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\nBible School.
\nOur speaker this morning is <\/p>\n
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\nBrother Ben Brinkerhoff of the
\nChrist Church North Ecclesia in <\/p>\n
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\nNew Zealand.
\nHis topic for the week is <\/p>\n
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\nOvercoming resentment, and the
\ntitle today is Judas Saved by <\/p>\n
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\nGrace.
\nGood morning Rocky Mountain <\/p>\n
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\nBible School.
\nWell, I have been asked a couple<\/p>\n
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\ntimes is this on by the way,
\nDavid, I’ve asked a couple times<\/p>\n
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\nlike Ben, you just keep on
\nlayering on the problem, the <\/p>\n
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\nproblem, the problem, the
\nproblem. <\/p>\n
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\nWhen are we going to get to the
\nanswer? <\/p>\n
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\nAnd hopefully today we start to
\nget into the the answer for <\/p>\n
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\nresentment.
\nAnd we’re going to do so through<\/p>\n
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\nthrough one of those readings
\nthat when you parents, you ever <\/p>\n
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\nhad that that one of those
\noccasions where, you know, you <\/p>\n
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\nlook at the daily readings and
\nand you go, we’re just going to <\/p>\n
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\nread the second and third
\nportion today, kids, you know, <\/p>\n
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\nand and maybe chapter 38 Genesis
\nwas one of those one of those <\/p>\n
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\nchapters.
\nSo it’s an interesting chapter <\/p>\n
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\nto look into anyways, because I
\nthink it presents itself with <\/p>\n
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\nsome intriguing questions, but
\nalso with what Judah needed to <\/p>\n
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\ngo through to to make that next
\nstep in his progress and the <\/p>\n
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\nrestoration of his faith and of
\nhis conscience. <\/p>\n
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\nSo in our last study, though, we
\nsaw Judah just going from from <\/p>\n
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\nbad to worst.
\nHe seems to be trying to find <\/p>\n
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\nsomething that’s going to fill
\nthat hole in his heart and we <\/p>\n
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\njust see him turning more and
\nmore into different types of of <\/p>\n
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\nself gratification.
\nSo and it’s, it’s like he’s <\/p>\n
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\nspiraling downwards.
\nWe see him grow in hatred and <\/p>\n
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\nenvy.
\nWe see him plot to kill his <\/p>\n
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\nbrother.
\nWe see him hatch the idea to <\/p>\n
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\nsell Joseph into slavery.
\nAnd then he lies about it to his<\/p>\n
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\nfather.
\nAnd then he leaves the only <\/p>\n
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\necclesia in existence, which was
\nwithin his father’s house, to <\/p>\n
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\nlive in the world.
\nAnd then he marries outside the <\/p>\n
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\ntruth in pursuit of lust and
\nwealth to what appears to be a <\/p>\n
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\nmiserable woman.
\nSo how’s you going to emerge <\/p>\n
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\nfrom the spiraling mess?
\nIt seems to be getting worse, <\/p>\n
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\nnot not better.
\nAnd he’s going to do so through <\/p>\n
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\nthe most unlikely of sources, a
\nCanaanite woman who was more <\/p>\n
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\nrighteous than he.
\nAnd that is today’s story. <\/p>\n
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\nSO1 gets the impression as he
\nreads the story that Tamer had <\/p>\n
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\nreally no say in her marriage to
\nER. <\/p>\n
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\nNow we turn over to Genesis
\nchapter 38, where we’ll be <\/p>\n
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\ntaking most of our comments for
\ntoday’s class. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd we look then at verse 38,
\nchapter 38, verse 6, where we <\/p>\n
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\nread and Judah took a wife for
\nER, his first born, whose name <\/p>\n
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\nwas Tamar.
\nNow in those days, women could <\/p>\n
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\nbe used to tie families together
\nfor political purposes. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd probably the best example of
\nthis is Dinah and Shechem <\/p>\n
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\nbecause their marriage or
\nproposed marriage certainly had <\/p>\n
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\npolitical implications.
\nIn Genesis chapter 34 verses 9 <\/p>\n
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\nto 10, we read that Shechem’s
\nfather says ye shall dwell with <\/p>\n
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\nus in the land because of this
\nmarriage. <\/p>\n
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\nYou can dwell and trade therein
\nand get you possession. <\/p>\n
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\nSo, so their proposed union had
\npolitical implications, not <\/p>\n
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\nsimply just romantic ones.
\nAnd also women could be used for<\/p>\n
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\na dowry.
\nAnd again, you think the example<\/p>\n
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\nof Donna and Shechem.
\nYou know, what is it that <\/p>\n
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\nShechem said to Jacob?
\nHe said to Jacob asked me ever <\/p>\n
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\nso much dowry and gift.
\nSo you can see that that on some<\/p>\n
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\nlevel, these marriages of women
\ncould could have political <\/p>\n
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\nimplications.
\nIt had could have financial <\/p>\n
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\nimplications.
\nAnd so I just use that and <\/p>\n
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\nreflect on what’s happening
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\nAnd I think it’s highly likely
\nthat there was knowledge in the <\/p>\n
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\nland that Ur was wicked.
\nI don’t think his wickedness <\/p>\n
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\nwould have been something that
\nwas hidden under a a Bush, <\/p>\n
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\nright?
\nI think it was well known that <\/p>\n
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\nJudas and Ur was was a wicked
\nman. <\/p>\n
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\nSo if if that’s true, then put
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\nHow how would you like to be
\nmarried off to an evil man that <\/p>\n
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\nyou don’t love because your
\nfather can fetch a high price <\/p>\n
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\nand wants to make political
\nalliances? <\/p>\n
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\nYou know, I don’t know if we
\nhave any young single women in <\/p>\n
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\nthis crowd, right?
\nBut I imagine that that that <\/p>\n
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\nMight bother you a bit.
\nSo after swallowing that <\/p>\n
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\ninjustice, you you come into
\nJudah’s home that seems to be <\/p>\n
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\ndominated by his brawling wife
\nand his wicked sons. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd you’re there to to make sons
\nso. <\/p>\n
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\nBut in those days, women had
\nreally 2 paths to security and <\/p>\n
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\nlivelihood and one was in
\nmarriage and secondly was <\/p>\n
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\nsons were in the rivalry between
\nLeah and Rachel. <\/p>\n
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\nSo you wonder then about how
\nTamar saw Judah when she goes <\/p>\n
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\nWould she have observed that <\/p>\n
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\nThat maybe he maybe he wasn’t as
\ncomfortable with the sin and <\/p>\n
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\ncruelty that his sons were?
\nThat that he hadn’t totally <\/p>\n
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\naccepted Canaanite ways?
\nThat there was something in <\/p>\n
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\nJudah that knew right from wrong
\neven he couldn’t bring himself <\/p>\n
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\nto do right.
\nLike she must have observed <\/p>\n
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\nsomething in him.
\nShe must have, because she’s <\/p>\n
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\ngoing to bet her life on it,
\nthat he’s willing to do what’s <\/p>\n
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\nright if the conditions are
\npresented in the right way. <\/p>\n
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\nBut the record says in verse 7
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\nfirst born, was wicked in the
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\nslew him.
\nOK, So what do you think was <\/p>\n
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\nTamar’s reaction when ER died?
\nWas it relief? <\/p>\n
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\nWas it horror?
\nI mean, she was left without a <\/p>\n
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\nhusband and without a son, and
\nthat’s a disaster for a woman of<\/p>\n
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\nher time.
\nAnd so in verse 8, Judah says to<\/p>\n
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\nOnan, go into thy brother’s wife
\nand marry her and raise up a <\/p>\n
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\nseed to thy brother.
\nSo Tamar, I think, would have <\/p>\n
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\nbeen relieved that Judah had
\norganized for Onan to go in to <\/p>\n
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\nTamar and to to marry her and to
\nraise up a seed for her. <\/p>\n
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\nNow although Tamar might have
\nbeen relieved, it reads almost <\/p>\n
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\ncustomary laws in those times. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd in fact, a law like this is
\ncodified in the law of Moses. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd we read about it that in
\nDeuteronomy chapter 25, verses 5<\/p>\n
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\nand 6.
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\nfor you.
\nWe read there, If brethren dwell<\/p>\n
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\ntogether, and one of them die
\nand have no child, the wife of <\/p>\n
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\nthe dead shall not marry without
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\nHer husband’s brother shall go
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\nto wife, and perform the duty of
\na husband’s brother unto her. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd it shall be that if the
\nfirst born which she beareth <\/p>\n
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\nshall succeed in the name of his
\nbrother which is dead, that his <\/p>\n
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\nname be not put out of Israel.
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\nIf the widow doesn’t have a
\nchild, then the brother of the <\/p>\n
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\ndead husband goes in to produce
\nan heir, and when a male male <\/p>\n
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\nheir is produced, it is counted
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\nthe inheritance that the dead
\nbrother was due, that the <\/p>\n
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\nbrothers may be not put out of
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\nThe problem, of course, is that
\nby doing this, the living <\/p>\n
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\nbrother participates in a
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\nimplications of this process for
\nOnan. <\/p>\n
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\nNow before ER died, Onan was due
\nto receive 25% of Jews estate, <\/p>\n
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\nwhich and due to the estate I’m
\nonly supposing was probably <\/p>\n
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\nquite considerable.
\nNow when ER dies, Onan now is <\/p>\n
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\ndue to receive about 67% of the
\nestate. <\/p>\n
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\nOf course, what happens is you
\ntake the estate and you divide <\/p>\n
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\nit up by the number of children
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\nportion.
\nSo I’m now going to divide to <\/p>\n
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\nchoose the state three ways, one
\nportion for each of his child <\/p>\n
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\nand the double portion which is
\ndue to the first born or to the <\/p>\n
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\noldest surviving heir.
\nSo in this situation, with her <\/p>\n
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\nout of the way, Onan is now due
\nto receive 67% of the <\/p>\n
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\ninheritance.
\nOK, but what happens when Onan <\/p>\n
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\nmarries Tamar and raises up a
\nseed for her? <\/p>\n
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\nWell, unfortunately in that
\nsituation, the little guy gets <\/p>\n
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\n50% of the estate and Onan goes
\nback to 25%. <\/p>\n
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\nHow do you think he felt about
\nthat? <\/p>\n
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\nWell, probably didn’t like it
\nvery much. <\/p>\n
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\nProbably inherited a little bit
\nof Judah’s mentality of, of <\/p>\n
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\naiming for position and for
\nprofit and so, so Onan is, is <\/p>\n
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\nhappy to marry Tamar, but he
\ndoesn’t want any children by <\/p>\n
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\nher.
\nSo it’s like this is Onan’s <\/p>\n
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\nplan.
\nHe’s going to wait it out till <\/p>\n
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\nJudah dies.
\nHe’s going to inherit the double<\/p>\n
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\nportion himself.
\nThen he’s going to dispose of <\/p>\n
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\nTamar and marry a younger girl
\nand have sons. <\/p>\n
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\nSo the the whole idea of what
\nhappens in this, in Onan’s plan,<\/p>\n
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\nthe implications of all of this,
\nis that Tamar ends up destitute.<\/p>\n
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\nSo the key to Tamar’s whole
\nsecurity was tied up in having a<\/p>\n
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\nson.
\nHow would she feel then when <\/p>\n
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\nOnan spilled his seed to her?
\nThat would be a vicious wrong <\/p>\n
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\nand even worse, she would be
\nblamed for being barren. <\/p>\n
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\nSo we read in Genesis chapter 38
\nverse 10. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd the thing which he did
\ndisplease the Lord, wherefore he<\/p>\n
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\nslew him also.
\nAll right, now think of the <\/p>\n
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\nimpact of Tamar when Onan dies.
\nConsider for a moment the <\/p>\n
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\nsuspicious ways of Canaanites.
\nWould they think of Tamar? <\/p>\n
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\nWhat would they think of Tamar
\nafter her first husband died? <\/p>\n
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\nThen surely after Tamar marries
\nOnan and then he also dies, and <\/p>\n
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\nthe whole time she can’t seem to
\nget pregnant. <\/p>\n
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\nDo you think the Canaanites
\nwould have cast a suspicious eye<\/p>\n
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\non Tamar, thinking perhaps that
\ntheir gods had cursed her? <\/p>\n
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\nShe would have known that she
\nhad done nothing wrong. <\/p>\n
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\nBut would anyone listen worse?
\nWhat do you think that Judah’s <\/p>\n
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\nwife thought of Tamar?
\nYou know, if Judah died, her <\/p>\n
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\nsecurity was bound up in her
\nsons. <\/p>\n
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\nNow two of them have died.
\nYou know, You think she would <\/p>\n
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\nhave given Tamar any sympathy?
\nNo chance. <\/p>\n
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\nSo Judah sends Tamar back to her
\nfather’s house. <\/p>\n
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\n00:13:18,080 –> 00:13:21,000
\nSo we read about that in Genesis
\nchapter 38 and verse 11. <\/p>\n
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\nThen said Judah, Tamar, his
\ndaughter-in-law, remain a widow <\/p>\n
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\nat thy father’s house till she
\nlet my son be grown. <\/p>\n
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\nFor he said, lest peradventure
\nhe die also as his brethren did.<\/p>\n
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\nAnd Tamar went and dwelt in his
\nfather’s house. <\/p>\n
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\nIt’s clear, the text reads, that
\nthis is this is Tamar’s fault, <\/p>\n
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\nthat the suspicion was that she
\nwas doing this. <\/p>\n
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\nHe thought it, his wife thought
\nit, the household would have <\/p>\n
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\nthought it.
\nShe’s being blamed for what’s <\/p>\n
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\ngoing on.
\nSo she’s in trouble, right? <\/p>\n
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\nShe’s in trouble.
\nShe has no husband, plus she has<\/p>\n
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\nno son.
\nAnd in those times that equaled <\/p>\n
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\nno future, do you think for a
\nmoment that Tamar’s family <\/p>\n
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\nwanted her back?
\nWhat do you think they thinking <\/p>\n
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\nwhen Tamar comes back?
\nThey, they had created this <\/p>\n
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\nmarriage thinking this marriage
\nwould be great for them. <\/p>\n
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\nThey would align to one of the
\nwealthiest and most connected <\/p>\n
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\nfamilies in the valley, right?
\nThat they were going to, they <\/p>\n
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\nwere going to be in close to
\nthat family now. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd now they’re, Tamar’s being
\nsent back to them. <\/p>\n
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\nThey, they don’t want to be
\nfinancially responsible for her,<\/p>\n
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\nright?
\nAnd she’s being blamed and they <\/p>\n
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\nknow it.
\nAnd now they’re going to be <\/p>\n
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\nblamed by implication.
\nThey don’t want her back. <\/p>\n
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\nSo now Tamar’s whole host, her
\nentire future depends on Judah <\/p>\n
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\nkeeping his word and giving
\nSheila to be her husband. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd she waited, and she waited,
\nand she waited. <\/p>\n
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\nSo when do you think that that
\ndull, aching fear and suspicion <\/p>\n
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\nbecame an inescapable reality?
\nWhen Judah would not, when he <\/p>\n
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\ncould not do what was right?
\nWhen did she realize that <\/p>\n
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\nJudah’s plan was basically to
\nleave her destitute? <\/p>\n
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\nLast class we talked about
\nresentment and how Judah had <\/p>\n
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\nbuilt a strong and bitter case
\nagainst Joseph that practically <\/p>\n
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\ndemanded that Judah get even.
\nAnd we discussed how Judah had <\/p>\n
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\nprogressed through the five
\nselves of sin, self importance, <\/p>\n
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\nself justification, self
\nrighteousness, self pity and <\/p>\n
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\nself loathing, and self
\ngratification. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd you’ll recall this diagram
\nwhere we illustrated in the <\/p>\n
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\nBalance how holding on to hurts
\nin the former resentment was <\/p>\n
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\njust the fuel that made it OK to
\nsin. <\/p>\n
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\nOK, Now considering what I’ve
\nsaid about those things, how do <\/p>\n
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\nyou think that Tamar’s Balance
\nlooked about right now? <\/p>\n
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\nIn fact, I, I I couldn’t even
\nfit all of the harms done to her<\/p>\n
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\non this little graphic.
\nSo so here we are, right? <\/p>\n
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\nShe had been forced to marry
\nher, an evil man. <\/p>\n
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\nHer husband dies, leaving her no
\nchildren. <\/p>\n
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\nShe’s dishonored by Onan.
\nShe’s blamed for her husband’s <\/p>\n
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\ndeaths.
\nShe’s forced to go back to her <\/p>\n
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\nhome where she’s very likely
\nunwelcomed by her family while <\/p>\n
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\nshe waits for a kinsman Redeemer
\nthat she is denied from <\/p>\n
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\nreceiving.
\nNo, When Judah was faced with <\/p>\n
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\nhis own hurts, he used self
\njustification to balance the <\/p>\n
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\nscale and sell Joseph into
\nslavery. <\/p>\n
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\nThat was his way of making
\nthings right in his own eyes. <\/p>\n
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\nBut we know that it wasn’t
\nright. <\/p>\n
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\nIt was evil.
\nAnd by contrast, though it’s <\/p>\n
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\nmaybe instructive to look at
\nwhat rights that Tamar had do to<\/p>\n
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\nher.
\nSo going back to Deuteronomy <\/p>\n
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\nchapter 25, let’s look at verses
\n7 through 10 now and see what <\/p>\n
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\nrights Tamar had available to
\nher, at least according to the <\/p>\n
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\nLaw of Moses.
\nAnd what it’s going to take that<\/p>\n
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\nthis was a representation of
\nmaybe some of the rights she had<\/p>\n
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\navailable to her at that time,
\neven before the Law of Moses. <\/p>\n
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\nSo Deutenonomy chapter 25,
\nverses 7:00 to 10:00. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd if the man like not to take
\nhis brother’s wife, and that <\/p>\n
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\nseems to be the situation for
\nTamar now, they didn’t Sheila or<\/p>\n
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\nJudah didn’t want to take her
\nthen then let his brother’s wife<\/p>\n
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\ngo up to the gate unto the
\nelders and say, My husband’s <\/p>\n
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\nbrother refuses to raise up unto
\nhis brother a name in Israel. <\/p>\n
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\nHe will not perform the duty of
\nmy husband’s brother. <\/p>\n
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\nThen the elders of the city
\nshall call him and speak unto <\/p>\n
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\nhim.
\nAnd if he stand to it and say, I<\/p>\n
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\nlike not to take her, then shall
\nhis brother’s wife come unto him<\/p>\n
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\nin the presence of the elders,
\nand loose his shoe from office <\/p>\n
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\nfoot, and spit in his face, and
\nshall answer and say, So shall <\/p>\n
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\nit be done unto the man that
\nwill not build up his brother’s <\/p>\n
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\nhouse.
\nAnd his name will be called in <\/p>\n
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\nIsrael the House of him that
\nhath his shoe loosed. <\/p>\n
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\nSo to summarize, the law says
\nwhen a woman is denied a kinsman<\/p>\n
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\nRedeemer, that that she would
\nspit in the man’s face, the <\/p>\n
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\ndeniers face, and say, so shall
\nbe done to the man that will not<\/p>\n
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\nbuild up his father’s house,
\nbrother’s house, and and have <\/p>\n
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\nvindication by dishonouring this
\nman publicly in front of the <\/p>\n
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\nelders.
\nNow that’s what I call getting <\/p>\n
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\neven right.
\nAnd it’s very likely that some <\/p>\n
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\ntradition like this existed in
\nTamar’s day, which is why Judah <\/p>\n
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\ngave Onan and why the
\nexpectation was that he would <\/p>\n
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\ngive Sheila even if he was
\nscared to do it. <\/p>\n
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\nSo do what?
\nIf we would just assume a <\/p>\n
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\nsimilar law was available to to
\nTamar, do you know what would be<\/p>\n
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\nthe best part about it?
\nDo what the best part about that<\/p>\n
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\nwould be for Tamar?
\nHuh. <\/p>\n
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\nResentment was legal, right?
\nHow good is that? <\/p>\n
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\nResentment was illegal.
\nIt wouldn’t have been a sin. <\/p>\n
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\nIt wouldn’t have been a sin for
\nTamar to spit in Judah’s face or<\/p>\n
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\nSheila’s face and publicly put
\nhim to shame. <\/p>\n
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\nIt was the law.
\nShe could shame him. <\/p>\n
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\nShe could vindicate her name.
\nShe could clear a path to marry <\/p>\n
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\nsomeone.
\nShe could make Judah feel as <\/p>\n
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\nashamed and as unclean as they
\nmade her feel, and she didn’t. <\/p>\n
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\nWhy not?
\nHow is it that in the face of so<\/p>\n
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\nmuch hurt, Tamar didn’t enforce
\nher legal rights and her ability<\/p>\n
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\nto get even?
\nI believe the answer is that she<\/p>\n
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\nwas loyal to her husband’s
\nfamily and further to Judah, her<\/p>\n
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\nhimself.
\nSee, Judah was now the head of <\/p>\n
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\nher house.
\nHe was her Lord. <\/p>\n
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\nShe wouldn’t shame him because
\nto shame him by implication was <\/p>\n
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\na shame herself and her family.
\nDid Judah spare thought like <\/p>\n
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\nthat when he lied to Jacob, the
\nhead of his family? <\/p>\n
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\nSo I just want us to observe for
\na moment here, just for a <\/p>\n
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\nmoment, that Judah and Tamar are
\nare poles apart. <\/p>\n
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\nThey had both been hurt.
\nThey’d both been hurt, but they <\/p>\n
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\nhave reacted to that hurt very
\ndifferently now. <\/p>\n
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\nDoes anyone know what Tamar’s
\nname means? <\/p>\n
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\nPalm palm tree, right?
\nAnd what are the palm trees <\/p>\n
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\nfamous for during in the in the
\nNear East dates? <\/p>\n
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\nYeah, right.
\nSo, so Tamar’s name is like the <\/p>\n
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\ndate palm and the date palms
\nprovide what very sweet fruit <\/p>\n
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\nunder very harsh environment.
\nAnd I don’t think that Tamar’s <\/p>\n
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\nname is an accident.
\nSo we don’t know how many years <\/p>\n
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\npassed while she, Tamar was
\nwaiting for Sheila. <\/p>\n
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\nThe whole story is compacted
\ninto about 22 years. <\/p>\n
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\nBut Judah in the meantime would
\nfind himself in a trap that he <\/p>\n
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\ncouldn’t spring.
\nHe, and even more so his wife, <\/p>\n
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\ncouldn’t risk giving their last
\nson to Tamar. <\/p>\n
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\nYet he couldn’t marry Shila to
\nanyone else because if he <\/p>\n
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\nmarried Shila to someone else,
\nthat would bring his family into<\/p>\n
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\nopen shame.
\nSo. <\/p>\n
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\nSo Tamar just waited and
\nlanguished and the unlike and <\/p>\n
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\nunwelcome environment of her
\nfamily home until two things <\/p>\n
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\nhappened, which I think caused
\nher to take decisive action. <\/p>\n
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\nAnd those two things are all
\nhope of Judah doing the right <\/p>\n
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\nthing was lost.
\nAnd secondly, the Judah’s wife <\/p>\n
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\ndied.
\nSo what Tamar’s looking for is a<\/p>\n
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\nkinsman Redeemer for a man of
\nher husband’s family to give her<\/p>\n
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\na child in place of each of her
\ndead husbands. <\/p>\n
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\nNow remember, in Tamar’s case,
\nshe needed two sons for two dead<\/p>\n
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\nhusbands.
\nIt was clear that Judah would <\/p>\n
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\nnot perform his duty knowingly.
\nIt was also clear that due to <\/p>\n
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\nher deep loyalty to her
\nhusband’s family that she <\/p>\n
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\nwouldn’t bring Judah and Sheila
\ninto open shame by appealing to <\/p>\n
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\nthe elders at the gate.
\nSo her solution is to play the <\/p>\n
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\nrole, is to trick Judah into
\nplaying the role of the kinsman <\/p>\n
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\nRedeemer and then I guess pray
\nby Judah’s God that he would do <\/p>\n
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\nthe right thing.
\nSo the record says in Genesis <\/p>\n
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\nchapter 38, verse 12, in the
\nprocess of time, the daughter of<\/p>\n
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\nShua, Judah’s wife, died and
\nJudah was comforted and went up <\/p>\n
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\nto his sheep shearers in
\nTimnath, he and his friend Hira <\/p>\n
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\nthe Adalamite.
\nSo this, I think, is not going <\/p>\n
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\nto be Judah’s first time
\nvisiting a prostitute. <\/p>\n
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\nI don’t know that for sure, but
\nif not, how would Tamar be so <\/p>\n
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\nconfident that her plan would
\nwork? <\/p>\n
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\nAnd further, Tamar would have
\nknown that Timnath is the place <\/p>\n
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\nyou go to see a cult prostitute.
\nSo Judah was going up to a sheep<\/p>\n
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\nshearers.
\nAnd if you’re shearing your <\/p>\n
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\nsheep, that’s a time where you
\nmake wool and you now you have a<\/p>\n
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\ncommodity you can sell.
\nSo it’s probably a time of money<\/p>\n
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\nand prosperity and feasting and
\nconcupiscence, I imagine in <\/p>\n
336
\n00:26:06,480 –> 00:26:10,680
\nCanaanite times.
\nAnd you asked the question, why <\/p>\n
337
\n00:26:10,680 –> 00:26:13,240
\ndid Judah seek to be comforted
\nwith prostitutes? <\/p>\n
338
\n00:26:15,480 –> 00:26:21,360
\nI suppose we can’t know for
\nsure, but my guess is that he <\/p>\n
339
\n00:26:21,360 –> 00:26:27,320
\nfelt like he needed something to
\nfill the emptiness inside, and <\/p>\n
340
\n00:26:27,320 –> 00:26:32,360
\nthat he reasoned that he was so
\nfar gone anyways, it really <\/p>\n
341
\n00:26:32,360 –> 00:26:37,640
\ndidn’t matter.
\nI’ve known brother like that. <\/p>\n
342
\n00:26:39,480 –> 00:26:43,920
\nI’m so far gone, you know, it
\ndoesn’t even matter. <\/p>\n
343
\n00:26:46,560 –> 00:26:51,320
\nAnd so seeing a prostitute was
\njust something else to ease the <\/p>\n
344
\n00:26:51,320 –> 00:26:54,880
\npain.
\nFor a moment, he found himself <\/p>\n
345
\n00:26:55,160 –> 00:26:58,960
\nin an endless loop based on the
\nlast two of the five selves of <\/p>\n
346
\n00:26:58,960 –> 00:27:04,280
\nsin, self gratification and self
\nloathing, which can cycle over <\/p>\n
347
\n00:27:04,280 –> 00:27:06,680
\nand over again.
\nYou know, you know how it is. <\/p>\n
348
\n00:27:07,200 –> 00:27:13,960
\nYou have self gratification, but
\nthat leads directly to self <\/p>\n
349
\n00:27:13,960 –> 00:27:18,080
\nloathing.
\nBut then you feel so horrible <\/p>\n
350
\n00:27:18,080 –> 00:27:22,440
\nabout yourself that you seek out
\nmore self gratification. <\/p>\n
351
\n00:27:24,600 –> 00:27:28,760
\nBut having done it again, that
\njust leads to more self <\/p>\n
352
\n00:27:28,760 –> 00:27:35,980
\nloathing.
\nBasically the medicine you’re <\/p>\n
353
\n00:27:35,980 –> 00:27:38,940
\nusing to make yourself feel
\nbetter is making you more sick, <\/p>\n
354
\n00:27:40,180 –> 00:27:42,020
\nand that requires yet more
\nmedicine. <\/p>\n
355
\n00:27:44,500 –> 00:27:47,860
\nThe cycle probably makes more
\nsense using plainer language. <\/p>\n
356
\n00:27:49,780 –> 00:27:55,760
\nYou sin, so you feel awful, so
\nyou sin, which makes you feel <\/p>\n
357
\n00:27:55,760 –> 00:28:03,920
\nawful, so you sin, and you ask
\nyourself what’s going to break <\/p>\n
358
\n00:28:03,920 –> 00:28:10,360
\nthe cycle of self?
\nNow, if, if Tamar had not been <\/p>\n
359
\n00:28:10,360 –> 00:28:13,800
\non that road, Judah would have
\nslept with some prostitute. <\/p>\n
360
\n00:28:15,280 –> 00:28:19,640
\nSo we have to see that even in
\nthis sort of situation, God was <\/p>\n
361
\n00:28:19,640 –> 00:28:22,240
\nworking.
\nThere’s simply too many <\/p>\n
362
\n00:28:23,440 –> 00:28:26,800
\ncoincidences and too many things
\nin this plan that could have <\/p>\n
363
\n00:28:26,800 –> 00:28:29,160
\ngone wrong.
\nI mean, if you want to think <\/p>\n
364
\n00:28:29,160 –> 00:28:32,920
\nabout it, brothers, sisters,
\nthis plan was an outrageous <\/p>\n
365
\n00:28:32,920 –> 00:28:36,520
\nplan.
\nThere’s, there’s just no way <\/p>\n
366
\n00:28:36,520 –> 00:28:39,120
\nthis plan was going to work.
\nI mean, think about it for a <\/p>\n
367
\n00:28:39,120 –> 00:28:44,480
\nmoment, right?
\nSo, so step one is Judah’s wife <\/p>\n
368
\n00:28:44,480 –> 00:28:49,160
\ndies and then Judah wants to see
\na prostitute. <\/p>\n
369
\n00:28:49,960 –> 00:28:54,480
\nAnd then of everyone he’s
\nattracted to Temar. <\/p>\n
370
\n00:28:56,120 –> 00:29:02,360
\nAnd then after one meeting
\ntogether, oh, of course he has <\/p>\n
371
\n00:29:02,360 –> 00:29:08,840
\nno money, right?
\nConveniently, and he’s willing <\/p>\n
372
\n00:29:08,840 –> 00:29:12,320
\nto surrender an authentic form
\nof ID. <\/p>\n
373
\n00:29:14,320 –> 00:29:16,720
\nOh, by the way, Tamer gets
\npregnant because, you know, <\/p>\n
374
\n00:29:17,360 –> 00:29:19,960
\nobviously she hadn’t gotten
\npregnant so far because I guess <\/p>\n
375
\n00:29:19,960 –> 00:29:24,200
\nit could have been her, right?
\nOh, and oh, oh, by the way, a <\/p>\n
376
\n00:29:24,200 –> 00:29:26,400
\nchild on the line of Christ is
\nborn, right? <\/p>\n
377
\n00:29:29,240 –> 00:29:31,840
\nHow many places could this plan
\nhave gone wrong? <\/p>\n
378
\n00:29:34,200 –> 00:29:37,720
\nYou ever, ever seen one of those
\n1950s? <\/p>\n
379
\n00:29:37,720 –> 00:29:40,040
\nThey used to have these, these,
\nthese rubes and it was like a <\/p>\n
380
\n00:29:40,040 –> 00:29:43,640
\nmachine that had to do a simple
\ntask in the most complicated way<\/p>\n
381
\n00:29:43,640 –> 00:29:47,240
\npossible, right?
\nAnd, and at any point it can go <\/p>\n
382
\n00:29:47,240 –> 00:29:54,920
\nwrong, but we have to recognize
\nthat God’s bigger than our sin <\/p>\n
383
\n00:29:55,760 –> 00:30:01,080
\nand can restore us and
\naccomplish his will and that, <\/p>\n
384
\n00:30:01,160 –> 00:30:03,800
\nand that God’s actually working
\nthe hardest, not when we’re <\/p>\n
385
\n00:30:03,800 –> 00:30:07,800
\nperfect, but when when we’re
\nless than perfect. <\/p>\n
386
\n00:30:09,280 –> 00:30:12,600
\nI mean, if you think that God
\ncan only work with you when <\/p>\n
387
\n00:30:12,600 –> 00:30:15,840
\nyou’re not sinning, then I got
\nnews for you. <\/p>\n
388
\n00:30:16,600 –> 00:30:19,120
\nGod’s not working with you very
\nmuch, right? <\/p>\n
389
\n00:30:19,800 –> 00:30:21,920
\nBecause you’re just not nearly
\nas good as you think you are. <\/p>\n
390
\n00:30:21,920 –> 00:30:23,560
\nNo, no, you really, you are
\ngood. <\/p>\n
391
\n00:30:24,440 –> 00:30:27,640
\nBut, but you know, God’s got to
\nwork with us when we’re less <\/p>\n
392
\n00:30:27,640 –> 00:30:29,480
\nthan perfect.
\nGod’s got to work with us when <\/p>\n
393
\n00:30:29,480 –> 00:30:31,960
\nwe make mistakes.
\nYou want God to work with you <\/p>\n
394
\n00:30:32,400 –> 00:30:38,800
\nwhen you’re making mistakes.
\nSo Tamar was not a harlot. <\/p>\n
395
\n00:30:39,680 –> 00:30:42,480
\nShe was not interested in
\nstaying around and sleeping with<\/p>\n
396
\n00:30:42,480 –> 00:30:45,480
\nthe next man for money.
\nShe was only interested in a <\/p>\n
397
\n00:30:45,480 –> 00:30:50,600
\nkinsman Redeemer.
\nBut Judah that day saw Tamar as <\/p>\n
398
\n00:30:50,600 –> 00:30:55,080
\na harlot.
\nAnd Tamar asks a pledge of <\/p>\n
399
\n00:30:55,080 –> 00:30:59,880
\nJudah, his seal, his cord, and
\nhis staff. <\/p>\n
400
\n00:31:00,880 –> 00:31:06,680
\nNow Judah would have worn a
\nauthentic seal or signet on a <\/p>\n
401
\n00:31:06,680 –> 00:31:09,800
\ncord around his neck, and that
\nwas his way of, of, of <\/p>\n
402
\n00:31:09,920 –> 00:31:13,600
\ntransacting official business.
\nIt might have had some letters <\/p>\n
403
\n00:31:13,600 –> 00:31:18,560
\non it or could have had I, I, I
\nwonder if it had a lion on it. <\/p>\n
404
\n00:31:18,560 –> 00:31:24,040
\nWhich is why his father uses a
\nlion as a symbol for him, right?<\/p>\n
405
\n00:31:26,440 –> 00:31:31,320
\nBut Needless to say, it was
\nproof of Judah’s authenticity <\/p>\n
406
\n00:31:31,480 –> 00:31:34,240
\nand his identity.
\nAnd beyond that, she asked for <\/p>\n
407
\n00:31:34,240 –> 00:31:36,600
\nhis shepherd’s staff.
\nAnd the shepherd’s staff would <\/p>\n
408
\n00:31:36,600 –> 00:31:40,520
\nhave been specifically decorated
\nfor someone like Judah who was <\/p>\n
409
\n00:31:40,520 –> 00:31:43,680
\nwealthy.
\nAnd so it would be undeniably <\/p>\n
410
\n00:31:43,680 –> 00:31:46,880
\nassociated with the owner.
\nAnd and you have to understand <\/p>\n
411
\n00:31:46,880 –> 00:31:51,560
\nthis is a lot to ask, right?
\nIt’s a lot to ask. <\/p>\n
412
\n00:31:51,560 –> 00:31:54,680
\nIt’s actually unbelievable that
\nhe agrees to give up both of <\/p>\n
413
\n00:31:54,680 –> 00:32:01,080
\nthese.
\nSo Tamar immediately puts on her<\/p>\n
414
\n00:32:01,080 –> 00:32:03,720
\nwidow’s clothes and goes back to
\nher father’s house, how they <\/p>\n
415
\n00:32:03,720 –> 00:32:08,040
\naccomplished her purpose.
\nAnd Judah sends a young goat by <\/p>\n
416
\n00:32:08,040 –> 00:32:11,840
\nhigher of the adulimite, but he
\ncan’t find Tamar. <\/p>\n
417
\n00:32:12,320 –> 00:32:17,480
\nSo notice Judah’s words then in
\nGenesis chapter 28 and 38 and <\/p>\n
418
\n00:32:17,480 –> 00:32:25,360
\nverse 23, he says, let her take
\nit to her lest we be shamed. <\/p>\n
419
\n00:32:25,680 –> 00:32:29,960
\nSo apparently walking down the
\nroad to Timnath and saying, hey,<\/p>\n
420
\n00:32:29,960 –> 00:32:32,920
\nwhere’s the prostitute is pretty
\nshameful, right? <\/p>\n
421
\n00:32:35,480 –> 00:32:39,640
\nIt’s interesting, right, that it
\nseems like Bill is full of <\/p>\n
422
\n00:32:39,640 –> 00:32:43,600
\nresentment.
\nLike the last thing we want to <\/p>\n
423
\n00:32:43,600 –> 00:32:46,920
\nbe ashamed.
\nLike we’re really, we’re trying <\/p>\n
424
\n00:32:46,920 –> 00:32:50,640
\nto avoid shame and
\nembarrassment. <\/p>\n
425
\n00:32:52,080 –> 00:32:57,280
\nBut the thing that we seem to
\nneed more than anything is is to<\/p>\n
426
\n00:32:57,280 –> 00:33:01,160
\nface that shame and to see the
\ntruth. <\/p>\n
427
\n00:33:04,480 –> 00:33:08,920
\nSo three months later, the
\nrecord says, Tamar cannot hide <\/p>\n
428
\n00:33:09,440 –> 00:33:14,280
\nher pregnancy, and she’s had
\nthree months to think about <\/p>\n
429
\n00:33:15,200 –> 00:33:20,080
\nJudah’s inevitable reaction.
\nNow, she knew the response would<\/p>\n
430
\n00:33:20,080 –> 00:33:25,720
\nbe strong because she would have
\nknown Judah and Tamar’s family, <\/p>\n
431
\n00:33:25,760 –> 00:33:29,000
\nalready upset, I think, by the
\nfact that she had gone back to <\/p>\n
432
\n00:33:29,000 –> 00:33:34,120
\nlive with them.
\nYou know, they wouldn’t be <\/p>\n
433
\n00:33:34,480 –> 00:33:43,320
\nprotecting her.
\nThey’d feel disgraced by her <\/p>\n
434
\n00:33:43,320 –> 00:33:49,880
\npregnancy apart from marriage.
\nSo, and they appear to be ready <\/p>\n
435
\n00:33:49,880 –> 00:33:53,120
\nto, to burn Tamar on Judah’s
\nword. <\/p>\n
436
\n00:33:54,240 –> 00:33:59,160
\nSo by contrast, when Judah got
\nthis news, he would have been <\/p>\n
437
\n00:33:59,160 –> 00:34:03,880
\nthrilled, right?
\nBecause he finally had a way <\/p>\n
438
\n00:34:03,880 –> 00:34:05,880
\nout.
\nHe had a way to get rid of <\/p>\n
439
\n00:34:05,880 –> 00:34:09,760
\nTamar, marry off his son, and
\nnot lose face to him. <\/p>\n
440
\n00:34:10,040 –> 00:34:12,400
\nHe would he would have been he
\nwould have been absolutely <\/p>\n
441
\n00:34:12,400 –> 00:34:16,880
\nthrilled to get this news.
\nHe probably had trouble <\/p>\n
442
\n00:34:16,880 –> 00:34:20,639
\ncontrolling his joy.
\nIt was a blessed anybody thought<\/p>\n
443
\n00:34:20,679 –> 00:34:26,400
\nfinally God’s blessing me right.
\nFinally, finally I get a break. <\/p>\n
444
\n00:34:27,840 –> 00:34:29,600
\nOf course he was going to order
\nher to die. <\/p>\n
445
\n00:34:30,840 –> 00:34:33,239
\nYou know how long till he was
\nmaking plans about who he was <\/p>\n
446
\n00:34:33,239 –> 00:34:35,520
\ngoing to marry Sheila off to,
\nright? <\/p>\n
447
\n00:34:40,000 –> 00:34:45,440
\nSo Tamar correctly anticipates
\nJudah’s likely reaction. <\/p>\n
448
\n00:34:47,760 –> 00:34:52,639
\nAnd her next action, perhaps
\nmore than any other, reveals the<\/p>\n
449
\n00:34:52,639 –> 00:34:59,440
\nheart of this woman.
\nBefore she died, she insisted <\/p>\n
450
\n00:34:59,440 –> 00:35:05,400
\nthat word was brought to Judah
\nand she hands over the seal, the<\/p>\n
451
\n00:35:05,400 –> 00:35:10,720
\ncourt and the staff with this
\nmessage found in Genesis chapter<\/p>\n
452
\n00:35:10,720 –> 00:35:18,560
\n38 and verse 25.
\nWe read there by the man who <\/p>\n
453
\n00:35:18,560 –> 00:35:27,280
\nthese are am I with child?
\nAnd she said, discern, I pray <\/p>\n
454
\n00:35:27,280 –> 00:35:33,080
\nthee, who these are the signet,
\nthe bracelet and the staff. <\/p>\n
455
\n00:35:37,240 –> 00:35:38,760
\nSo let’s think about this for a
\nmoment. <\/p>\n
456
\n00:35:38,760 –> 00:35:41,720
\nBrothers and sisters, you’re
\nready to kind of kind of <\/p>\n
457
\n00:35:41,720 –> 00:35:49,080
\nconsider some of these facts.
\nTamar is about to die by <\/p>\n
458
\n00:35:49,080 –> 00:35:54,160
\nburning.
\nShe has an unborn child or <\/p>\n
459
\n00:35:54,160 –> 00:35:58,120
\nactually children depending on
\nher. <\/p>\n
460
\n00:36:00,400 –> 00:36:07,040
\nShe is pregnant by Judah.
\nHe is the one visiting harlots, <\/p>\n
461
\n00:36:09,040 –> 00:36:12,960
\nnot her.
\nShe is only in this position <\/p>\n
462
\n00:36:13,480 –> 00:36:16,240
\nbecause Judah has not provided
\nher a kinsman Redeemer. <\/p>\n
463
\n00:36:17,720 –> 00:36:24,400
\nOK, now what would you do?
\nWouldn’t you scream? <\/p>\n
464
\n00:36:25,800 –> 00:36:29,520
\nWouldn’t you tell everyone
\naround you that Judah was the <\/p>\n
465
\n00:36:29,520 –> 00:36:32,080
\nFather?
\nWouldn’t you do it to save your <\/p>\n
466
\n00:36:32,080 –> 00:36:34,560
\nlife?
\nWhat’d you do to save the life <\/p>\n
467
\n00:36:34,560 –> 00:36:39,680
\nof your child?
\nYet Tamar sends the messenger <\/p>\n
468
\n00:36:41,440 –> 00:36:47,040
\nwho asks, Discern, I pray thee,
\nwho these are. <\/p>\n
469
\n00:36:48,800 –> 00:36:57,120
\nWhat do you see it?
\nDo you see it around the <\/p>\n
470
\n00:36:57,120 –> 00:37:02,400
\nsisters?
\nShe would not shame Judah. <\/p>\n
471
\n00:37:04,600 –> 00:37:08,320
\nShe would not put the head of
\nher house to open shame. <\/p>\n
472
\n00:37:13,620 –> 00:37:17,380
\nUpon receiving this message,
\nJudo would be face to face with <\/p>\n
473
\n00:37:17,380 –> 00:37:21,540
\na reality.
\nTamar was a woman who was taken.<\/p>\n
474
\n00:37:23,020 –> 00:37:27,300
\nTaken from her family, forced to
\nmarry a wicked man, dishonored <\/p>\n
475
\n00:37:27,300 –> 00:37:31,580
\nby another husband, accused of
\ncausing death that she did not <\/p>\n
476
\n00:37:31,580 –> 00:37:36,320
\n’cause forsaken and forgotten by
\nthe one who had the legal duty <\/p>\n
477
\n00:37:36,320 –> 00:37:39,800
\nto help her.
\nLeft to a family who very likely<\/p>\n
478
\n00:37:39,800 –> 00:37:44,760
\ndidn’t want her back, who had
\nnot taken her legal right to <\/p>\n
479
\n00:37:44,760 –> 00:37:50,040
\nshame him and spit in his face,
\nwho Heed is ordered to death for<\/p>\n
480
\n00:37:50,040 –> 00:37:53,600
\nthe indiscretion of carrying his
\nchild. <\/p>\n
481
\n00:37:58,840 –> 00:38:02,680
\nUpon receiving back his cord,
\nhis seal, and his staff, and <\/p>\n
482
\n00:38:02,680 –> 00:38:11,160
\nfaced with the discretion of
\nTamar’s question, Judah found <\/p>\n
483
\n00:38:11,160 –> 00:38:16,000
\nhimself face to face with
\nsomething he could not <\/p>\n
484
\n00:38:16,000 –> 00:38:23,680
\ncomprehend, something that he
\ncould not fit on his balance of <\/p>\n
485
\n00:38:23,680 –> 00:38:38,840
\nhurt and sin.
\nIt was Grace comprehending this <\/p>\n
486
\n00:38:40,200 –> 00:38:44,680
\nwords escaped Judas lips that
\nwould change him forever. <\/p>\n
487
\n00:38:50,350 –> 00:38:54,670
\nShe hath been more righteous
\nthan I. <\/p>\n
488
\n00:38:57,150 –> 00:38:59,310
\nIn other words, you ready for
\nthis? <\/p>\n
489
\n00:39:01,910 –> 00:39:14,640
\nI am wrong.
\nTamar had just obliterated the <\/p>\n
490
\n00:39:14,640 –> 00:39:24,200
\nbalance of childlike thinking.
\nShe had acted with grace. <\/p>\n
491
\n00:39:29,040 –> 00:39:40,560
\nIt’s funny, we spend so much of
\nour lives looking for and <\/p>\n
492
\n00:39:40,560 –> 00:39:46,960
\nfinding false atonement in the
\nwrongs of others. <\/p>\n
493
\n00:39:50,200 –> 00:39:55,680
\nWe reasoned that the hurts done
\nto us provide some sort of <\/p>\n
494
\n00:39:55,680 –> 00:40:02,800
\ncovering for our sin and knowing
\nthis about us. <\/p>\n
495
\n00:40:04,080 –> 00:40:07,600
\nGod chose to provide us,
\nbrothers and sisters, a <\/p>\n
496
\n00:40:07,600 –> 00:40:12,520
\ndifferent type of atonement, a
\nbetter covering, not based on <\/p>\n
497
\n00:40:12,520 –> 00:40:16,400
\nsin.
\nGod’s atonement isn’t based on <\/p>\n
498
\n00:40:16,400 –> 00:40:19,720
\nsin.
\nGod’s atonement is based on <\/p>\n
499
\n00:40:19,720 –> 00:40:22,480
\nrighteousness.
\nAnd he calls that system of <\/p>\n
500
\n00:40:22,480 –> 00:40:26,840
\natonement grace.
\nAnd it’s fundamental premise of <\/p>\n
501
\n00:40:26,840 –> 00:40:31,360
\ngrace is that you don’t deserve
\nit. <\/p>\n
502
\n00:40:33,480 –> 00:40:37,560
\nIt is not even.
\nIt is not fair. <\/p>\n
503
\n00:40:40,440 –> 00:40:47,720
\nIt is not fair, is it?
\nIt is not even, is it? <\/p>\n
504
\n00:40:50,280 –> 00:40:56,320
\nIt is a gift.
\nAnd on that basis, by design, it<\/p>\n
505
\n00:40:56,320 –> 00:41:01,960
\nwill never, ever, ever conform
\nto the balance of childlike <\/p>\n
506
\n00:41:01,960 –> 00:41:07,240
\nreasoning.
\nInstead, as we grow to <\/p>\n
507
\n00:41:07,240 –> 00:41:13,320
\nunderstand the enormity of it,
\nit should displace that balance.<\/p>\n
508
\n00:41:14,560 –> 00:41:19,680
\nIt should displace fleshly
\nthinking with spiritual <\/p>\n
509
\n00:41:19,680 –> 00:41:27,240
\nthinking.
\nWhat are brothers and sisters? <\/p>\n
510
\n00:41:28,880 –> 00:41:32,320
\nWhat are the five selves of sin?
\nSelf importance, self <\/p>\n
511
\n00:41:32,320 –> 00:41:35,320
\njustification, self
\nrighteousness, self pity, self <\/p>\n
512
\n00:41:35,320 –> 00:41:39,680
\ngratification.
\nThe object of each one of those <\/p>\n
513
\n00:41:39,680 –> 00:41:46,440
\nis really just the same.
\nIt’s to protect ourselves. <\/p>\n
514
\n00:41:50,440 –> 00:41:52,600
\nAnd Tamar had just protected
\nJudah. <\/p>\n
515
\n00:41:56,840 –> 00:42:03,840
\nAnd maybe now, just now, Judah
\nrealize that’s spending the last<\/p>\n
516
\n00:42:03,840 –> 00:42:11,760
\n39 years since Joseph’s birth
\nprotecting himself had been the <\/p>\n
517
\n00:42:11,760 –> 00:42:13,880
\nthing that had gotten him in so
\nmuch trouble. <\/p>\n
518
\n00:42:19,660 –> 00:42:22,340
\nHave you ever done something
\nthat you thought to yourself <\/p>\n
519
\n00:42:23,180 –> 00:42:27,220
\nthat if I could get caught,
\nthat’d be the worst thing that <\/p>\n
520
\n00:42:27,220 –> 00:42:31,540
\ncould happen?
\nWhen in reality, when you look <\/p>\n
521
\n00:42:31,540 –> 00:42:36,200
\nback, getting caught was the
\nbest thing that happened? <\/p>\n
522
\n00:42:40,360 –> 00:42:48,720
\nI have, you know, via this
\nconfession, she is more <\/p>\n
523
\n00:42:48,720 –> 00:42:53,120
\nrighteous than I.
\nJudah’s own sin was now open to <\/p>\n
524
\n00:42:53,120 –> 00:42:59,800
\npublic scrutiny.
\nIt is this openness and honesty,<\/p>\n
525
\n00:43:00,680 –> 00:43:07,040
\nin contrast to denial and brain
\nblame that helps bring about the<\/p>\n
526
\n00:43:07,040 –> 00:43:12,680
\ncrucial change in attitude.
\nBut that change of attitude, <\/p>\n
527
\n00:43:12,680 –> 00:43:15,080
\nthat humility, You know, if the
\nproblem starts with self <\/p>\n
528
\n00:43:15,080 –> 00:43:18,440
\nimportance, guess what?
\nThe answer begins with humility.<\/p>\n
529
\n00:43:23,240 –> 00:43:25,320
\nSo says James in James chapter
\n4. <\/p>\n
530
\n00:43:27,320 –> 00:43:30,360
\nHumble yourself.
\nDraw near. <\/p>\n
531
\n00:43:32,280 –> 00:43:35,400
\nBut but this change of attitude
\nis only useful insofar as <\/p>\n
532
\n00:43:35,400 –> 00:43:37,880
\nsomething else important
\nhappens. <\/p>\n
533
\n00:43:38,120 –> 00:43:42,320
\nAnd that’s making things right.
\nNow look back to this balance of<\/p>\n
534
\n00:43:43,720 –> 00:43:46,840
\nchildlike reasoning.
\nNow imagine for a moment, <\/p>\n
535
\n00:43:46,840 –> 00:43:50,480
\nbrothers, sisters, just imagine
\nthat you said, you know what? <\/p>\n
536
\n00:43:50,600 –> 00:43:54,160
\nHolding on to those hurts.
\nThat’s a bad idea I should <\/p>\n
537
\n00:43:54,160 –> 00:43:57,360
\nreally forgive.
\nAnd you think to yourself, <\/p>\n
538
\n00:43:57,360 –> 00:44:00,000
\nthat’s what I’m going to do, I’m
\ngoing to forgive. <\/p>\n
539
\n00:44:00,000 –> 00:44:02,200
\nSo what I’m going to do is I’m
\ngoing to forgive all my hurts. <\/p>\n
540
\n00:44:02,200 –> 00:44:11,440
\nI’m just going to move on.
\nBut for most of us, that’s <\/p>\n
541
\n00:44:11,440 –> 00:44:17,320
\nnearly impossible to do.
\nAnd Judah’s story gives us a <\/p>\n
542
\n00:44:17,320 –> 00:44:19,880
\nhint to why.
\nSee, the problem with forgiving <\/p>\n
543
\n00:44:19,880 –> 00:44:25,120
\nothers their hurts, is that
\nwhat’s left to balance out the <\/p>\n
544
\n00:44:25,120 –> 00:44:29,680
\nsins that you still haven’t
\nrepented of. <\/p>\n
545
\n00:44:31,920 –> 00:44:36,640
\nI wonder if even subconsciously
\nwe have trouble forgiving <\/p>\n
546
\n00:44:37,200 –> 00:44:42,360
\nbecause we need we need these to
\ncover this. <\/p>\n
547
\n00:44:45,200 –> 00:44:49,080
\nHow can you forgive the hurts
\nwhen you need the hurts? <\/p>\n
548
\n00:44:51,880 –> 00:44:56,080
\nBecause there’s a sin you
\nhaven’t repented of, but it’s OK<\/p>\n
549
\n00:44:56,200 –> 00:45:04,880
\nbecause you’ve been hurt and so
\nyou need that hurt, so you nurse<\/p>\n
550
\n00:45:04,880 –> 00:45:12,200
\nit and you cherish it and you
\nlove it and you know that you <\/p>\n
551
\n00:45:12,200 –> 00:45:16,200
\ncan forgive but you can’t.
\nWhy? <\/p>\n
552
\n00:45:19,200 –> 00:45:28,080
\nBecause you got this.
\nAnd you’ve been atoning for this<\/p>\n
553
\n00:45:28,400 –> 00:45:41,480
\nfor years with the wrong thing.
\nFortunately, now to the set of <\/p>\n
554
\n00:45:41,480 –> 00:45:45,040
\ncircumstances he was under
\nJudah’s pride was sufficiently <\/p>\n
555
\n00:45:45,040 –> 00:45:47,960
\ndeflated for Judah to start
\nputting things right. <\/p>\n
556
\n00:45:48,280 –> 00:45:50,240
\nWhat are some of the things he
\nstarted to put right? <\/p>\n
557
\n00:45:53,120 –> 00:45:55,760
\nWell, before we start about
\nthat, you know the solution for <\/p>\n
558
\n00:45:55,760 –> 00:45:58,360
\nresentment.
\nI wrote this down because I <\/p>\n
559
\n00:45:58,360 –> 00:45:59,920
\ndidn’t want to forget how to say
\nit. <\/p>\n
560
\n00:46:00,640 –> 00:46:07,200
\nThe solution for resentment is
\noften not found firstly in <\/p>\n
561
\n00:46:07,200 –> 00:46:14,720
\nforgiveness.
\nIt’s found first in putting <\/p>\n
562
\n00:46:14,720 –> 00:46:19,760
\nright the sins.
\nWe have justified using <\/p>\n
563
\n00:46:19,760 –> 00:46:26,640
\nresentment, typically in
\nresponse to God’s love and <\/p>\n
564
\n00:46:26,640 –> 00:46:30,400
\ngrace.
\nOnce we do that, forgiveness is <\/p>\n
565
\n00:46:30,400 –> 00:46:36,680
\noften the natural result.
\nSo Judah had to seem some things<\/p>\n
566
\n00:46:36,680 –> 00:46:42,320
\nhe had to put right.
\nFor example, he had to protect <\/p>\n
567
\n00:46:42,320 –> 00:46:46,600
\nTamar for any further harm he
\nhad. <\/p>\n
568
\n00:46:46,680 –> 00:46:50,600
\nHe had to openly acknowledge the
\nsecrets that Tamar had chosen to<\/p>\n
569
\n00:46:50,600 –> 00:46:55,760
\nreveal discreetly.
\nHe had to join back with the <\/p>\n
570
\n00:46:55,760 –> 00:47:03,680
\necclesia, and he had to agree to
\nknow Tamar no more and think <\/p>\n
571
\n00:47:03,680 –> 00:47:09,480
\nabout how amazing God is,
\nbecause she needed two sons for <\/p>\n
572
\n00:47:09,480 –> 00:47:13,280
\ntwo dead husbands, and so God
\ngave her twins. <\/p>\n
573
\n00:47:18,480 –> 00:47:24,960
\nSo what does the balance look
\nlike when we make right, as best<\/p>\n
574
\n00:47:24,960 –> 00:47:31,600
\nas we’re able, our sins?
\nWe’re out of balance this time. <\/p>\n
575
\n00:47:32,240 –> 00:47:34,920
\nBut in this instance, we don’t
\nfall into self pity. <\/p>\n
576
\n00:47:36,160 –> 00:47:40,320
\nNow we take the courageous step
\nto forgive our hurts. <\/p>\n
577
\n00:47:43,680 –> 00:47:49,680
\nAnd why do we forgive?
\nWe forgive because we no longer <\/p>\n
578
\n00:47:49,680 –> 00:47:55,840
\nneed hurt and blame to justify
\nor rationalize our sinful <\/p>\n
579
\n00:47:55,840 –> 00:48:07,240
\nresponse.
\nSo what’s the process that Judah<\/p>\n
580
\n00:48:07,240 –> 00:48:09,280
\nappears to go down thanks to
\nTamar? <\/p>\n
581
\n00:48:09,960 –> 00:48:14,320
\nWell, I think the first thing
\nthat happens to Judah is that he<\/p>\n
582
\n00:48:14,320 –> 00:48:20,600
\nreceives grace.
\nThe second thing happens is he <\/p>\n
583
\n00:48:20,600 –> 00:48:26,880
\nmakes a confession.
\nThe third thing that happens is <\/p>\n
584
\n00:48:26,880 –> 00:48:30,960
\nhe makes amends for his
\nmistakes. <\/p>\n
585
\n00:48:31,640 –> 00:48:36,160
\nTamar was now welcome
\npermanently in his household. <\/p>\n
586
\n00:48:37,320 –> 00:48:40,120
\nShe would no longer be the
\nsubject of any shame. <\/p>\n
587
\n00:48:41,400 –> 00:48:44,960
\nShe would no longer have any
\nquestion of her security. <\/p>\n
588
\n00:48:48,880 –> 00:48:57,800
\nThen he forgives the hurt, and
\nthen he begins to live <\/p>\n
589
\n00:48:57,800 –> 00:49:06,240
\nunselfishly.
\nI think this is how it works <\/p>\n
590
\n00:49:06,240 –> 00:49:09,360
\nwith us, brothers and sisters.
\nYou see, we are first the <\/p>\n
591
\n00:49:09,360 –> 00:49:16,320
\nrecipient of grace and then
\ntouched by the enormity of that <\/p>\n
592
\n00:49:19,560 –> 00:49:23,240
\nof our forgiven sin, then we
\nforgive others that. <\/p>\n
593
\n00:49:23,240 –> 00:49:34,920
\nThat’s the order.
\nEphesians 4 verse 32 says be <\/p>\n
594
\n00:49:34,920 –> 00:49:41,520
\nkind one to another, tender
\nhearted, forgiving one another, <\/p>\n
595
\n00:49:42,440 –> 00:49:47,640
\neven as God for Christ’s sake
\nhas forgiven you. <\/p>\n
596
\n00:49:49,440 –> 00:49:55,280
\nThat’s the order.
\nSo how long, brother and <\/p>\n
597
\n00:49:55,280 –> 00:50:00,320
\nsisters, until Judah moves back
\nhome and leaves Canaanite life? <\/p>\n
598
\n00:50:01,520 –> 00:50:04,000
\nGiven our time frames, I don’t
\nthink long at all. <\/p>\n
599
\n00:50:04,000 –> 00:50:06,840
\nI actually think Tamar comes
\ninto his home. <\/p>\n
600
\n00:50:07,200 –> 00:50:11,320
\nHe packs up from a Dome.
\nHe says see you later to to hire<\/p>\n
601
\n00:50:12,280 –> 00:50:17,080
\nA and he goes straight back
\nbecause, you know, there was a <\/p>\n
602
\n00:50:17,080 –> 00:50:22,560
\nfamine in the land and he heard
\nthat his father and his brothers<\/p>\n
603
\n00:50:22,560 –> 00:50:26,680
\nweren’t doing very well.
\nHow could he face them again? <\/p>\n
604
\n00:50:30,240 –> 00:50:33,000
\nSee, there’s still one sin that
\nJudah couldn’t make right, <\/p>\n
605
\n00:50:33,280 –> 00:50:37,160
\nWasn’t there?
\nThe one that had caused him the <\/p>\n
606
\n00:50:37,160 –> 00:50:41,400
\nmost pain for the last 22 years,
\nThe one that he thought he was <\/p>\n
607
\n00:50:41,400 –> 00:50:47,600
\npowerless to do anything about,
\nand the one that God would now <\/p>\n
608
\n00:50:47,600 –> 00:50:51,680
\nbegin the process of intervening
\nto make him whole.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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