYou know we still, you know you <\/p>\n
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\ndon’t, right?
\nAnd for a while, we resented you<\/p>\n
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\nfor it, right?
\nIt’s a special type of love <\/p>\n
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\nbecause it is just like, you
\nknow, I could, I listen, my, <\/p>\n
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\nI’ve done a lot of bad things
\nand my mom defended me for most <\/p>\n
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\nof them.
\nYou know, my wife doesn’t do <\/p>\n
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\nthat, right?
\nAnd it’s a special thing, you <\/p>\n
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\nknow?
\nSo, so you know, Can you <\/p>\n
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\nimagine?
\nI just want you to imagine Judah<\/p>\n
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\nnot being able to understand
\nJacob’s disposition towards his <\/p>\n
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\nmother that that although she
\nwas devoted to the chores and <\/p>\n
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\nrequirements of the household,
\nthat she was clearly second <\/p>\n
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\nbest.
\nNow have you ever seen your <\/p>\n
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\nmother cry?
\nDid you want to save her? <\/p>\n
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\nDo you want to rescue her?
\nSo how was Judah understand that<\/p>\n
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\nall his mother was faithful and
\nshe loved the Lord and she <\/p>\n
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\ndevoted herself to the family?
\nThat all she got was constant <\/p>\n
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\nheartache being a a distant
\nsecond in her husband’s <\/p>\n
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\naffections.
\nYou know there’s no justice in <\/p>\n
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\nit.
\nThere’s no right in it See <\/p>\n
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\nresentment.
\nIt typically stems from a real <\/p>\n
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\nor perceived injustice and I
\nthink this is where the seeds of<\/p>\n
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\nJews resentment come from.
\nI, I try, I scanned the web to <\/p>\n
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\nfind a, a, a picture that could
\ncapture the essence of what <\/p>\n
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\ninjustice feels like.
\nAnd I think you’re going to, I <\/p>\n
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\nthink you’re going to sympathize
\nwith this picture. <\/p>\n
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\nYou know what?
\nWhat do you think? <\/p>\n
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\nRight?
\nI mean, clearly resentment is <\/p>\n
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\nnot a problem only for adults is
\nwhat that tells you right away, <\/p>\n
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\nright?
\nSo, but, but more to the point, <\/p>\n
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\nat what age you think that that
\nJudah and his brethren began to <\/p>\n
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\nrealize that Leah was not the
\nonly victim of Jacob’s <\/p>\n
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\nfavoritism?
\nAt what age did he suspect that <\/p>\n
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\nJacob’s favoritism, it carried
\nover to the next generation? <\/p>\n
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\nYou know, suspicions would have
\nstarted young, but they would <\/p>\n
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\nhave been confirmed in
\nadolescence. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd I tell you the point in
\nwhich they were crystallized. <\/p>\n
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\nTurn with me over to Genesis
\nchapter 33, verses 1 and 2, <\/p>\n
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\nwhere these suspicions and
\nconcerns were crystallized in in<\/p>\n
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\nthe young mind of Judah.
\nGenesis chapter 33 and turning <\/p>\n
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\nin at verse one.
\nAnd Jacob lifted up his eyes and<\/p>\n
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\nlooked, And behold, Esau came,
\nand with him 400 men. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd he divided the children unto
\nLeah, and unto Rachel, and unto <\/p>\n
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\nthe two handmaids.
\nAnd he put the handmaids and <\/p>\n
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\ntheir children foremost, and
\nLeah and her children after, and<\/p>\n
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\nRachel and Joseph hindmost.
\nIt doesn’t take any kind of <\/p>\n
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\ndegree in military strategy to
\nunderstand Jacob’s intentions <\/p>\n
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\nhere.
\nYou can imagine Judah looking at<\/p>\n
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\nthe situation and realizing to
\nhimself, wow, if someone has to <\/p>\n
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\ndie, my father would prefer it
\nwas me, my brethren and my <\/p>\n
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\nmother before Rachel and Joseph.
\nYou know, at this point he would<\/p>\n
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\nbecome hyper aware of Joseph.
\nHe would he would look for any <\/p>\n
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\nevidence of special treatment
\nand there was evidence of <\/p>\n
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\nspecial treatment.
\nAnd when he found it, he would <\/p>\n
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\nwince in pain because his worst
\nfears were being realized. <\/p>\n
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\nSee, deep inside every child you
\nknow, this is a deep desire to <\/p>\n
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\nbe loved because love fills an
\nunconscious and deep need for <\/p>\n
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\nsecurity.
\nChildren feel safe when they’re <\/p>\n
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\nloved because their existence
\ndepends on the unselfish love of<\/p>\n
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\ntheir parents.
\nSo if parental love is <\/p>\n
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\nthreatened in any way, real or
\nperceived, you’re going to feel <\/p>\n
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\nit instantly.
\nYou’re going to feel it deeply. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd in Judah’s case, resentment
\nis not born out of perceived <\/p>\n
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\ninjustice, but injustice
\nregarding a deep and instinctual<\/p>\n
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\nneed for security.
\nAnd what greater security can <\/p>\n
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\nyou have than when being
\nthreatened by an enemy that your<\/p>\n
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\nfather’s terrified is going to
\nkill you? <\/p>\n
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\nSo in Genesis 37, as Jacob’s
\nsons grow in strength and <\/p>\n
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\nindependence, their insecurity
\nand pain is transformed into <\/p>\n
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\nanother feeling, and that’s
\ndescribed to us in the Bible as <\/p>\n
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\nhatred.
\nAnd turn over to Genesis chapter<\/p>\n
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\n37 now, and we’re going to look
\nat verses 3:00 to 4:00. <\/p>\n
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\nNow Israel loved Joseph more
\nthan all his children because he<\/p>\n
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\nwas the son of his old age and
\nmade him a coat of many colors. <\/p>\n
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\nWhen his brethren saw that their
\nfather loved Joseph more than <\/p>\n
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\nall his brethren, they hated
\nJoseph and could not speak <\/p>\n
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\npeaceably unto him.
\nNow we learn more about the <\/p>\n
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\nbrother’s feelings in verses
\n8:00 and 11:00. <\/p>\n
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\nIn verse 8 we read, And the
\nbrethren said unto Joseph, Shalt<\/p>\n
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\nthou indeed reign over us, or
\nshalt thou indeed have dominion <\/p>\n
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\nover us?
\nAnd they hated him yet more for <\/p>\n
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\nhis dreams and for his words.
\nAnd in verse 11 we read, And the<\/p>\n
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\nbrethren envied him, but his
\nfather observed the saying. <\/p>\n
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\nSo here we come to one of the
\ninevitable outcomes of <\/p>\n
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\nresentment.
\nI’m going to describe to you 3 <\/p>\n
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\ninevitable symptoms of
\nresentment. <\/p>\n
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\nSometimes you don’t know if you
\nhave resentment, but you can see<\/p>\n
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\nthe symptoms and one of the
\nsymptoms of resentment is <\/p>\n
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\ndisplaced anger.
\nIt’s a displaced anger is a is a<\/p>\n
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\nnew term for an old idea.
\nIt occurs when, with, when, who <\/p>\n
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\nor what you’re venting your
\nanger at is not ultimately the <\/p>\n
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\nsource of your anger.
\nEveryone knows this. <\/p>\n
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\nI I come home from work and
\nAlyssa’s had a bad day and she’s<\/p>\n
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\nbeen looking forward to me
\ncoming home from work. <\/p>\n
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\nBut then I do one thing out of
\nplace and now she’s mad at me. <\/p>\n
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\nBut she’s not mad at me, she’s
\njust frustrated. <\/p>\n
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\nI was supposed to be the savior
\nand it turns out I was, I turned<\/p>\n
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\nup and I was just being another
\nproblem, right? <\/p>\n
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\nHappens a lot, you know, or I’ve
\nhad a bad day at work, right? <\/p>\n
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\nAnd I come home, you know, and
\nthey’re my smite again. <\/p>\n
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\nI don’t like my kids are going
\nto listen to this recording one <\/p>\n
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\nday and be upset at me.
\nThere’s the backpack right by <\/p>\n
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\nthe door.
\nYou know, you’re something in <\/p>\n
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\nyou trip over it.
\nAny dad’s ever tripped over the <\/p>\n
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\nbackpack as he came through the
\ndoor, right? <\/p>\n
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\nAnything.
\nWhat is this backpack? <\/p>\n
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\nI’m not angry at the backpack
\nI’m missing. <\/p>\n
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\nI’m angry at the stress I’ve had
\nthat day. <\/p>\n
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\nI’m displacing the anger.
\nI’m putting it at the thing I <\/p>\n
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\ncan, I can kick the thing I can,
\nI can take out my frustration <\/p>\n
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\non.
\nSo Judah’s and his brother’s <\/p>\n
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\nfirst problem with Joseph isn’t
\nJoseph. <\/p>\n
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\nIt was the love and emotional
\nsecurity they didn’t receive <\/p>\n
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\nfrom their father, but put it in
\na position where they couldn’t <\/p>\n
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\ndirect that fear and anger
\ntowards their father. <\/p>\n
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\nThey displaced it and they put
\nit on Joseph. <\/p>\n
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\nSee, Judah knew something really
\nwell. <\/p>\n
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\nDo you know what he knew?
\nHe knew what it was like to be <\/p>\n
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\nsecond place in the household.
\nHe’d seen it. <\/p>\n
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\nHow many countless times had he
\nseen his mother’s tears as Jacob<\/p>\n
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\nonce again and went into
\nRachel’s tent and not Leah’s <\/p>\n
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\ntent?
\nHow many times had he seen his <\/p>\n
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\nmother’s extraordinary efforts
\nand hard work and diligence not <\/p>\n
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\ngo rewarded for any praise or
\naffections? <\/p>\n
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\nSee, he knew what it was like to
\nbe second best and he wanted no <\/p>\n
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\npart of it.
\nNow. <\/p>\n
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\nIt’s fascinating to me that the
\ntwo attitudes that Judah and his<\/p>\n
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\nbrethren demonstrate towards
\nJoseph we’re told there in <\/p>\n
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\nchapter 37, there are two things
\nwe’re told. <\/p>\n
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\nOne is hate and the other is
\nenvy. <\/p>\n
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\nNow it’s probably not
\ncoincidence that these are the <\/p>\n
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\nexact 2 attitudes that Judah
\nwould experience growing up, <\/p>\n
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\nright?
\nWe already read about hate, <\/p>\n
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\ndidn’t we, when which says that
\nLeah was hated and and so God <\/p>\n
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\nopened her womb.
\nBut what about envy? <\/p>\n
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\nWe read about envy in Genesis
\nchapter 30 verse one. <\/p>\n
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\nWe read there and Rachel saw
\nthat she bared Jacob no children<\/p>\n
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\nand Rachel envied her sister and
\nsaid to Jacob give me children <\/p>\n
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\nelse I die.
\nSo what this table shows is is <\/p>\n
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\nwhat what Judah learned as a
\nchild. <\/p>\n
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\nHe learned envy and he saw
\nhatred. <\/p>\n
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\nWell, it just so happens that
\nwhat does he act out as an <\/p>\n
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\nadult?
\nHis brethren envied him and they<\/p>\n
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\nhated him.
\nWe can observe this irony. <\/p>\n
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\nHurt people seem to hurt people
\nthe way they were hurt. <\/p>\n
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\nJust observe that for a moment.
\nDo you see that to be true in <\/p>\n
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\nyourself?
\nHurt people seem to hurt people <\/p>\n
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\noften the way they were hurt.
\nI’ll give you a obvious example <\/p>\n
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\nright there from Genesis.
\nYou think Jacob liked it that <\/p>\n
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\nIsaac seemed to favor Esau over
\nhim. <\/p>\n
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\nYou think he liked that kind of
\nfavoritism. <\/p>\n
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\nBut what does he do to his kids?
\nHurt people seem to hurt people <\/p>\n
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\noften the way they’ve been hurt.
\nSo the point here is that is <\/p>\n
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\nthat Judas suffered in a home
\nfull of of what? <\/p>\n
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\nTwo things, hatred and envy.
\nAnd he does the same. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd that takes us to a second
\nsymptom of resentment, which is,<\/p>\n
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\nwhich is modeling.
\nJudah models the behaviors that <\/p>\n
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\nhurt him.
\nIt’s not that Judas set out to <\/p>\n
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\nbe hypocrite.
\nIt’s just that modeling is <\/p>\n
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\nunfortunately a common outcome
\nof resentment. <\/p>\n
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\nSee this word envy in Genesis
\n37, verse 11. <\/p>\n
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\nThis, this is an interesting
\nword, right? <\/p>\n
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\nIt, it’s the word kana QANA
\nkana, right? <\/p>\n
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\nAnd it, it drives from an Arabic
\nword which means to become very <\/p>\n
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\nred, right?
\nAnd and it’s meaning is to burn <\/p>\n
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\nwith zeal for any purpose or
\nanything to excite to jealousy. <\/p>\n
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\nNo, this, this is it wasn’t like
\nenvy going Oh yeah, I like her <\/p>\n
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\nsweater.
\nI’d look better in that sweater <\/p>\n
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\nthan she would.
\nNot that I’ll tell her yet. <\/p>\n
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\nIt’s not that kind of envy,
\nright? <\/p>\n
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\nThis is this is this is in the,
\nthis is in the depths of your, <\/p>\n
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\nyou know, your stomach’s
\nburning, right? <\/p>\n
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\nThey become very red for a thing
\nlike your, your facial <\/p>\n
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\ncomplexion is starting to change
\ncolor, right? <\/p>\n
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\nBecause in, in with in your
\ninsides. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd do you think you can control
\na feeling like that? <\/p>\n
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\nYou think you want to turn that
\non? <\/p>\n
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\nYou think you wake up in the
\nmorning going, do you know what <\/p>\n
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\nI want to do today?
\nI’ll take out the garbage and <\/p>\n
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\nthen I’ll sit there and become
\nred and feel horrible, right? <\/p>\n
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\nYou don’t ask for that feeling.
\nIt sits there and you can’t wish<\/p>\n
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\nit away.
\nEver had one of those feelings? <\/p>\n
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\nYou just wish it away going,
\nGod, I do not want this feeling.<\/p>\n
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\nYou can’t wish that feeling
\naway. <\/p>\n
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\nYou know, if they’re not
\nintellectualizing this, they’re <\/p>\n
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\nnot saying, you know, that
\nJoseph chap, he’s a bit of a <\/p>\n
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\ngoody goody, isn’t he?
\nYou know this isn’t a mental <\/p>\n
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\nthing, right?
\nThey’re they’re feeling this <\/p>\n
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\nenvy in the in the depth of
\ntheir gut. <\/p>\n
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\nIt says they couldn’t speak
\npeace to him. <\/p>\n
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\nThey couldn’t speak Shalom.
\nWhat do you tell me? <\/p>\n
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\n00:23:09,760 –> 00:23:12,520
\nHow do you speak peace when
\nyou’re not feeling any peace? <\/p>\n
338
\n00:23:13,800 –> 00:23:18,200
\nThere’s no peace in Khanna.
\nKhanna is the opposite of peace.<\/p>\n
339
\n00:23:19,400 –> 00:23:24,720
\nKhanna is burning up with envy.
\nAnd that’s where the brethren <\/p>\n
340
\n00:23:24,720 –> 00:23:30,040
\nwere at this point in time.
\nThey’re fueled by insecurity. <\/p>\n
341
\n00:23:30,040 –> 00:23:32,480
\nThey feel a deep sense of
\ninjustice. <\/p>\n
342
\n00:23:34,320 –> 00:23:37,520
\nAnd when you have envy deeply
\nburning inside of you, what do <\/p>\n
343
\n00:23:37,520 –> 00:23:44,120
\nyou do admit to yourself?
\nHave you ever felt that burning <\/p>\n
344
\n00:23:44,120 –> 00:23:46,600
\nsense of agitation inside of
\nyou? <\/p>\n
345
\n00:23:46,760 –> 00:23:49,760
\nHave you struck out as a result
\nof that? <\/p>\n
346
\n00:23:51,320 –> 00:23:54,120
\nHave you struck out in violence
\nas a result of that? <\/p>\n
347
\n00:23:58,000 –> 00:24:00,080
\nEver done something you’re
\nashamed of because it was the <\/p>\n
348
\n00:24:00,120 –> 00:24:02,440
\nonly way you knew to calm that
\ninner man? <\/p>\n
349
\n00:24:05,960 –> 00:24:08,720
\nIn this situation, Judah and his
\nbrethren can’t help but lash out<\/p>\n
350
\n00:24:08,720 –> 00:24:13,800
\nof their brother.
\nAs we know the brothers anger <\/p>\n
351
\n00:24:13,800 –> 00:24:16,640
\nand resentment was exacerbated
\nby Joseph’s dreams. <\/p>\n
352
\n00:24:16,640 –> 00:24:20,320
\nAnd the brothers say to Joseph
\nin Genesis 37, verse 8, Shalt <\/p>\n
353
\n00:24:20,320 –> 00:24:23,280
\nthou indeed reign over us, or
\nshalt thou indeed have dominion <\/p>\n
354
\n00:24:23,280 –> 00:24:26,200
\nover us?
\nAnd they hated him yet more for <\/p>\n
355
\n00:24:26,200 –> 00:24:31,080
\nhis dreams and for his words.
\nAnd when we’re in a deep sense <\/p>\n
356
\n00:24:31,320 –> 00:24:36,200
\nstate of hurt and envy, the
\nbrothers intuitively and <\/p>\n
357
\n00:24:36,200 –> 00:24:40,200
\nunconsciously perform the third
\nsymptom of resentment. <\/p>\n
358
\n00:24:41,440 –> 00:24:45,360
\nAnd that third symptom is skewed
\njudgement. <\/p>\n
359
\n00:24:47,440 –> 00:24:51,920
\nAnd of course, when they judge
\nthe brothers, judge Joseph, <\/p>\n
360
\n00:24:51,920 –> 00:24:54,800
\nthey, they twist all the
\ninformation in the worst <\/p>\n
361
\n00:24:54,800 –> 00:24:58,840
\npossible way.
\nYou know how this works, right? <\/p>\n
362
\n00:24:58,840 –> 00:25:02,880
\nWhen you’re in a grumpy state of
\nmind, you know, You know how <\/p>\n
363
\n00:25:02,880 –> 00:25:06,400
\nyou’re a state of that mind
\nwhere every tone of voice is too<\/p>\n
364
\n00:25:06,400 –> 00:25:10,880
\nsarcastic, right?
\nEvery duty we have to do, it’s <\/p>\n
365
\n00:25:10,880 –> 00:25:13,440
\njust evidence that no one else
\nin the Ecologia cares but me, <\/p>\n
366
\n00:25:13,960 –> 00:25:17,680
\nright?
\nEvery, every question you’re, <\/p>\n
367
\n00:25:17,760 –> 00:25:22,640
\nyou’re asked just offends you
\nand you become defensive and <\/p>\n
368
\n00:25:22,640 –> 00:25:30,800
\nsensitive about everything.
\nThose around you, they avoid you<\/p>\n
369
\n00:25:31,840 –> 00:25:36,120
\nbecause they can’t do anything
\nright when you’re around and and<\/p>\n
370
\n00:25:36,120 –> 00:25:40,920
\nyou interpret all information
\nthrough the distorted lens of <\/p>\n
371
\n00:25:40,920 –> 00:25:45,480
\nyour agitation.
\nAnd when you’re like this, it’s <\/p>\n
372
\n00:25:45,480 –> 00:25:50,080
\nas if your brain is in this
\npanic. <\/p>\n
373
\n00:25:50,560 –> 00:25:55,360
\nDefine any any evidence to
\nsupport or justify or <\/p>\n
374
\n00:25:55,360 –> 00:25:59,080
\nrationalize your obnoxious point
\nof view and hateful disposition.<\/p>\n
375
\n00:25:59,240 –> 00:26:02,640
\nBecause darn it, if enough
\npeople are doing enough <\/p>\n
376
\n00:26:02,920 –> 00:26:05,800
\nannoying, aggravating and
\nhurtful things, then your bad <\/p>\n
377
\n00:26:05,800 –> 00:26:11,200
\nattitude is justified.
\nSo you’re looking for any shred <\/p>\n
378
\n00:26:11,200 –> 00:26:14,680
\nof evidence you can that makes
\nthe inside feel right. <\/p>\n
379
\n00:26:17,120 –> 00:26:19,040
\nAnd what’s the only answer when
\nyou’re like that? <\/p>\n
380
\n00:26:22,240 –> 00:26:26,360
\nI’m going for a run.
\nYou take a shower. <\/p>\n
381
\n00:26:28,560 –> 00:26:30,960
\nI’ll see you when I get back.
\nBecause we’re not going to have <\/p>\n
382
\n00:26:30,960 –> 00:26:32,680
\na constructive conversation
\nright now. <\/p>\n
383
\n00:26:38,540 –> 00:26:42,580
\nAnd so and so the brothers, they
\ndon’t hear Joseph’s dream is my <\/p>\n
384
\n00:26:42,580 –> 00:26:44,420
\npoint.
\nThey don’t hear it. <\/p>\n
385
\n00:26:45,340 –> 00:26:47,860
\nThey don’t consider the matter
\nlike Jacob did. <\/p>\n
386
\n00:26:48,220 –> 00:26:51,160
\nAnd and light of their
\nresentments and hurts, they <\/p>\n
387
\n00:26:51,160 –> 00:26:55,040
\nunconsciously judge the dreams
\nin the worst possible light. <\/p>\n
388
\n00:26:55,320 –> 00:26:59,600
\nNow the judgement was to hate
\nhim yet more for his dreams. <\/p>\n
389
\n00:27:00,760 –> 00:27:06,400
\nYet here’s the irony.
\nJoseph’s dreams did not foretell<\/p>\n
390
\n00:27:06,400 –> 00:27:10,840
\ntheir harm, but their good.
\nNow consider the matter from <\/p>\n
391
\n00:27:10,840 –> 00:27:13,480
\nGod’s point of view.
\nWhat was God accomplishing <\/p>\n
392
\n00:27:13,520 –> 00:27:15,200
\nthrough that dream?
\nDo you know, we don’t have to <\/p>\n
393
\n00:27:15,200 –> 00:27:19,920
\nguess because the scriptures,
\nthey give us the example of what<\/p>\n
394
\n00:27:19,920 –> 00:27:23,560
\nGod had in mind in the dream.
\nWe, we go to one of those really<\/p>\n
395
\n00:27:23,560 –> 00:27:27,160
\nuseful chapters, Psalm 105,
\nwhere, where the psalmist is <\/p>\n
396
\n00:27:27,160 –> 00:27:30,680
\ngiving a retelling of the, of
\nthe history of Israel to the <\/p>\n
397
\n00:27:30,680 –> 00:27:33,600
\npeople and in a, in a poem and
\nsong, so they will remember <\/p>\n
398
\n00:27:33,600 –> 00:27:36,720
\ntheir own history.
\nAnd, and the psalmist interprets<\/p>\n
399
\n00:27:36,720 –> 00:27:39,400
\nwhat’s going on here.
\nAnd we read this in Psalm one O <\/p>\n
400
\n00:27:39,400 –> 00:27:45,400
\n5, verses 20 and 21 and skipping
\nto verse 24, it says there the <\/p>\n
401
\n00:27:45,400 –> 00:27:49,280
\nking being Pharaoh loosed him,
\nmeaning Joseph, the key. <\/p>\n
402
\n00:27:49,280 –> 00:27:53,320
\nThe Pharaoh loosed Joseph, even
\nthe ruler of the people and let <\/p>\n
403
\n00:27:53,320 –> 00:27:56,640
\nhim go free.
\nHe made him Lord of his house <\/p>\n
404
\n00:27:56,760 –> 00:27:58,160
\nand ruler of his all his
\nsubstance. <\/p>\n
405
\n00:27:58,160 –> 00:28:00,360
\nSo that’s the, that’s the
\nfulfillment of that dream, is it<\/p>\n
406
\n00:28:00,360 –> 00:28:03,120
\nnot?
\nAnd then verse 24 says this. <\/p>\n
407
\n00:28:04,000 –> 00:28:08,160
\nAnd he increased his people
\ngreatly and made them stronger <\/p>\n
408
\n00:28:08,160 –> 00:28:11,840
\nthan their enemies.
\nDid it ever cross Joseph’s <\/p>\n
409
\n00:28:11,840 –> 00:28:15,840
\nbrothers minds at all?
\nThat maybe, just maybe their <\/p>\n
410
\n00:28:15,840 –> 00:28:17,680
\nbrother reigning over them was a
\ngood thing? <\/p>\n
411
\n00:28:20,960 –> 00:28:22,640
\nThat God was doing it for a
\npurpose? <\/p>\n
412
\n00:28:24,440 –> 00:28:26,560
\nThat Joseph, whose name means
\nwhat? <\/p>\n
413
\n00:28:28,320 –> 00:28:35,440
\nThe increaser, right, that God
\nmight be using Joseph to <\/p>\n
414
\n00:28:35,440 –> 00:28:40,200
\nincrease his people to make them
\nstronger than their enemies. <\/p>\n
415
\n00:28:41,840 –> 00:28:45,720
\nYou see one another symptom of
\nresentment is a complete lack of<\/p>\n
416
\n00:28:45,720 –> 00:28:49,920
\noptimism, right?
\nIt’s skewed judgement. <\/p>\n
417
\n00:28:50,280 –> 00:28:55,120
\nYou are interpreting information
\npessimistically based on <\/p>\n
418
\n00:28:55,120 –> 00:28:57,440
\nfeelings.
\nIn this case, the brothers were <\/p>\n
419
\n00:28:57,440 –> 00:29:00,240
\nsaying that that Joseph would
\nnever reign over them wrong. <\/p>\n
420
\n00:29:01,320 –> 00:29:04,160
\nAnd then they said they thought,
\nthey thought that if he did run <\/p>\n
421
\n00:29:04,160 –> 00:29:07,720
\nover them, it’d be bad for them.
\nWrong again. <\/p>\n
422
\n00:29:09,800 –> 00:29:14,240
\nBut their minds interpret and
\nrespond to their pessimistic <\/p>\n
423
\n00:29:14,240 –> 00:29:16,440
\nassumptions about the future as
\nif they were fact. <\/p>\n
424
\n00:29:16,440 –> 00:29:18,120
\nIn fact.
\nI want to, I want to outline <\/p>\n
425
\n00:29:18,120 –> 00:29:22,680
\nthis because this is so
\nimportant, how this process <\/p>\n
426
\n00:29:22,680 –> 00:29:27,360
\nworks to create sin within us.
\nOK, as I, as I go through this, <\/p>\n
427
\n00:29:27,560 –> 00:29:30,280
\nI wrote, I wrote this out of my
\nown personal experience and <\/p>\n
428
\n00:29:30,280 –> 00:29:32,840
\nmaybe this relates to you too.
\nI think, I think we’re made of <\/p>\n
429
\n00:29:32,840 –> 00:29:36,520
\nthe same stuff.
\nSo probably here’s how it works <\/p>\n
430
\n00:29:36,520 –> 00:29:38,040
\nin the mind of a resentful
\nperson. <\/p>\n
431
\n00:29:38,560 –> 00:29:41,760
\nThey take limited information.
\nIn this case, the brothers took <\/p>\n
432
\n00:29:41,760 –> 00:29:45,560
\nJoseph’s retelling of the dream.
\nThey take limited information, <\/p>\n
433
\n00:29:46,240 –> 00:29:50,360
\nyes, but then we interpret that
\nin the worst way possible. <\/p>\n
434
\n00:29:51,760 –> 00:29:56,960
\nAnd then we make pessimistic
\nassumptions based on our <\/p>\n
435
\n00:29:56,960 –> 00:30:00,520
\ninterpretation.
\nSo by the way, assumptions based<\/p>\n
436
\n00:30:00,520 –> 00:30:06,680
\non interpretations, dangerous
\nthings, then then what we do, <\/p>\n
437
\n00:30:06,680 –> 00:30:08,640
\nno, that’s not enough, right?
\nThat’s right. <\/p>\n
438
\n00:30:08,640 –> 00:30:10,000
\nRight away, you’re in a bad
\nspace. <\/p>\n
439
\n00:30:10,000 –> 00:30:15,440
\nBut no, we go on, We’re going to
\ntreat those assumptions as if <\/p>\n
440
\n00:30:15,440 –> 00:30:21,160
\nthey’re unbiased facts, and then
\nwe’re going to act accordingly, <\/p>\n
441
\n00:30:21,520 –> 00:30:23,120
\nthinking that we’re doing what’s
\nright. <\/p>\n
442
\n00:30:26,240 –> 00:30:32,920
\nIs this not how it works?
\nLimited information, interpreted<\/p>\n
443
\n00:30:35,280 –> 00:30:38,760
\nassumptions based on that
\nlimited information the most <\/p>\n
444
\n00:30:38,760 –> 00:30:41,960
\npessimistic way possible.
\nBut now I’m going to act on <\/p>\n
445
\n00:30:41,960 –> 00:30:45,000
\nthose assumptions and I’m going
\nto say, well, I’m totally <\/p>\n
446
\n00:30:45,000 –> 00:30:46,400
\njustified.
\nWhy? <\/p>\n
447
\n00:30:46,400 –> 00:30:51,000
\nBecause I’ve assumed based on
\ninterpretation and then my mind <\/p>\n
448
\n00:30:51,160 –> 00:30:53,360
\nis pessimistic.
\nBut you know what? <\/p>\n
449
\n00:30:53,680 –> 00:30:57,880
\nIf I plan for the worst case
\nscenario, I guess I’m going to <\/p>\n
450
\n00:30:57,880 –> 00:31:03,440
\nbe all right no matter what.
\nAnd weren’t. <\/p>\n
451
\n00:31:03,440 –> 00:31:06,000
\nThis is exactly the process the
\nbrothers went down as they <\/p>\n
452
\n00:31:06,000 –> 00:31:11,080
\nlooked at Joseph’s dream.
\nWhat could make someone act this<\/p>\n
453
\n00:31:11,080 –> 00:31:15,080
\nway with this variety and type
\nof skewed judgment? <\/p>\n
454
\n00:31:16,360 –> 00:31:19,280
\nResentment.
\nWhat is resentment? <\/p>\n
455
\n00:31:19,560 –> 00:31:23,520
\nIt’s feeling again.
\nIt’s feeling again a real or <\/p>\n
456
\n00:31:23,520 –> 00:31:28,240
\nimagined wrong.
\nSo let’s explore how resentment <\/p>\n
457
\n00:31:28,240 –> 00:31:30,600
\nhappens and why it’s so
\nfundamental to the way that <\/p>\n
458
\n00:31:30,600 –> 00:31:33,320
\nJudah acts.
\nSee, one of the clearest <\/p>\n
459
\n00:31:33,440 –> 00:31:36,800
\ndescriptions that resent we have
\nin all the Bible is actually <\/p>\n
460
\n00:31:36,800 –> 00:31:39,160
\nfound in First Corinthians
\nchapter 13, which is not where <\/p>\n
461
\n00:31:39,160 –> 00:31:41,800
\nyou’d expect to find it.
\nIs it First Corinthians chapter <\/p>\n
462
\n00:31:41,800 –> 00:31:44,240
\n13 and verse 5?
\nI’m going to read this out of <\/p>\n
463
\n00:31:44,240 –> 00:31:50,600
\nthe NIV.
\nIt says there love does not <\/p>\n
464
\n00:31:50,600 –> 00:31:56,160
\ndishonor others, it is not self
\nseeking, it is not easily <\/p>\n
465
\n00:31:56,160 –> 00:32:02,040
\nangered, it keeps no record of
\nwrongs. <\/p>\n
466
\n00:32:03,280 –> 00:32:07,640
\nNow the RSV actually puts here
\nnext to 1st Corinthians chapter <\/p>\n
467
\n00:32:07,640 –> 00:32:11,200
\n13 verse 5.
\nThe RSV actually puts in love is<\/p>\n
468
\n00:32:11,200 –> 00:32:15,760
\nnot resentful.
\nBut actually, the words <\/p>\n
469
\n00:32:15,760 –> 00:32:18,480
\nexpressed at the NIV are the
\nbetter translation. <\/p>\n
470
\n00:32:19,680 –> 00:32:22,280
\nLove keeps no record of wrongs.
\nThat’s really what the Greek is <\/p>\n
471
\n00:32:22,280 –> 00:32:24,880
\ngetting at.
\nBoth, by the way, are better <\/p>\n
472
\n00:32:24,880 –> 00:32:27,160
\nthan the King James of love
\nthinketh no evil. <\/p>\n
473
\n00:32:28,520 –> 00:32:31,680
\nOK, now those of us struggle
\nthat struggle with resentment. <\/p>\n
474
\n00:32:32,080 –> 00:32:33,880
\nYou know, we keep a record of
\nwrongs. <\/p>\n
475
\n00:32:34,120 –> 00:32:35,440
\nYou know, we keep a record of
\nwrongs. <\/p>\n
476
\n00:32:35,560 –> 00:32:38,200
\nLike the bank has gave me a
\nrecord of my mortgage, right? <\/p>\n
477
\n00:32:38,520 –> 00:32:40,160
\nIt’s not going to miss a cent,
\nright? <\/p>\n
478
\n00:32:40,520 –> 00:32:42,200
\nIt knows down to the penny what
\nI owe. <\/p>\n
479
\n00:32:44,480 –> 00:32:47,560
\nNow, Paul uses the same word
\nhere. <\/p>\n
480
\n00:32:47,800 –> 00:32:50,600
\nKeep a record of that same word
\nthere. <\/p>\n
481
\n00:32:50,600 –> 00:32:52,880
\nKeep a record of.
\nHe uses that a little bit later <\/p>\n
482
\n00:32:52,880 –> 00:32:56,440
\nin First Corinthians chapter 13
\nto help us even get a richer <\/p>\n
483
\n00:32:56,440 –> 00:32:59,680
\nsense of what this word keep a
\nrecord of is about. <\/p>\n
484
\n00:33:00,240 –> 00:33:03,200
\nNow, if you go down a little bit
\nin the chapter, you look at <\/p>\n
485
\n00:33:03,200 –> 00:33:05,640
\nverse 11.
\nWhat we read there in verse 11 <\/p>\n
486
\n00:33:05,640 –> 00:33:08,520
\nis this.
\nWhen I was a child, I spoke as a<\/p>\n
487
\n00:33:08,520 –> 00:33:12,520
\nchild.
\nI thought as a child, I reasoned<\/p>\n
488
\n00:33:13,840 –> 00:33:18,640
\nlike a child.
\nWhen I became a man, I gave up <\/p>\n
489
\n00:33:19,160 –> 00:33:23,840
\nchildish ways.
\nSo the word to keep a record of <\/p>\n
490
\n00:33:24,120 –> 00:33:30,160
\nis the same word in verse 11
\nreasoned When I was a child, I <\/p>\n
491
\n00:33:30,160 –> 00:33:33,200
\nkept.
\nWhen I was a child, I kept <\/p>\n
492
\n00:33:33,240 –> 00:33:36,600
\nrecords like a child is what it
\nactually means. <\/p>\n
493
\n00:33:36,960 –> 00:33:41,080
\nWhen I was a child, I kept
\nrecords like a child. <\/p>\n
494
\n00:33:41,280 –> 00:33:46,440
\nNow, I don’t know how your kids
\nkeep records, right? <\/p>\n
495
\n00:33:47,720 –> 00:33:49,920
\nBut you know how my keep kids
\nkeep records. <\/p>\n
496
\n00:33:50,080 –> 00:33:53,600
\nNow we have a certain language
\nyou don’t allow in our house. <\/p>\n
497
\n00:33:53,600 –> 00:33:55,520
\nDo you have language you don’t
\nallow in your house? <\/p>\n
498
\n00:33:55,760 –> 00:33:58,440
\nWe don’t have There’s a there’s
\na word that begins with F4 <\/p>\n
499
\n00:33:58,440 –> 00:34:00,200
\nletters long.
\nWe don’t allow that word in our <\/p>\n
500
\n00:34:00,200 –> 00:34:01,960
\nhouse.
\nDo you know what that word is? <\/p>\n
501
\n00:34:03,640 –> 00:34:05,120
\nWell, let me just put it this
\nway. <\/p>\n
502
\n00:34:05,880 –> 00:34:09,840
\nWhen you were raising your
\nchildren, what is the number one<\/p>\n
503
\n00:34:09,840 –> 00:34:11,719
\nthing that they complained you
\nabout? <\/p>\n
504
\n00:34:11,719 –> 00:34:17,280
\nWhen they come back and they say
\nMommy, Mommy, they say it’s not,<\/p>\n
505
\n00:34:18,760 –> 00:34:21,719
\nit’s not fair, right?
\nWe don’t allow that word. <\/p>\n
506
\n00:34:21,719 –> 00:34:25,360
\nIt’s a naughty word.
\nThat is a naughty word in the <\/p>\n
507
\n00:34:25,360 –> 00:34:28,639
\nBrinkerhoff household.
\nIt’s funny. <\/p>\n
508
\n00:34:28,840 –> 00:34:32,719
\nThey never seem to say that when
\nthe when the when the split is <\/p>\n
509
\n00:34:32,719 –> 00:34:36,320
\nto their advantage.
\nYou know, I’m not to this, dad. <\/p>\n
510
\n00:34:36,320 –> 00:34:39,360
\nNever heard one of my kids come
\nup and say Mommy, Mommy, it’s <\/p>\n
511
\n00:34:39,360 –> 00:34:41,040
\nnot fair.
\nI got too much ice cream. <\/p>\n
512
\n00:34:42,920 –> 00:34:46,360
\nYeah, you know, Mommy and Mommy,
\nit’s not fair. <\/p>\n
513
\n00:34:46,480 –> 00:34:48,920
\nI got a longer, longer turn on
\nthe slide. <\/p>\n
514
\n00:34:48,960 –> 00:34:51,800
\nYou know that just that never
\nseems to happen that way. <\/p>\n
515
\n00:34:54,320 –> 00:34:58,200
\nYou know, fundamental to the way
\nthat children reason is that <\/p>\n
516
\n00:34:58,200 –> 00:35:00,080
\nthey keep records.
\nAdmit it. <\/p>\n
517
\n00:35:00,280 –> 00:35:02,640
\nAdmit it to yourself.
\nThose who have children, raise <\/p>\n
518
\n00:35:02,640 –> 00:35:04,400
\nyour hand if your kids kept
\nrecords. <\/p>\n
519
\n00:35:05,680 –> 00:35:06,960
\nOh, some of you have Angel
\nchildren. <\/p>\n
520
\n00:35:06,960 –> 00:35:09,080
\nWho has Angel children, right?
\nRight. <\/p>\n
521
\n00:35:10,360 –> 00:35:12,120
\nJonathan, I know better than
\nthat. <\/p>\n
522
\n00:35:12,280 –> 00:35:18,160
\nRight, I, I have something I was
\ngoing to say, but I’m going to <\/p>\n
523
\n00:35:18,160 –> 00:35:19,480
\nkeep it right to myself right
\nnow. <\/p>\n
524
\n00:35:19,480 –> 00:35:22,440
\nThat’s right.
\nAll right, self-control, right. <\/p>\n
525
\n00:35:22,720 –> 00:35:29,520
\nSo, so let me draw a little
\nsketch right on the now I’m <\/p>\n
526
\n00:35:29,520 –> 00:35:31,640
\ngoing to draw, I’m going to show
\nyou a little sketch about how I <\/p>\n
527
\n00:35:31,640 –> 00:35:33,760
\nthink a child’s brain probably
\nworks, right? <\/p>\n
528
\n00:35:34,840 –> 00:35:36,760
\nYou see a seesaw to balance,
\nright? <\/p>\n
529
\n00:35:36,960 –> 00:35:38,400
\nBecause everything is a
\ncomparison. <\/p>\n
530
\n00:35:38,680 –> 00:35:41,400
\nEverything is a balance.
\nAnd at that middle of the <\/p>\n
531
\n00:35:41,400 –> 00:35:43,240
\nbalance is our perception of
\nFair. <\/p>\n
532
\n00:35:44,000 –> 00:35:47,120
\nOK, Now as we look at this
\nsketch, I want to introduce <\/p>\n
533
\n00:35:47,720 –> 00:35:49,320
\nsomething we’re going to be
\nreferring to quite a bit in <\/p>\n
534
\n00:35:49,320 –> 00:35:51,880
\nthese studies, which are the
\nfive selves of sin. <\/p>\n
535
\n00:35:52,640 –> 00:35:55,080
\nAnd the five selves of sin are
\nthese. <\/p>\n
536
\n00:35:55,680 –> 00:35:58,600
\nAnd it begins with self
\nimportance. <\/p>\n
537
\n00:35:59,920 –> 00:36:05,920
\nNow as self important people, we
\nthink as a default I deserve to <\/p>\n
538
\n00:36:05,920 –> 00:36:13,280
\nhave or I expect to have just as
\nmuch or a little bit more than <\/p>\n
539
\n00:36:13,280 –> 00:36:16,400
\nthe next person because by
\ndefinition I’m self important. <\/p>\n
540
\n00:36:17,880 –> 00:36:20,200
\nNow thinking this way, this
\nleads to what? <\/p>\n
541
\n00:36:21,040 –> 00:36:25,080
\nThis leads to being easily hurt.
\nWe’re always keeping records. <\/p>\n
542
\n00:36:25,080 –> 00:36:28,960
\nWe’re counting, ensuring that we
\nget everything that we deserve. <\/p>\n
543
\n00:36:28,960 –> 00:36:33,960
\nAnd occasionally when we’re
\ntreated in the wrong way, our <\/p>\n
544
\n00:36:33,960 –> 00:36:37,400
\nmood fouls and we get bad
\nfeelings and judgments and <\/p>\n
545
\n00:36:37,400 –> 00:36:41,960
\ndefensive behaviors.
\nSo when that happens in our <\/p>\n
546
\n00:36:41,960 –> 00:36:47,080
\nchildish brain, the way we
\nreason as children, what happens<\/p>\n
547
\n00:36:47,080 –> 00:36:49,920
\nis we add a little, we, we go
\nback to our balance and we add a<\/p>\n
548
\n00:36:49,920 –> 00:36:52,840
\nlittle hurt.
\nSo now you can see our balance <\/p>\n
549
\n00:36:52,840 –> 00:36:55,800
\nis skewed just slightly.
\nYou see it’s a skewed down that <\/p>\n
550
\n00:36:55,800 –> 00:36:58,240
\nway because we have a hurt
\nthere, right? <\/p>\n
551
\n00:36:58,360 –> 00:37:00,680
\nWe’ve been hurt.
\nI didn’t get what I was <\/p>\n
552
\n00:37:00,680 –> 00:37:02,960
\nexpecting to get.
\nI wasn’t treated the way I was <\/p>\n
553
\n00:37:02,960 –> 00:37:06,320
\nexpected to be treated.
\nYou know, someone treated me <\/p>\n
554
\n00:37:06,320 –> 00:37:09,200
\nbadly and I’m and and I’m hurt
\nabout that. <\/p>\n
555
\n00:37:09,960 –> 00:37:13,760
\nAnd you go back to the five
\nselves of sin and you go, OK, we<\/p>\n
556
\n00:37:13,760 –> 00:37:16,840
\nnotice one that comes next.
\nThis is self justification. <\/p>\n
557
\n00:37:17,240 –> 00:37:20,120
\nAnd that’s what we do next.
\nWe we notice that our little <\/p>\n
558
\n00:37:20,120 –> 00:37:27,760
\nbalance isn’t even in our mind.
\nIt’s just or it’s right to just <\/p>\n
559
\n00:37:27,760 –> 00:37:28,960
\nsay even things out a little
\nbit. <\/p>\n
560
\n00:37:28,960 –> 00:37:31,560
\nI’m just going to get even.
\nI’m just going to even out even <\/p>\n
561
\n00:37:31,560 –> 00:37:34,040
\nthings out.
\nAnd how do you going to do that?<\/p>\n
562
\n00:37:34,440 –> 00:37:38,360
\nWell, there’s a million ways you
\nmay, you may speak badly about <\/p>\n
563
\n00:37:38,360 –> 00:37:42,000
\nthat person.
\nYou may, you may give that <\/p>\n
564
\n00:37:42,000 –> 00:37:44,040
\nperson a little bit of the
\nsilent treatment, a little bit <\/p>\n
565
\n00:37:44,040 –> 00:37:48,120
\nof a cold shoulder or, or, or
\nmaybe worse, whatever it is, you<\/p>\n
566
\n00:37:48,120 –> 00:37:53,600
\njustify it because after all,
\nthey hurt you first and, and, <\/p>\n
567
\n00:37:53,680 –> 00:37:56,360
\nand your way, you’re just
\nevening things out a bit. <\/p>\n
568
\n00:37:58,120 –> 00:38:01,320
\nAnd as you might have guessed,
\nthe words of Christ found in in <\/p>\n
569
\n00:38:01,320 –> 00:38:04,880
\nMatthew chapter 5, you know,
\nlove your enemies, bless those <\/p>\n
570
\n00:38:04,880 –> 00:38:07,520
\nthat curse you, do good to them
\nthat hate you and pray for them <\/p>\n
571
\n00:38:07,520 –> 00:38:09,400
\nthat despitefully use you and
\npersecute you. <\/p>\n
572
\n00:38:10,040 –> 00:38:14,360
\nThose words don’t have much
\neffect on the self important <\/p>\n
573
\n00:38:14,360 –> 00:38:18,720
\nself justifying person.
\nSo we can see now that <\/p>\n
574
\n00:38:18,720 –> 00:38:24,240
\nresentment or holding on to the
\noriginal wrong has blinded us <\/p>\n
575
\n00:38:25,280 –> 00:38:31,880
\nbecause something that’s wrong
\nseems right in our eyes because <\/p>\n
576
\n00:38:31,960 –> 00:38:35,440
\nwe’re the one who’s doing it.
\nAnd in our view the circumstance<\/p>\n
577
\n00:38:35,440 –> 00:38:40,520
\nis called for it.
\nOf course, in this sense the <\/p>\n
578
\n00:38:40,520 –> 00:38:44,440
\nresentment is leading to sin,
\nbut in our view it’s justified. <\/p>\n
579
\n00:38:45,840 –> 00:38:50,560
\nIt’s justified.
\nWell, what that means is we <\/p>\n
580
\n00:38:50,560 –> 00:38:54,240
\ndon’t need to repent.
\nSo we’ve slipped from self <\/p>\n
581
\n00:38:54,240 –> 00:38:58,200
\njustification or getting even to
\nself righteousness or <\/p>\n
582
\n00:38:58,200 –> 00:39:00,720
\nrationalizing a lack of
\nrepentance afterwards. <\/p>\n
583
\n00:39:03,640 –> 00:39:06,160
\nUnfortunately, though, I I don’t
\nknow if this is how it works <\/p>\n
584
\n00:39:06,160 –> 00:39:11,080
\nwith you, but once I justify
\ndoing the wrong thing, it <\/p>\n
585
\n00:39:11,080 –> 00:39:15,480
\nbecomes pretty easy to keep
\ndoing it And and before long <\/p>\n
586
\n00:39:15,480 –> 00:39:20,680
\neven expand upon it.
\nAnd and we may find that the the<\/p>\n
587
\n00:39:20,680 –> 00:39:22,720
\nbalance, unfortunately, the
\nbalance of our child like <\/p>\n
588
\n00:39:22,720 –> 00:39:25,120
\nreasoning.
\nIt might even start to tip the <\/p>\n
589
\n00:39:25,120 –> 00:39:28,000
\nwrong direction.
\nYou know, it might be that, Gee,<\/p>\n
590
\n00:39:28,000 –> 00:39:31,080
\nwe’ve done a lot of sins and you
\nknow that that hurt almost it <\/p>\n
591
\n00:39:31,080 –> 00:39:35,320
\ndoesn’t even, it doesn’t even
\nseem to rationalize our, our, <\/p>\n
592
\n00:39:35,400 –> 00:39:39,040
\nour sinful response.
\nAh, ha, ha, we have a solution <\/p>\n
593
\n00:39:39,040 –> 00:39:41,840
\nto this problem, don’t we?
\nSo this is where excitement <\/p>\n
594
\n00:39:41,840 –> 00:39:44,520
\nsteps in.
\nSo in in that case, we don’t <\/p>\n
595
\n00:39:44,520 –> 00:39:45,800
\nwant this problem to last very
\nlong. <\/p>\n
596
\n00:39:46,000 –> 00:39:47,560
\nWe just remember that hurt
\nagain. <\/p>\n
597
\n00:39:48,520 –> 00:39:54,040
\nYep, And and we remember we
\nreplayed in our minds and but, <\/p>\n
598
\n00:39:54,360 –> 00:39:56,760
\nbut we’re not too honest with
\nourselves, are we? <\/p>\n
599
\n00:39:57,120 –> 00:40:01,000
\nWhen we think about that
\noriginal hurt, you know we. <\/p>\n
600
\n00:40:01,600 –> 00:40:07,160
\nWe just happen to make their
\npart a little bit worse and we <\/p>\n
601
\n00:40:07,160 –> 00:40:13,160
\nmake our part a little bit less
\nand and doing this, we just make<\/p>\n
602
\n00:40:13,160 –> 00:40:18,960
\nthe hurt a little bit bigger.
\nJust just big enough to justify <\/p>\n
603
\n00:40:19,840 –> 00:40:27,640
\nour attitude and anger and
\nnegativity when we re remember. <\/p>\n
604
\n00:40:28,760 –> 00:40:31,360
\nDo we do?
\nWe had a little bit of <\/p>\n
605
\n00:40:31,360 –> 00:40:36,000
\nintention.
\nYou know, you meant to say that,<\/p>\n
606
\n00:40:38,400 –> 00:40:42,520
\nyou know, that was no accident.
\nNot only did you do it on <\/p>\n
607
\n00:40:42,520 –> 00:40:45,680
\npurpose, I bet you premeditated
\nit. <\/p>\n
608
\n00:40:47,840 –> 00:40:51,160
\nIt’s not third degree murder.
\nIt’s not even second degree <\/p>\n
609
\n00:40:51,160 –> 00:40:52,720
\nmurder.
\nIt’s pre planned murder. <\/p>\n
610
\n00:40:52,720 –> 00:41:00,600
\nIt’s first degree.
\nWe make it bigger and we start <\/p>\n
611
\n00:41:00,600 –> 00:41:02,640
\nto get pretty good at this
\njustification game. <\/p>\n
612
\n00:41:02,640 –> 00:41:05,960
\nAnd before long, everywhere we
\nturn, we find someone who’s <\/p>\n
613
\n00:41:05,960 –> 00:41:10,760
\nannoying us or doing something
\nthe wrong way or or saying the <\/p>\n
614
\n00:41:10,760 –> 00:41:12,600
\nwrong thing.
\nWe take offense at everything. <\/p>\n
615
\n00:41:12,600 –> 00:41:16,120
\nWe just pile up hurts.
\nWe pile up resentments. <\/p>\n
616
\n00:41:16,800 –> 00:41:19,440
\nSo what are resentments,
\nbrothers and sisters? <\/p>\n
617
\n00:41:20,280 –> 00:41:21,760
\nI want to give it a new
\ndefinition. <\/p>\n
618
\n00:41:22,880 –> 00:41:29,440
\nI think resentments are the fuel
\nthat allows to feel OK doing <\/p>\n
619
\n00:41:29,440 –> 00:41:36,080
\nwhat’s wrong.
\nBefore long we find ourselves in<\/p>\n
620
\n00:41:36,080 –> 00:41:40,920
\na position where we literally
\ncan’t forgive the wrongs done to<\/p>\n
621
\n00:41:40,920 –> 00:41:44,440
\nothers.
\nNow, why can’t you forgive the <\/p>\n
622
\n00:41:44,440 –> 00:41:46,680
\nwrongs done to others?
\nIf you’re full of resentment, <\/p>\n
623
\n00:41:48,320 –> 00:41:52,480
\nhow could you?
\nIf you forgave, you’d be sitting<\/p>\n
624
\n00:41:52,480 –> 00:41:56,640
\non a huge pile of sins without
\nanything to justify them with. <\/p>\n
625
\n00:41:57,960 –> 00:42:03,720
\nNone of us are going to do that.
\nSo we’re going to continue with <\/p>\n
626
\n00:42:03,720 –> 00:42:06,840
\nthis diagram in our future
\ntalks. <\/p>\n
627
\n00:42:07,200 –> 00:42:11,240
\nWe’re kind of moved down the
\nprocess of the self loathing and<\/p>\n
628
\n00:42:11,280 –> 00:42:15,240
\nself gratification.
\nBut for the moment, I want you <\/p>\n
629
\n00:42:15,240 –> 00:42:17,720
\nto see that this is the process
\nthat Judah went down. <\/p>\n
630
\n00:42:18,640 –> 00:42:22,000
\nHe was the man that Paul
\ndescribes in Titus, not <\/p>\n
631
\n00:42:22,000 –> 00:42:26,200
\nliterally, but figuratively.
\nPaul says in Titus 3 verse 3 <\/p>\n
632
\n00:42:27,760 –> 00:42:31,560
\nthat we ought to avoid those who
\nare full of hate, envy, living <\/p>\n
633
\n00:42:31,560 –> 00:42:33,240
\nin malice.
\nNow living in malice means to <\/p>\n
634
\n00:42:33,240 –> 00:42:41,400
\nlive in ill will, living in ill
\nwill, deceived and foolish. <\/p>\n
635
\n00:42:42,640 –> 00:42:47,560
\nSo often living in I’ll will, we
\nare deceived because we’re lying<\/p>\n
636
\n00:42:47,560 –> 00:42:50,360
\nto ourselves.
\nWe’re making it. <\/p>\n
637
\n00:42:50,840 –> 00:42:53,120
\nWe’re making a horrible
\nsituation even worse. <\/p>\n
638
\n00:42:56,600 –> 00:43:01,280
\nSo Judah’s problem began with
\nhurt that was real. <\/p>\n
639
\n00:43:01,800 –> 00:43:04,160
\nIt was real, and it was
\nundeserved. <\/p>\n
640
\n00:43:05,520 –> 00:43:10,200
\nIt was hurt that he nursed in
\nhis heart, and he used it to <\/p>\n
641
\n00:43:10,200 –> 00:43:12,120
\njustify treating Joseph
\nBaddeley. <\/p>\n
642
\n00:43:13,680 –> 00:43:15,640
\nBut you know a funny thing about
\ntreating Joseph Baddeley? <\/p>\n
643
\n00:43:16,600 –> 00:43:18,400
\nIt didn’t make the pain in his
\nheart any less. <\/p>\n
644
\n00:43:20,560 –> 00:43:24,920
\nThere was a benefit, though, of
\nresentment because it allowed <\/p>\n
645
\n00:43:24,920 –> 00:43:28,800
\nJudah to justify his actions and
\nbeing justified. <\/p>\n
646
\n00:43:28,800 –> 00:43:32,120
\nHis actions grew worse and
\nworse, and his attitude grew <\/p>\n
647
\n00:43:32,120 –> 00:43:35,960
\nworse and worse.
\nBefore long, Judah was looking <\/p>\n
648
\n00:43:35,960 –> 00:43:39,920
\nto find fault.
\nHe was full of displaced anger. <\/p>\n
649
\n00:43:40,200 –> 00:43:44,560
\nHe was modeling hatred and envy,
\nand he was acting with skewed <\/p>\n
650
\n00:43:44,760 –> 00:43:52,080
\njudgement of facts.
\nIn Paul’s words, Judah was <\/p>\n
651
\n00:43:52,080 –> 00:43:54,920
\nthinking like a child keeping
\nrecords of wrongs. <\/p>\n
652
\n00:43:54,920 –> 00:43:58,920
\nHe was counting wrongs.
\nWhich brings us to the question,<\/p>\n
653
\n00:43:59,920 –> 00:44:06,840
\nwhat wrongs are you counting?
\nPerhaps it’s useful in light of <\/p>\n
654
\n00:44:06,840 –> 00:44:10,080
\nthat to ask what God is
\ncounting, because the same word <\/p>\n
655
\n00:44:10,400 –> 00:44:14,960
\nreasoned or counting love does
\nnot count wrongs. <\/p>\n
656
\n00:44:14,960 –> 00:44:18,720
\nIt’s it’s used often in the New
\nTestament that it’s, it’s the <\/p>\n
657
\n00:44:18,720 –> 00:44:24,080
\nGreek word lozami, and it means
\nto reckon or count or compute or<\/p>\n
658
\n00:44:24,080 –> 00:44:27,800
\nmake a count of.
\nAnd this same word is used <\/p>\n
659
\n00:44:28,400 –> 00:44:32,000
\nthroughout the New Testament,
\nfor example, in Romans 4 verse <\/p>\n
660
\n00:44:32,000 –> 00:44:34,920
\n5.
\nBut to him that worketh not, but<\/p>\n
661
\n00:44:34,920 –> 00:44:39,720
\nbelieveth on him that justifieth
\nthe godly, his faith is counted <\/p>\n
662
\n00:44:40,520 –> 00:44:46,040
\nfor righteousness.
\nHow about Romans 4 verse 8 to <\/p>\n
663
\n00:44:46,040 –> 00:44:50,040
\nthe man who the Lord will not
\nbless, the man to whom the Lord <\/p>\n
664
\n00:44:50,040 –> 00:44:55,640
\nwill not count sin?
\nThat’s that one. <\/p>\n
665
\n00:44:55,760 –> 00:45:03,080
\nYep.
\nOr 2nd Corinthians 5 verse 19. <\/p>\n
666
\n00:45:03,440 –> 00:45:08,560
\nTo wit, that God was in Christ
\nreconciling the world to <\/p>\n
667
\n00:45:08,560 –> 00:45:14,280
\nHimself, not counting trespasses
\nunto them, and hath committed <\/p>\n
668
\n00:45:14,280 –> 00:45:15,920
\nunto us the word of
\nreconciliation. <\/p>\n
669
\n00:45:15,920 –> 00:45:23,160
\nI just want you to bear this
\nfact in mind, that our nature is<\/p>\n
670
\n00:45:23,160 –> 00:45:31,240
\nvery much to count, to count the
\nsins of others, to reason like <\/p>\n
671
\n00:45:31,240 –> 00:45:39,360
\nchildren.
\nBut Christ in Christ God is not <\/p>\n
672
\n00:45:39,360 –> 00:45:43,360
\ncounting trespasses, but what
\ndoes He count? <\/p>\n
673
\n00:45:44,960 –> 00:45:53,200
\nHe is counting faith.
\nSo thinking back to the balance,<\/p>\n
674
\n00:45:53,200 –> 00:45:57,240
\nthen, how does this balance work
\nin light of grace? <\/p>\n
675
\n00:46:00,480 –> 00:46:03,840
\nOnce you say that that
\nundeserved kindness of grace, it<\/p>\n
676
\n00:46:03,840 –> 00:46:10,920
\nbasically destroys this balance.
\nThis whole tit for tat paradigm <\/p>\n
677
\n00:46:11,320 –> 00:46:14,720
\nwe seem to be born into.
\nSee, God’s not trowning, <\/p>\n
678
\n00:46:14,800 –> 00:46:19,440
\ncounting, trespasses, but let’s
\nbe honest, we are. <\/p>\n
679
\n00:46:22,640 –> 00:46:25,960
\nSo how would God take, brothers
\nand sisters, a man who was <\/p>\n
680
\n00:46:25,960 –> 00:46:31,280
\ncaught in envy and hatred, and
\ntransform him into a man who was<\/p>\n
681
\n00:46:31,280 –> 00:46:35,920
\nwilling to sacrifice his freedom
\nfor his father, who had not <\/p>\n
682
\n00:46:35,920 –> 00:46:43,960
\nrepented of favoritism?
\nHow did God release from Judah <\/p>\n
683
\n00:46:44,320 –> 00:46:48,120
\nthe burden of self-righteous
\nresentment? <\/p>\n
684
\n00:46:49,840 –> 00:46:52,520
\nThis is the question we’re going
\nto try to answer this week as we<\/p>\n
685
\n00:46:52,520 –> 00:46:54,640
\nprogress in our studies
\ntogether.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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